KaRo Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 So, there is this girl I find attractive at work that I run into often but don't actually work WITH her. I haven't even spoken to her, but am getting the impression that she hates/dislikes me. But, the weird thing is one day I was walking back to the coat racks and she looked at me for several seconds with a partial smile on her lips (I don't know if she was just trying to resist the urge to laugh or not). My main point is that when walking towards her, I'll find she'll turn off or veer away so she won't cross me. I've done the same to her, though (but for a different reason). Also, just today I heard her talking to this other girl right behind me (think it was about me). I only picked up fragments of the conversation, but it went something like (I'll name the girl I like J). J: "This guy" (voice lowers) and then "Ever since that one day" Other girl: "Maybe he'll get the hint" (couldn't hear anything after that). Anyway, how can I know for sure this girl dislikes/ is trying to avoid me? Things like looks and body language I would be more interested in.
Dynamo Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 So, there is this girl I find attractive at work that I run into often but don't actually work WITH her. I haven't even spoken to her, but am getting the impression that she hates/dislikes me. But, the weird thing is one day I was walking back to the coat racks and she looked at me for several seconds with a partial smile on her lips (I don't know if she was just trying to resist the urge to laugh or not). My main point is that when walking towards her, I'll find she'll turn off or veer away so she won't cross me. I've done the same to her, though (but for a different reason). Also, just today I heard her talking to this other girl right behind me (think it was about me). I only picked up fragments of the conversation, but it went something like (I'll name the girl I like J). J: "This guy" (voice lowers) and then "Ever since that one day" Other girl: "Maybe he'll get the hint" (couldn't hear anything after that). Anyway, how can I know for sure this girl dislikes/ is trying to avoid me? Things like looks and body language I would be more interested in. Hmm, well I know some women that act like they dislike you greatly as a coverup when they really like you a lot, although it's rather immature. Do you like her? Just go talk to her. Sitting here speculating won't give you any answers, and there is no way to know for sure other then to ask upfront.
Author KaRo Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 Well, I was in the office the other day, and she was there (I had to talk to a manager). She stole a glance at me for a few seconds (maybe that's normal). Not sure what that means or if it doesn't mean anything. Anyway, I suppose you're right Dynamo. But I just can't go and ask her. I really don't know what to do at this point.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Instead of veering the other way when you see her stay in her direction. and say good morning! thats a start.. and im sure everyday it will progess to more. if she still seems nonchalant to to you, then he doesnt like you
Green Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 you sound very young or socialy awkward maybe both... How old r u? and how old is this girl? The only way to find out if she dislikes or likes you is to chat her up a bit. Flirt with her and then try to ask her to join you for a drink after work... ( I wasnt sure if you liked her or not??? but I'm guessing you like her and thats why you were worried she doesnt like you which may be true if you stare or act weird)
Author KaRo Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 If by socially awkward you mean shy, then yes. Although I think you could have phrased it better. Most people I start conversations with/talk on a regular basis seem to like me, so I'm fine otherwise. But I'm curious, what did you mean by "socially awkward"?
Green Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 I got this definition for Socialy Awkward from the urban dictionary; an individual excessively afraid of social interaction due to some form of peer rejection or personal choice. The reason I pointed out that I could tell you were socialy awkward was because I observed this is not a usual situation to be in thats all. The reason you are in this situation is because you're not going about things in a usal way of just talking to your co worker.
Author KaRo Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 I have some level of social anxiety, yes, it makes things awkward with people I don't even know I'll admit. Otherwise, though, I'm fine in that area. Ah, doesn't really look like I'm gonna get much help with this (no offense to the previous posters).
Green Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 because you asked the wrong question. You need to worry less about this specific situation and more about tackling your social awkwardness issues. You could see a counsler or a pyschologist or something. Other then that why do you care so much if some girl at your work who you don't even talk to hates you... the entire situation makes no sense ... just deal with your shyness... just curiouse have you ever had a gf?
BlueEyedGirl Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 I don't think she dislikes you it's more like she barely even knows that you exist.
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