loveinlife Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 What does it mean when they say i need time to think about getting back with you? Also says im seriously considering it. Ex gf knows that i want her back, yet she says she wants time about a month to see if she wants to get back with me. why is it so hard for her to make up her mind? i don't like these waiting games. She says she has to study for her RN license and that she is still bitter that i chose another girl over her during the time when we were apart, while she wanted me back. We went out for two years, broke up by her decision with mutual contact for another 2 years. I didn't choose the ex bc i was already in a commited relationship a few months ago. She wants a months time to figure it out and to let me know bc school is on her mind. What do you guys/girls think? On Sunday, i went to eat with her mom, aunts, and grandma. after new years she's been avoiding me.. we used to talk everyday a few times. is it bc she needs time?
Nemo Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 What does it mean when they say i need time to think about getting back with you? Also says im seriously considering it. Ex gf knows that i want her back, yet she says she wants time about a month to see if she wants to get back with me. She's keeping you on the backburner. She'll see if she can get a better offer in the meantime, but if nothing turns up for a while she will pull you back in for some temporary comfort. Until something better (by her perception) comes along.
brothermartin Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 She's keeping you on the backburner. She'll see if she can get a better offer in the meantime, but if nothing turns up for a while she will pull you back in for some temporary comfort. Until something better (by her perception) comes along. Not necessarily. She may have been just avoiding going through her feelings about the break-up and has been suppressing the emotions because she didn't want to feel the pain. Sometimes, people will put off thinking, feeling, even remembering the event of a break-up in an effort to bypass all the emotional trauma that comes with it, just to get by. Give her time and don't sweat her. Remember, this isn't a contest to see who out dose who, so be sure you really want her back.
CaliGuy Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 What does it mean when they say i need time to think about getting back with you? Also says im seriously considering it. Ex gf knows that i want her back, yet she says she wants time about a month to see if she wants to get back with me. why is it so hard for her to make up her mind? i don't like these waiting games. She says she has to study for her RN license and that she is still bitter that i chose another girl over her during the time when we were apart, while she wanted me back. We went out for two years, broke up by her decision with mutual contact for another 2 years. I didn't choose the ex bc i was already in a commited relationship a few months ago. She wants a months time to figure it out and to let me know bc school is on her mind. What do you guys/girls think? On Sunday, i went to eat with her mom, aunts, and grandma. after new years she's been avoiding me.. we used to talk everyday a few times. is it bc she needs time? It means that she doesn't really think you're the one and she wants as much time as possible to see if someone better comes along. Do you want to be second best in someone's life? I thought not.
Nemo Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Give her time and don't sweat her. It's a waiting game. Don't be the first to blink.
brothermartin Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 It's a waiting game. Don't be the first to blink. Even if it is, he's been sucked into now. The best thing he can do is play it cool and not come off looking desperate. You want her back. You've made that clear to her and you can't take that back now. But you should be willing to walk away from her if you think she may be trying to play you. Keep that part to yourself.
italianchica Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 From what you wrote, I would take her at face value. Yes, she's definitely bitter. Why? Because she may be having a hard time letting go of the fact that she felt rejected by you in the past and perhaps a little bit of jealousy since she really wanted to get back with you and she felt you choose another woman. Hence, the classic broken heart and now she's protecting it. Does that mean you've been placed on the infamous back burner? Yes, in my honest opinion, I would think so. If you really want to get back with her then perhaps you should spark a talk with her about things so she could get some clarity on her mixed emotions. It may or may not help but it's definitely better than just waiting around for something magical to happen.
Author loveinlife Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 Even if it is, he's been sucked into now. The best thing he can do is play it cool and not come off looking desperate. You want her back. You've made that clear to her and you can't take that back now. But you should be willing to walk away from her if you think she may be trying to play you. Keep that part to yourself. Yeah im into her alright, feeling the sensation on my part for the grief of not having her around.. I like your response Nemo, definitely sticking to my original idea of going back with her. Mean time i need to sort out my feelings bc this waiting thing is hurting me. Tonight she is going to Vegas with nine of her girl friends whom i know and one of them used to like me but i put her aside and now is speaking badly of me to my ex of how i used to hang out with so many girls. From what you wrote, I would take her at face value. Yes, she's definitely bitter. Why? Because she may be having a hard time letting go of the fact that she felt rejected by you in the past and perhaps a little bit of jealousy since she really wanted to get back with you and she felt you choose another woman. Hence, the classic broken heart and now she's protecting it. Does that mean you've been placed on the infamous back burner? Yes, in my honest opinion, I would think so. If you really want to get back with her then perhaps you should spark a talk with her about things so she could get some clarity on her mixed emotions. It may or may not help but it's definitely better than just waiting around for something magical to happen. Yeah i see your point. We spoke on Monday trying to sort out any differences we have. So far is 90% parallel on how we want to pursue our future together if we do go back. But since she is wanting some time until she finishes her test for RN, i think i should wait and not pressure her. Thanks for the rest of the responses. =)
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