Author DJ Dancer Posted January 5, 2008 Author Share Posted January 5, 2008 I wish I had those answers for you, DJ. *huggie* Those answers can only be answered by him. But sometimes men just say that to soften the blow of a breakup... Thanks for the hug! so are you saying he softened the blow on his behalf?? When I broke it off I suggested us remaining friends and he was like what can be friends..I wanted to show him I had not hard feelings against him by being a friend and talking to him every now and then..So you thin he is hurt and upset with me because I broke up with him?? Link to post Share on other sites
s_n_d Posted January 5, 2008 Share Posted January 5, 2008 I think anyone would be hurt when they are dumped. But everyone gets over that initial hate they feel for the dumper... I think maybe he just said you could be friends because he didnt want to say no to you when you suggested it? Im really not sure. My ex dumped me but HE suggested that we stay friends. Ofcourse i wanted to stay friends with him so i told him we would. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 5, 2008 Author Share Posted January 5, 2008 I think anyone would be hurt when they are dumped. But everyone gets over that initial hate they feel for the dumper... I think maybe he just said you could be friends because he didnt want to say no to you when you suggested it? Im really not sure. My ex dumped me but HE suggested that we stay friends. Ofcourse i wanted to stay friends with him so i told him we would. Yeah I can understand that he was hurt by me dumping him and I feel guilty about doing it because I wanted to be with him so BAD and I didn't want to break up with him but I had no choice, my weight went down drastically, I was failing a class at school, I looked a mess and didn't want to do anything because i was wondering what the heck was going on in my relationship... Link to post Share on other sites
s_n_d Posted January 5, 2008 Share Posted January 5, 2008 well then you dont need any of that in your future. He obviously isnt the man for you. A good man sees when his gf is going through pain or anything else and helps her through it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 5, 2008 Author Share Posted January 5, 2008 well then you dont need any of that in your future. He obviously isnt the man for you. A good man sees when his gf is going through pain or anything else and helps her through it. Your right about that! Because the night before he left I asked him where we stood because I wasn't feeling right about the relationship when before he was like the distance was the problem then we broke up and a few days later we got back together but i think he just said he wanted to be with me just so he can have sex with me before he leaves and i gave in and did it because I thought he was serious he said he was but I wasn't too sure about "us" so I asked where we stood and he didn't say anything and I thought he would atleast re-assure me that everything was okay with us... Link to post Share on other sites
s_n_d Posted January 6, 2008 Share Posted January 6, 2008 Hes a jerk... Link to post Share on other sites
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 6, 2008 Author Share Posted January 6, 2008 Hes a jerk... Exactly! I know he is a JERK but I feel like I'm the bad person because I broke up with him..but I had my reasons why I did break it off even though I didn't want to but why kind of boyfriend treats his girlfriend like that that he wants to be with and cares for?? Thats why I said I feel guilty like Im the one who lost something good(him) when he wasn't treating me with respect or considering my feelings..Thats another reason why I didn't tell him he wasnt being my boyfriend when we broke up because I never got a reponse on when I woudl ask him things about us and speaking on what I was FEELING... Link to post Share on other sites
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