watchconcierge Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Thanks guys for all the help! I'm just gonna block his page on myspace because I have other friends I talk to on myspace.... Today I'm feeling a little better from yesterday..I was a complete mess yesterday! I really have to control my thinking too..I'm overanalyzing a lot of things he said and done and then I start to feel guilty thinking that I should take the entire wrap for the relationship including his part in hurting my feelings..I felt like I should take the blame and I know I shouldn't think like that, because I didn't do anything but your mind will make you think some crazy things! And I really need to quit worrying! You can't just block his page on myspace. If you "block user" then it only prevents you from receiving messages from him. You have to block all of myspace. I tried to go in and block my ex's URL, but myspace has redundant servers that work via ip address, so that doesn't work, either. The only other option is to just be strong and not go there. Good luck. I know it's a struggle.
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 Here is the link to the complete story so you all can have a better insight on my situation...http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t139265/
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 You can't just block his page on myspace. If you "block user" then it only prevents you from receiving messages from him. You have to block all of myspace. I tried to go in and block my ex's URL, but myspace has redundant servers that work via ip address, so that doesn't work, either. The only other option is to just be strong and not go there. Good luck. I know it's a struggle. Oh wow I didn't know that...What about deleting his entire page from my myspace friends???
watchconcierge Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Oh wow I didn't know that...What about deleting his entire page from my myspace friends??? You can delete him as a friend and if his page is private you will still be able to see when he changes his main picture. My ex likes to change her pic every couple of days to a new partying pic -- and that makes me mad. And you will be able to see his mood and status. My ex likes aggravate me with her mood and status... Things like "Can't wait to party tonight" for status. And mood "Adventurous." And she changes that all the time. Makes me think she's gonna go out and meet new guys, so I blocked it out. In 6 hours, it will be 5 days since I talked to her and since I looked at her myspace page. And it gets easier and easier. Good luck and hang in there.
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 You can delete him as a friend and if his page is private you will still be able to see when he changes his main picture. My ex likes to change her pic every couple of days to a new partying pic -- and that makes me mad. And you will be able to see his mood and status. My ex likes aggravate me with her mood and status... Things like "Can't wait to party tonight" for status. And mood "Adventurous." And she changes that all the time. Makes me think she's gonna go out and meet new guys, so I blocked it out. In 6 hours, it will be 5 days since I talked to her and since I looked at her myspace page. And it gets easier and easier. Good luck and hang in there. Like right now I'm tempted to go look at his page BUT I'm not! his page isn't private..its public..
watchconcierge Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Here is the link to the complete story so you all can have a better insight on my situation...http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t139265/ Sorry to hear of your situation. I'm in CO, too.
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 Sorry to hear of your situation. I'm in CO, too. Really what part?? What do you think of my situation?? Did I do the right thing? From a guys point of view would help a lot..
watchconcierge Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Like right now I'm tempted to go look at his page BUT I'm not! his page isn't private..its public.. It won't do you any good to look at his myspace page. So don't do it!!! Don't give in to the temptation. It just causes additional pain. Every minute you don't go there, the pain gets better. If you go to his page, you will revert to a much higher level of pain. At some point, the pain is low enough to be at a point in which you just won't care. And you can't get to that point quickly enough if you keep hurting yourself by looking at his page. Best wishes.
watchconcierge Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Really what part?? What do you think of my situation?? Did I do the right thing? From a guys point of view would help a lot.. I'm in Lakewood crashing on my mom's couch. Moved down here from FoCo. I lived there for a year and a half after living in the Denver metro area most of my adult life. My ex's family is from FoCo and she grew up there and really wanted to move back, so we went... and then her social life REALLY picked up and that ended up resulting in me leaving her. You can see my post in the divorce forum on the first page. It's pretty crazy. I think you are doing the right thing. And just stay strong. There will be plenty of other opportunities.
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 Thank you! This is the toughest thing but I know I can do it!
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 I'm in Lakewood crashing on my mom's couch. Moved down here from FoCo. I lived there for a year and a half after living in the Denver metro area most of my adult life. My ex's family is from FoCo and she grew up there and really wanted to move back, so we went... and then her social life REALLY picked up and that ended up resulting in me leaving her. You can see my post in the divorce forum on the first page. It's pretty crazy. I think you are doing the right thing. And just stay strong. There will be plenty of other opportunities. Wow..I live in Colorado Springs...But thank you a lot!
watchconcierge Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Wow..I live in Colorado Springs...But thank you a lot! Here's the link to my crazy story... You should read it. It will give you some entertainment: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t140345/
s_n_d Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Like right now I'm tempted to go look at his page BUT I'm not! his page isn't private..its public.. I know if i go on my exs facebook page, Im going to find something to make myself depressed..Like Pictures of us together or Pictures his friends have put up of him texting me...
watchconcierge Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 I know if i go on my exs facebook page, Im going to find something to make myself depressed..Like Pictures of us together or Pictures his friends have put up of him texting me... Yeah... It's not good... I also think it's good to think about past break ups you've had and how you got through them. Also... Remember how your ex talked to you about his/her previous ex. They're now doing the same thing or they will be doing the same thing about you with the new guy/girl. You will move on with your life. This will get better! And others like me are going through it at the same time and with you.
watchconcierge Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Oh btw... I have a frappr map on my myspace page, so I can see the city/town people are in when they go to my myspace page. If they register on the map on my myspace page, I can see their name each time they go to my myspace page. Although I'm staying away from myspace, I check my map, and my ex keeps on going to my myspace page. lol
s_n_d Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Yeah... It's not good... I also think it's good to think about past break ups you've had and how you got through them. Also... Remember how your ex talked to you about his/her previous ex. They're now doing the same thing or they will be doing the same thing about you with the new guy/girl. You will move on with your life. This will get better! And others like me are going through it at the same time and with you. Thats true.
watchconcierge Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Oh and one more thing... I have over 2000 friends on myspace... and my ex removed me as her friend a little after we broke up and set her page to private. So I have set mine to private a few times. It's currently not private since yesterday. But it was private. And she was still showing up on my frappr map... because it runs on a different system that identifies your computer differently. So if you visit my page without signing in on myspace or from a different user account, it will still show the name you used when you signed up on frappr. And even when my page was private, she was still showing up... That tells me that she signed up a fake account so she could check my page. lol... I approve everybody because I have fans and I want everybody to be able to be my myspace friend. And now I can see that she's stalking a little bit. haha.
sedgwick Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Anyone who looked at my myspace page would think I was the happiest girl in the world. There are pics of me bellydancing with a huge smile on my face that were taken just a few weeks after we broke up. Was I crying before and after those pics were taken? Yes, uncontrollably. But I am able to get up onstage and dance and look happy because I have to. There are pics of me frolicking about on the beach in Mexico, laughing. There are updates on my book and how well it's going. There are comments from my friends telling me they love me and had fun hanging out with me at whatever show or event. And I am, in fact, miserable and heartbroken. But am I going to let him see that? Am I going to make that public on my myspace page? Of course not. I want him to think I'm doing just swell, and anyone looking at my page would think that. It's not true.
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 I read your situation it was very interesting!
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 Yeah... It's not good... I also think it's good to think about past break ups you've had and how you got through them. Also... Remember how your ex talked to you about his/her previous ex. They're now doing the same thing or they will be doing the same thing about you with the new guy/girl. You will move on with your life. This will get better! And others like me are going through it at the same time and with you. I've thought about that..the only thing he said about his ex was that she turned into a slut...That makes me wonder now what could he say about me... I've thought about past break ups and I don't know how I managed to make it through but I did...But looking at this break up it doesn't even seem possible to get through!
watchconcierge Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Anyone who looked at my myspace page would think I was the happiest girl in the world. There are pics of me bellydancing with a huge smile on my face that were taken just a few weeks after we broke up. Was I crying before and after those pics were taken? Yes, uncontrollably. But I am able to get up onstage and dance and look happy because I have to. There are pics of me frolicking about on the beach in Mexico, laughing. There are updates on my book and how well it's going. There are comments from my friends telling me they love me and had fun hanging out with me at whatever show or event. And I am, in fact, miserable and heartbroken. But am I going to let him see that? Am I going to make that public on my myspace page? Of course not. I want him to think I'm doing just swell, and anyone looking at my page would think that. It's not true. Exactly!! Put on a strong show. Then you don't appear weak.
watchconcierge Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 I've thought about that..the only thing he said about his ex was that she turned into a slut...That makes me wonder now what could he say about me... I've thought about past break ups and I don't know how I managed to make it through but I did...But looking at this break up it doesn't even seem possible to get through! You'll get through it! People get through this all the time. 50% of marriages end up in divorce. And how many people who have gotten married have been through previous breakups prior to finding one to marry? Pretty much everyone!!!! Take it in stride.
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 At times I feel guilty for breaking up with him because I told him he was right about the long distance and which he was, but I didn't tell him that I was breaking up with him because he wasn't being a boyfriend to me even though before we broke up I mentioned that to him when I asked did he even want to be with me anymore and he said he wasn;t sure because I was so far away...Should I feel guilty about not telling him that part as well if though I mentioned it to him...I didn't say it to him because I thought he would be upset and not want to be friends with me, but as of now he isn't even being a friend like he said...
s_n_d Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 At times I feel guilty for breaking up with him because I told him he was right about the long distance and which he was, but I didn't tell him that I was breaking up with him because he wasn't being a boyfriend to me even though before we broke up I mentioned that to him when I asked did he even want to be with me anymore and he said he wasn;t sure because I was so far away...Should I feel guilty about not telling him that part as well if though I mentioned it to him...I didn't say it to him because I thought he would be upset and not want to be friends with me, but as of now he isn't even being a friend like he said... After my ex and I broke up, we told eachother EVERYTHING we didnt like about eachother. It was hard to hear for the both of us but we now know and respect eachother more because we told eachother rather than sparing eachothers feelings.
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 yeah I see what you saying, but I know that won't happen between he and I he won't even speak to me for whatever reason..I know he knows what he was doing when he wasn't being my boyfriend..I would have felt so much better if he would have just told me that he didn't want a relationship anymore once he left instead of leading me on making me believe he wanted to be with me when he knew he didn't...It's too late to even say anything and I know he wouldn't even care about what I'm feeling..
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