skylinezero Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Hey there, any advice is appreciated and I thank you in advance for any responses. My girl and I broke up about 4 months ago, both doing the single thing and what not. We were together since we were 17, were 24 now so that was about 7 yrs. We broke up on mutual terms, she wanted space and whatever and i said fine go ahead blah blah. Anywho.. Recently, we got to talking again (I did that whole no contact thing for awhile) and after all that, were actually together again. Turns out in this 4 month period, she actually had a fling with someone. Also, she did not sleep with this person, but they did quite a bit (oral sex is the farthest). In that time, I did not date at all ( I chose not to) and i focused on work and hockey (i play for a local team). So my question is, how do I get over something like that? we were both virgins when we met each other, and now i know what she did. Now i know ur single u can do whatever but just hurts like hell (i know it shouldnt) so any advice? I can't stop thinking about it either, its always in my mind. Like, i feel anger and betrayal but i know i shouldnt feel that way. Just the thought of her doing crap with another guy tears me apart and i know i need to get over to have any relationship again, i've outbursted already which wasnt a good idea, but i was forgiven for that. But still i mean, tears me apart!! One minute i wanna friggin cry, next minute i wanna just make some phone calls and have em both hanging lifeless by a tree!ARRRRRRGGG!!! Oh btw am a new member heh
s_n_d Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Hey there, any advice is appreciated and I thank you in advance for any responses. My girl and I broke up about 4 months ago, both doing the single thing and what not. We were together since we were 17, were 24 now so that was about 7 yrs. We broke up on mutual terms, she wanted space and whatever and i said fine go ahead blah blah. Anywho.. Recently, we got to talking again (I did that whole no contact thing for awhile) and after all that, were actually together again. Turns out in this 4 month period, she actually had a fling with someone. Also, she did not sleep with this person, but they did quite a bit (oral sex is the farthest). In that time, I did not date at all ( I chose not to) and i focused on work and hockey (i play for a local team). So my question is, how do I get over something like that? we were both virgins when we met each other, and now i know what she did. Now i know ur single u can do whatever but just hurts like hell (i know it shouldnt) so any advice? I can't stop thinking about it either, its always in my mind. Like, i feel anger and betrayal but i know i shouldnt feel that way. Just the thought of her doing crap with another guy tears me apart and i know i need to get over to have any relationship again, i've outbursted already which wasnt a good idea, but i was forgiven for that. But still i mean, tears me apart!! One minute i wanna friggin cry, next minute i wanna just make some phone calls and have em both hanging lifeless by a tree!ARRRRRRGGG!!! Oh btw am a new member heh What did she tell you about this fling of hers? Did she tell you anything about him??
s_n_d Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Im guessing hes the one who initiated it. Ive been in that situation... A few DAYS actually after my ex and I broke up, one of my so-called friends made a move on me and well I didnt stop it at first because well I missed my ex like HELL..Ofcourse I knew it was wrong so I got my head straight and stopped him before anything happened. This probably happened with her... Its possible that she did miss you too much so she did what she did. I say talk to her about it and tell her that its bothering you.
Author skylinezero Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 What did she tell you about this fling of hers? Did she tell you anything about him?? Thanks for the reply S_N_D She did tell me some stuff about him, like how sometimes were similar to each other (like attitude wise, what we say and how we think about certain things) though were still different. She did tell me she missed me alot, and I guess this guy acted like me so i guess thats why she liked him. Although what you say makes sense about what she did, i still can't believe it even happened though, even if this guy is like me in some ways. Its something i will have to get over its just hard because i never thought that it would turn out like that, but i guess thats life.
s_n_d Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Yeah but she loves you and she DOESNT love him right? Dont let it get to you so much. Yes, it IS hard but if you two want to move on, this has to be let go off. I know it would kill me if i found out that my ex did...stuff.. with another girl in the last two months. I dont even want to think about it.
Author skylinezero Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 Yeah but she loves you and she DOESNT love him right? Dont let it get to you so much. Yes, it IS hard but if you two want to move on, this has to be let go off. I know it would kill me if i found out that my ex did...stuff.. with another girl in the last two months. I dont even want to think about it. See, its not the best feeling. Yeah its obvious she loves me and not him, but sometimes i feel like, if you love me, how could u do that nonsense rite? maybe am making it a bigger deal than it is, i guess am just too angry/hurt i guess.
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