Pitbull4 Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 (edited) I made two threads on accident.. Edited January 3, 2008 by Pitbull4 made an extra
Ronni_W Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 He meets every one of my needs....emotional, physical, spirtual.. except...NOT financial!! Two things come to mind: 1. It seems that, if you do choose to love instead of leave him, then your reality is that you are the one who is more responsible for that "stable financial future" that you want. That is, if you really, truly decide to "stick by him" then this is just something you have to accept and not let it be a cause for future concern or resentment. Of course, this may need you to review and update any beliefs about the man HAVING to be the breadwinner -- is it valid? -- is it meaningful to you? -- does it make your life easier or more difficult, to maintain the belief? etc. 2. What is the potential for self-employment? Yes, he may need to upgrade a few skills and take business/marketing courses but there is usually a solution no matter how grave the situation at first appears. That he cannot hold down the jobs he does get, to me, is a different matter -- what can be done there, to make him feel more competent and engaged at work?
Author Pitbull4 Posted January 3, 2008 Author Posted January 3, 2008 Thanks, Ronni.... Well the situation we are living in currently, with my parents, is really bringing him down. My mother has severe mental problems and is such a pain...he is very depressed right now. I would love to get him out of this funk. Also, he is very down on himself and I don't think he feels he has much potential. I just want to make him feel good about himself.
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