MadMissKelly Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 (edited) Okay, so i had sex with this guy on new years, got his number, he mentioned having sex again several times. He does not have my number, but Im pretty damn sure hed be willing to do it again. The rest of the night at the party(where it happened) he was physical, flirty and nice to me. He kept saying how he can do it much better than he did, and how he can go for 5 hours. He literally said "Im sorry, I just want to let you know that I am soooo much better than that" I was torturing myself on whether or not to call him, but because it was just sex and Im not planning on being in a serious relationship with the guy, I figured it wasnt a big deal. He said he was at work but would call me later and leave me a message or something. That was around 4. He works construction so he can only work the daylight hours. Its 10:30 now, so Im beginning to wonder. A part of me thinks that he doesnt intend on calling me back, and it was a one night stand, yet another part of me thinks that he really is just busy, went out after work, or got caught up and just kinda forgot to call me. I mean, its not like im a potential gf or something, im just a possible friends with benefits, or booty call I guess, which Im totally fine with. I mean, he doesnt have my number, he just probably has me on his received calls list from when I called him. What Im wondering, is if I should just forget about it. Or should i wait like a week, and call him up and be casual and see whats going on, and talk to him as a friend.....and if he wants to take the initiativeto take it further he can? Lol, Im probably gonna get a virtual smack in the face for this quesiton. I met him through another friend so its not like I have no chance of ever seeing him again. Edited January 3, 2008 by MadMissKelly needed more details
jumping-jacks Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 Did you leave a voicemail? I don't usually answer numbers I don't know and it can be days before I check my voicemail. Give it a while. If you are just wanting to hookup then he may not call you until the situation arises.
Author MadMissKelly Posted January 3, 2008 Author Posted January 3, 2008 I actually spoke directly to him, and he told me hed call me back.
jumping-jacks Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 I actually spoke directly to him, and he told me hed call me back. Sorry, I guess I skimmed your post. I'm not understanding why this makes you upset. Unless you wanted to hook up tonight or something. Your expectations for his reaction sound more like you want him to be gf interested in you. It doesn't seem strange he might not call you back immediately in the scenario you described.
Jilly Bean Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 MMK - for a guy you say you only want to screw again and keep as a potential FWB, you seem to be carrying on and caring a bit too much about his returning a call. If he is interested in sex again, you'll get a call about 2AM some night. And if not, do you really need to be begging a guy to have sex with you? From the sounds of it, he did a lot of apologizing, and it sounds like he wasn't that great anyhow - lol.
Author MadMissKelly Posted January 3, 2008 Author Posted January 3, 2008 (edited) MMK - for a guy you say you only want to screw again and keep as a potential FWB, you seem to be carrying on and caring a bit too much about his returning a call. If he is interested in sex again, you'll get a call about 2AM some night. And if not, do you really need to be begging a guy to have sex with you? From the sounds of it, he did a lot of apologizing, and it sounds like he wasn't that great anyhow - lol. Thats what does suck, is that Im not super upset or anything(lol, Im just an anxious person who worries about EVERYTHING), and hes not the bf type for me at all. Im just a horndog and never get laid, hahaha. As a matter of fact he is the first dude Ive been with in over a year....and that includes kissing and such. Its just nice to have a little something every now and then. Its just, if this turns out to be a one night stand....it will be my first one.....and thats weird for me. but thanks in advance for your guys's input. Edited January 3, 2008 by MadMissKelly needed more detail
Author MadMissKelly Posted January 3, 2008 Author Posted January 3, 2008 Thats very true, and you know what, if this guy isnt willing to continue having sex with me, I would be more than happy to be his friend, cuz hes a sweet guy really. Im not a fan of one night stands, its hard to describe, but I like friends with benefits more than one night stands. I mean, I would love a relationship(not with this guy but in general). I guess cuz at least Im getting somethings out of the fwb. At least im getting a lot out of it, rather than just one night, but who knows, this all will pass. Its only january 2nd! I have the entire year to get laid, or find a relationship...lol. this is me
TotalChaos Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 My gosh girl, you are beautiful. I can't see where you would have any problems getting laid if that's all you want. I do believe that guys are a bit leary of women who are too anxious, so I would be careful in how you handle this. Give it time. If he doesn't call you back, then oh well his loss. Go mingle some more and I'm sure you won't have any problems. I still find it very odd that he was apologizing so much. Sounds to me like he might have some major insecurity issues and if that's the case you can do better.
jumping-jacks Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 It's good to hear a girl with a positive attitude about sex. Lately I seem to be running into some weird ones. I don't understand this, its healthy and normal.
Green Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 ur pretty, and you shouldnt be denied male attention. The reasons she wants to avoid screwing a diff guy every time she wants to get laid is obviously diseases and feeling like a slut. this guy is kind of a dick, but who knows could turn around... I think your more looking for a relationship (not necisarily seriouse) instead of a FWB.
Author MadMissKelly Posted January 3, 2008 Author Posted January 3, 2008 ur pretty, and you shouldnt be denied male attention. The reasons she wants to avoid screwing a diff guy every time she wants to get laid is obviously diseases and feeling like a slut. this guy is kind of a dick, but who knows could turn around... I think your more looking for a relationship (not necisarily seriouse) instead of a FWB. I agree. Even when it comes to choosing a FWB person, I choose carefully. i want to make sure I dont regret it, so I do so by picking guys that are funny and such, but that arent compatable as far as a relationship goes. I mean, if all I wanted was casual sex, I could probably go out to any guy I find attractive, ask them to have sex with me, and probably get it, but Im not like that. Its hard to describe why I like fwb. Its like, you have someone there every time you want some, and its dependable. When you just have casual sex, you have no idea when the next escapade is gonna take place, and that kinda worries me. I mean, the last time I went a year without even a kiss, let alone sex.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 Im confused at the beginning of the paragraph u stated that you spoke with him and he said he would call you back. Then towads the end of the paragrah you stated that he doesn't have you number to call back its in his received call list or something to that extent. If you want to continue the fwb relationship then wait and see if he calls , if he has your number.. its only been a few hrs
Author MadMissKelly Posted January 3, 2008 Author Posted January 3, 2008 Im confused at the beginning of the paragraph u stated that you spoke with him and he said he would call you back. Then towads the end of the paragrah you stated that he doesn't have you number to call back its in his received call list or something to that extent. If you want to continue the fwb relationship then wait and see if he calls , if he has your number.. its only been a few hrs By that I mean that I called him(he had obviously given me his number). He never asked for mine, so the only way he can call me back is by going to the "Recieved Calls" on his phone. Im not actually in his contact list.
shockandawed Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 By that I mean that I called him(he had obviously given me his number). He never asked for mine, so the only way he can call me back is by going to the "Recieved Calls" on his phone. Im not actually in his contact list. After seeing your picture, if you aren't in his contact list already, he is gay!
Jilly Bean Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 I'm just curious as to why you would post your pic like that on the forum. Yes, I do have a pic as my avatar, but it's not like you can see me, nor would you recognize me on the street from it. It's just wise to protect your identity on the internet, particularly when you are going to post intimate details of your personal life...
phoensam Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 I'm just curious as to why you would post your pic like that on the forum. Yes, I do have a pic as my avatar, but it's not like you can see me, nor would you recognize me on the street from it. It's just wise to protect your identity on the internet, particularly when you are going to post intimate details of your personal life... You are kidding yourself Jilly Bean...you have posted your pic in a way that everyone can see you and identify you and it's really in everyone's face. It's not exactly a fuzzy picture...if you are concerned about protecting your identity, you really should change it!!! I suspect you are also giving part of your real name away in your avatar name...hard to believe you are really worried about protecting your own identity!!
Green Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 I'm just curious as to why you would post your pic like that on the forum. Yes, I do have a pic as my avatar, but it's not like you can see me, nor would you recognize me on the street from it. It's just wise to protect your identity on the internet, particularly when you are going to post intimate details of your personal life... I could recognize you, and half the people on this site post their pictures up. This thread will die out in a few more days and I doubt any one will recognize her and even if they do its not like shes going to know. I doubt some sycho will be like hey I know that girl and track her down. (thats not me in my avatar by the way)
Green Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 You are kidding yourself Jilly Bean...you have posted your pic in a way that everyone can see you and identify you and it's really in everyone's face. It's not exactly a fuzzy picture...if you are concerned about protecting your identity, you really should change it!!! I suspect you are also giving part of your real name away in your avatar name...hard to believe you are really worried about protecting your own identity!! yes agreed! Jilly Beans probably her aim name and email on her business cards to
phoensam Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 I'm just curious as to why you would post your pic like that on the forum. Yes, I do have a pic as my avatar, but it's not like you can see me, nor would you recognize me on the street from it. It's just wise to protect your identity on the internet, particularly when you are going to post intimate details of your personal life... If I'm' not mistaken Jilly Bean, you got yourself in trouble with the moderators last week for basically calling another very pretty woman ugly after she posted her pic.
Green Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 hahah shes a hater is she... I actualy like jilly bean she gives a good vibe
Author MadMissKelly Posted January 3, 2008 Author Posted January 3, 2008 I highly doubt people will be able to track me down, I mean, I dont have my location anywhere on here, so really, I could be anywhere. I doubt people are going to approach me and sayd "hey! Youre that one girl......."
Jilly Bean Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 If I'm' not mistaken Jilly Bean, you got yourself in trouble with the moderators last week for basically calling another very pretty woman ugly after she posted her pic. ? Wrong chick, darlin. I've never once taken a shot at anyone's attractiveness level. Unless you mean when I told Shadowplay that she was very pretty when she posted her pic. And when did I call this poster unattractive? You need to watch yourself, though, I think you have a problem following along sometimes... Well, I guess luckily for me that my avatar is not my pic, and Jilly is not my real name. Neither do I live in the Southwest. But sure, if you think you see me, please stop and say hello... KMT? I'm a hater? Huh? My only point to her is that she posted her pic, which a link to her photobucket account, and she has told some very revealing items. I just think it's important to protect yourself, is all.
phoensam Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 ? Wrong chick, darlin. I've never once taken a shot at anyone's attractiveness level. Unless you mean when I told Shadowplay that she was very pretty when she posted her pic. And when did I call this poster unattractive? You need to watch yourself, though, I think you have a problem following along sometimes... Well, I guess luckily for me that my avatar is not my pic, and Jilly is not my real name. Neither do I live in the Southwest. But sure, if you think you see me, please stop and say hello... KMT? I'm a hater? Huh? My only point to her is that she posted her pic, which a link to her photobucket account, and she has told some very revealing items. I just think it's important to protect yourself, is all. If it's not your pic, then your earlier post about it makes no sense. Whatever. Anyhow, I should be nicer to you I suppose. I was just reading your threads and notice that you were used for a one night stand by a pro football player. That's gotta hurt. Sorry.
Jilly Bean Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 If it's not your pic, then your earlier post about it makes no sense. Whatever. Anyhow, I should be nicer to you I suppose. I was just reading your threads and notice that you were used for a one night stand by a pro football player. That's gotta hurt. Sorry. ? Once again - you failed to read the posting, because that is not what happened at all. LMAO!!!! Too funny. Is English not your first language?
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