asilisa Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 So my ex broke it off with me at the end of October (I'm 23 he is 27). We had pretty much no contact up until Thanksgiving and then we would talk thru text messaging(he always made contact). We have also hung out about once a week since Thanksgiving with an exception of a week because I told him I didn't want to talk to him anymore(but then he told me he got me a Christmas present). We were together for four years and thru out those 4 years we broke up a few times but our break ups never lasted more than 2 weeks. Anyway last night I went to hang out with him and he said he wanted to talk about something and it wasn't anything bad. So later that night he asks me what I've been thinking since our break up and I tell him all of my thoughts. He tells me he thought I would have a lot more to say since I had 2 months to think about it. I guess I'm not really good at putting my thoughts into words because I truly did learn a lot from our break up and I love him more than anything. He said he wants to get back together but he is scared that we'll just break up again and he'll be a big jerk yet again. In the past he has told me about somethings that I do that bother him and I promised him that I would change it but I never did. After this break up I really did work on myself and not because I thought we would get back together but because I wanted to be a better person. This is a really long story and I don't want to make it really long because I never read the long stories. I'm just not sure what to do anymore. He says he wants to be with me and that he loves me but he is scared to be with me and doesn't know what to do. I know he isn't seeing anyone else and he swears that he isn't interested in seeing anyone else and I believe him because he has always went from one women to the next. I told him that he is taking a chance no matter what and he started to cry. I have been with him for four years and have never seen him cry. I just don't know what to do anymore. He said everyone he talks to tells him that we should get back together because we love eachother. He says he doesn't expect me to wait around forever...but I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any insight? I'm sorry if the post is confusing i'm confused! Thanks everyone. -Lisa
ElvenPriestess Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 The issues between you that brought you apart have the potential to break you up once more. I think that's what he's afraid of. It's a vicious cycle and you guys aren't sure what to do. Have you seen a therapist together? Perhaps some couple's counseling to help sort through the things that keep you two from having a longer lasting healthier relationship?
child_of_isis Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 I think it may be something in the air. I swear, I am hearing this same story everywhere, albeit a minor diff here and there. It even mirrors my own sitch somewhat. I dunno what to tell you except breathe deeply, move slowly. Be careful of any anger. Space is the key word. For both of you. Keep the lines of communication open. Continue focusing on your life. Allow him to focus on his. I think astrological wise, these R's will either make or break themselves in the next two weeks. Don't make any rash moves.
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