snyper101 Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 well me and ex were only together for about 6 month or so but we have been good friends for a long time... she used to come to me when she is having problems with her ex bf... relationship started pretty well, but once she let her ex back in her life, it all went to hell... cheated on me once but stilled wanted to be with me.. so i let that one slide but one day out of no where she said she can't be with me anymore because she thinks she is treating me unfairly.. now i dont know what she wants but she calls me everynight and gets really mad if i hangout with any girsl... i dont know why i put up with her crap but i cna't help it.. i am still in love with her.. she said she is uncomfortable seeing me because she might do something she is going to regret... but she is 100% comfortable hanging out with the ex bf and i am supposed to be ok with it and not get mad at her... i dont really know what i should do with her... on new years eve she called me and said that she loves me still.. what do i do? thanks for the help...
GangstaGrillz Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 Yo, I'd just leave her alone. It's easy to see that she don't know what she wants. She keeps playing childish mind games with you.
Author snyper101 Posted January 3, 2008 Author Posted January 3, 2008 i tried when we first broke up.. but some how i got myself in this situation.. wtf...
ElvenPriestess Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 You two are over right? She broke up with you right? Well then now she needs to respect her own choice. She needs to back off, give herself time to recover. It sounds like she is trying to control things even though you aren't together. You can hang out with whoever you want, girl, guy, monkey, horse, whatever. You are single! And she seems to have this "I don't want you but nobody else gets to have you" bit going on. She cheated on you, she's obviously still around this ex. She has some issues she needs to work on. Don't let her mess with your head anymore. Live your own life. Tell her to back off.
upsetnhurt Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 This will become a never ending cycle between you and she if you let it. Unfortunately, with her still having some feelings for the ex (enough to want to still see him and talk with him), you will never get the respect and love that you need from her. She will be hot and cold all the time and let me tell you that the only person that will get hurt by it is YOU! Stand up for yourself and realize that you are giving up the opportunity to be emotionally available to someone else by having anything to do with her. This has nothing to do with you not liking her as a person, just let her know that she needs to get a handle on her issues and that will take sometime. (months, if not years) Don't wait around as it can be heartwrenching...........
Author snyper101 Posted January 3, 2008 Author Posted January 3, 2008 thanks for all the replies.. she said she is just now friends with her ex and uncomfortable being around me because she might do something she will regret.. does that mean she still have feelings for me and dont want to act on it or is she just ****ign with me head?
SeraBella Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 She is confused and I don't think deliberately trying to f*** with your head, but she is definitely doing so. She doesn't know WHAT she wants. She is probably trying to make a go with her ex. We all know that just because someone says they are just friends, doesn't me they are. And she's keeping you around because she wants to be able to go to you every time she needs a boost in her own ego. You are her fallback. She assumes you'll be around as long as she asks. You need to move on with your life and tell her that unless she is going to show you respect, she needs to stop contacting you. And the whole "something she'll regret" line...that's one of those lines people use to make themselves sound better...like "it's not you, it's me" or "I love you but I'm not IN love with you." It's a load of bull.
ElvenPriestess Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 She's confused, and as said before doesn't know what she wants, and you are the victim of those circumstances. It sounds like a cop out answer anyway. Even if she doesn't realize it she is messing with your head. Don't let her. The longer you stick with this messed up circle the more hurt and confused you will be.
GangstaGrillz Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 thanks for all the replies.. she said she is just now friends with her ex and uncomfortable being around me because she might do something she will regret.. does that mean she still have feelings for me and dont want to act on it or is she just ****ign with me head? Yeah, she most definitely still have feelings for you, if she says she may do something that she will regret, which may indicate sex.
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