undaunted Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 Hi, I am new here. It's a long story, but let's put it in a huge nutshell. I got to know this girl via this online website. Since November, we've exchanged email only a few times and that's it. No flirting..no sexual or romantic innuendo, whatsoever... One thing I did was telling her that I would like to show her around the town that she just moved in. She used lived in the southern part of the province that my town belongs to, but 2 weeks ago, she just moved up to my town (probably within an hour away via transportation) which is not so bad in case we met up. I sincerely would like to enrich her new life in a totally new place by take her touring. Anyways... I emailed her on Christmas Eve, wishing her a merry X mas, but was not received anything back at all. I was bummed. But it was understandable because a day before Christmas Eve, she told me that she was head off to this winter teaching camp. (She is a teacher and this camp thingy is very intensive.) Above all, she had no obligation to write me back.. we barely know each other So, on New Year's day, I sent her another email, saying that I hope that year 2008 and her life in the new town will pan out. And, today I got her email, saying that "my camp thing is extremely busy, but you can text me some time. my number is xxxxxxxxxxx. happy new year to you too I was very glad to be given her number though I did not asked for it. But then again, it got me thinking that she just gave her number to me because emailing me is just irritating due to her busy schedule. What do you think? I know that we barely know each other and have been exchanging email only a few times.. but I am kinda afraid and at a loss to be honest.. Do you think I shoule text her back immediately albeit knowing she is busy? Or should I wait a day or two before making any moves? Can I even call?
SeraBella Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 i think she gave you her number because she wants to talk to you and email is hard. if she found emails annoying and wasn't interested, i doubt she would have given you her number. i'd NEVER give my number to someone who i wasn't interested in. text her just a brief message...like just a hello this is so and so, and see how quick she responds, etc. in a few days, give her a call. if she's interested she would appreciate a call. ALSO, if you find you are having conversations via texting, like LONG conversations, and she's not working at the time, PICK UP THE PHONE AND CALL. There's nothing more annoying than just texting back and forth for hours when you both aren't doing anything else and could just be talking.
Green Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 just txt something like "Hi this is blankety blank lets do that tour, what are you up to now" then just txt a time and place to meet you. then be man try to kiss her if you end up being attracted after u meet.
Jordane Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 That's a GOOD sign!! I would NEVER give my number to somone who I didn't want to call me...especially if they were e-mailing me and that was getting annoying. Why would she give you another way to irritate her? I wouldn't text asking her when you will see her as that puts her on the spot and you might not get the answer you want. You should however text her in a day or so to say, "hey how are you, you crossed my mind." Let us know how it goes!!!
Author undaunted Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 hey, there, people who have left constructive criticism on my thread. I am really glad that your interpretation is indicative of positive elements in her giving me digits. I gave myself some thoughts as to what I would or should do about this situation. And I have decided to follow what you have suggested; deliberate a bit and make a move It seems obvious that she is preoccupied with her work. Thus, it is not the best thing to intervene her from time to time by calling her.. not catching her on the phone, making her feel uncomfortable or whatnot. Cool and succint text would do the trick. I, however, was also given a second opinion from someone else; do not text, but simply call her, but fully prepared to carry the conversation without awkward moments I don't know...I'd rather just send her a simple text msg and see how it goes from there. FYI, I am 28 and had been playing in the field. She is 29. I swore to myself that I would never play a game with girls...but here I am.. I have not been a relationship for awhile (because the latest one was a big time break up for me..), not to mention getting laid (LOL), So I would like not to have any expectiotions.. or hope so that I won't be let down in case things won't pan out.. Sigh
Dynamo Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 txt her today dude... u dont have to wait... Agreed. Since she's working, just send her a text message now.. It's discreet and doesn't take up a lot of her time, but lets her know your interested in talking with her some more. Do it!
Green Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Agreed. Since she's working, just send her a text message now.. It's discreet and doesn't take up a lot of her time, but lets her know your interested in talking with her some more. Do it! yeah I mean the hole reason she gave u the # was to get things moving... you had like 6 day lag times with your emails
EYECANDY000 Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 I would text her and ask when is a good time to text her! since her scedule is so busy. But if she is giving you her number she is interested in knowing more about you
Jilly Bean Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Text her! She wouldn't have asked you to if she didn't want you to.
Lucasarts Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 hey, there, people who have left constructive criticism on my thread. I am really glad that your interpretation is indicative of positive elements in her giving me digits. I gave myself some thoughts as to what I would or should do about this situation. And I have decided to follow what you have suggested; deliberate a bit and make a move It seems obvious that she is preoccupied with her work. Thus, it is not the best thing to intervene her from time to time by calling her.. not catching her on the phone, making her feel uncomfortable or whatnot. Cool and succint text would do the trick. I, however, was also given a second opinion from someone else; do not text, but simply call her, but fully prepared to carry the conversation without awkward moments I don't know...I'd rather just send her a simple text msg and see how it goes from there. FYI, I am 28 and had been playing in the field. She is 29. I swore to myself that I would never play a game with girls...but here I am.. I have not been a relationship for awhile (because the latest one was a big time break up for me..), not to mention getting laid (LOL), So I would like not to have any expectiotions.. or hope so that I won't be let down in case things won't pan out.. Sigh ok so go with your friend and with everyone in this thread by doing this: Text her first, that is what she wanted you to do, plus she is busy so OBVIOUSLY she wouldnt have time for a long engaging phone conversation But when you do text her, ask her how things are and if she has any time to actually talk on the phone (as texts are limited convo pieces, keep it short and simple) I always say for for a phone conversation because the power and allure of someones voice is always more fulfilling than a text... oh and keep the phone convo short, ask her how the camp thing has been going, if she likes it and how her holidays went...then ask when a good time to meet up would be. After that just say that you will keep in touch via texts (pending on how long she is at this camp thing for, if its only for a couple more days, dont bother...but if its a week, just send a her a text sometime in the middle of it and ask her how shes been and if shes still on for the date)
Green Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 I say women love the power and alure of a message on their phone... you can take time to compose it just the way you want... ur voice can crack or sound nervouse... let her ask for a phone convo... you might be able to meet up with her just through txts... that would be best the face2face
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