bamf Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 To keep it simple, assume your ex and you broke up and your ex said that he/she broke up with you because of some reason (cheating was not a reason). However, you also have reason to believe that your ex cheated on you. Would you want to know the truth? Or would you rather not know and believe the reason your ex gave?
Freddy Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 I would want to know, then you know what the other person is capable of. That fact alone can help determine if you want to get back with that person or not.
Lee725 Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 it would depend as stated by Fredy on whether you wanted to get back with them or not. if you do then yes it would be important to find out, for future relevance. If you dont then it does not really matter anymore, move on.
Lizzie60 Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 To keep it simple, assume your ex and you broke up and your ex said that he/she broke up with you because of some reason (cheating was not a reason). However, you also have reason to believe that your ex cheated on you. Would you want to know the truth? Or would you rather not know and believe the reason your ex gave? No... he's an X.. what good would that make... I am not curious. I don't give a rat's a$$ whether he did or not.. he's not part of my life anymore and will never be...
Touche Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 I know mine didn't but if he did would I want to know now? Nope. Couldn't care less. If the breakup wasn't even about that issue, what's the difference anyway? So what if he/she cheated, you broke up for a different reason, right? So really, it shouldn't make a difference, after the fact, one way or the other.
HenryII Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 The truth may hurt but won't leave u guessing. The only thing is some poeple may lead u to believr they r sooo experienced when that might be a embellishment of some sort for reasons unknown. To impress u. To be sur u don't expect loyalty, I don't know. IF VDEALING WITH AN HONEST VTRUSTING so THEN WHEN THEY CHEATED i WOULD WANT TO KNOW. However once the SO moves out I think u should assume they are seeing someone. Its a natural thing to want to be loved etc.
TotalChaos Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Guess it would depend on the person. I myself could care less. If it's over it's over. I wouldn't worry about it and even if he did then what could be done? You can't change it. I would just say that I don't have time to worry about petty things like that. He will be the one living with the guilt.
82knightrider Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 I wouldnt want to know.For a long time I tried to find the truth and all the signs were there.That kinda info will go to the grave with them. Either way if your feeling like that theres no trust . Just go with your gut.
oppath Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 I think the question is would you want to know if the reasons for the breakup were confusing or you didn't really get a reason (though "we need to talk" is a reason in itself). If my gf was acting suspicious before the breakup, yes, I'd want to know the truth, mostly because it often comes back later from someone else's mouth. My last gf, I suspect she cheated with her ex throughout our relationship. He even proposed to her before our breakup when he learned about me. If that had nothing to do with the breakup, I can understand her not telling me. Problem was she asked me to be **** buddies 2 weeks later, so in that context, she was withholding information that could allow me to make a decision about my life, which is manipulative. It really depends. If she was acting weird and I suspected something was up and she was evasive, and then she broke up with me, I would like to know just so I wasn't filled with self doubt, like "did she breakup because I pushed for answers? Was I just being jealous? etc." If she said "this isn't working, I don't think we are compatible, blah blah blah" then I could care less. But if I cheated, and then decided to end the relationship, would I tell? I guess not. I don't know. I'd like to say "I met someone else" but I'm not sure I would imbue that damage. I suppose it depends. If we share any mutual friends, then I'd be 100% honest because the truth has a way of making it back.
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