blazinj06 Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 Me and my ex broke up a few months back. This was my first real relationship and my first for everything. We were each others first for many things. Well things didn't work out and we went out seperate way (long story). Something I have noticed about friends and family members is that almost all of them are not with their first love. They have all had their "first love" relationship in the past and now are with a different person. What I am trying to say is how many people do you know who are still with their first love? How long have they been together? Have they been together since high school?
norajane Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 I don't know anyone that married their first love and still with them.
Trialbyfire Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 I've seen people get back with their first loves, years later, which is so sweet. As for remaining with your first love, I'm not certain that's a wise idea because you miss out on an opportunity to date others, for real comparison.
Jilly Bean Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 My parents met when my Mom was 18 and Dad was 21. They are still married (almost 50 years). I also had a boss who married his HS sweetheart. YES, it can happen. FWIW, I am no longer with my first real love, but damn, don't I kick myself all the time for letting that guy go...
iamsoveryconfused Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 why do you need to date others for real comparison? If you love someone shouldn't that be enough? Shouldn't you be happy if the person you are with makes you laugh and you have fun together? It doesn't matter if that takes 1 or 100 people I think once you find that person you shouldn't leave them just to get more "comparison". Why would you want to?
Green Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 why do you need to date others for real comparison? If you love someone shouldn't that be enough? Shouldn't you be happy if the person you are with makes you laugh and you have fun together? It doesn't matter if that takes 1 or 100 people I think once you find that person you shouldn't leave them just to get more "comparison". Why would you want to? OP didn't even say it was the first person they dated. Said it was their first love. And I'd say First loves can definetly work out, although I'm sure it would take some pressure of you if we all said that rarely works...
Lizzie60 Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 Yes I know some couples that have been together since they were teens.. My parents, they married at 19 and 16. A guy I worked with, highschool sweethearts.. they've been together for over 25 years I think... He's 44, she's about his age. It's rare these days though.. most of them end up in divorce. We see more older couples that have been together all their life... wasn't easy to divorce back then for women.. they had to endure their *********.
Jilly Bean Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 It's rare these days though.. most of them end up in divorce. We see more older couples that have been together all their life... wasn't easy to divorce back then for women.. they had to endure their *********. That's really it. Back then, divorce was not done, so people did honor their vows a lot more than now. I dunno - I think the key to a lasting marriage is pure luck.
Author blazinj06 Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 Thanks for the replies. This has just been a question I have been wondering after looking at all my friends and family. Just wanted more people views on the topic. I agree that it is rare in todays time to stay married to your first love. Many of them marry right out of high school but rarely stay together over a couple of years. At least thats how it seems in my area.
Author blazinj06 Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 Anyone else add to this? I would like to have more peoples opinions and experiences. Thanks.
White Flower Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 I think it also depends on age. I don't know yours, but experts now say you shouldn't marry until you're around 30. By then you really know who you are and who you are compatible with. Check out this link to why people divorce. It can help you with your sitch, too;) http://coaches.aol.com/love-and-sex/wendy-jaffe/staying-married
Author blazinj06 Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 I am 19 years old. Its just a thought I have been wondering about since my first love relationship did not work out and also from looking at other peoples past relationships.
Lucasarts Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 well i'll let u know when i actually find my first "love" i sometimes wonder if i'll actually recognize what love will feel like? im sure i will, but its always something to wonder about
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