jumping-jacks Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Got a number NYE and have talked/texted with her. I don't know her last name but found her on facebook because I knew her school, grad year, and home network. Will she think it's creepy if I add her? I guess the other option is to ask for her last name and then add her. I'm worried that she will think I'm only doing it to see pictures of her (as compared to what I remember that night) and find out more what she's like (which I am basically). Thoughts, especially from the girls? I am disappointed that I have 2 degrees and I was going to title the thread "Edicate"
Virgo1982 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Got a number NYE and have talked/texted with her. I don't know her last name but found her on facebook because I knew her school, grad year, and home network. Will she think it's creepy if I add her? I guess the other option is to ask for her last name and then add her. I'm worried that she will think I'm only doing it to see pictures of her (as compared to what I remember that night) and find out more what she's like (which I am basically). Thoughts, especially from the girls? I am disappointed that I have 2 degrees and I was going to title the thread "Edicate" Your best bet is to ease it into conversation or ask first. If you just ask for her last name and add her, I don't know how she'd react. But a casual mention of facebook or pre-add warning sounds best to me. It's sort of the respect of asking permission and/or giving notice.
Author jumping-jacks Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 Thanks. I'm a Virgo too incidentally. I think you are right, it is just going to take a little longer, but thats fine.
Virgo1982 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Thanks. I'm a Virgo too incidentally. I think you are right, it is just going to take a little longer, but thats fine. So, you're impatient too? I know how you feel. You just want to see the profile and do a quick analysis, lol.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 If she gave you her number its a possiblity that she is interested . I would aske dher if she is on face book/ or mayspace and add her then
Virgo1982 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 If she gave you her number its a possiblity that she is interested . I would aske dher if she is on face book/ or mayspace and add her then Right, but if he just asks her for the last name and adds her, it will be a little wierd. I probably wouldn't throw someone I'm interested in over that, but cool points would be lost and he would have to redeem himself in the future. Don't waste your points!
EYECANDY000 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Right, but if he just asks her for the last name and adds her, it will be a little wierd. I probably wouldn't throw someone I'm interested in over that, but cool points would be lost and he would have to redeem himself in the future. Don't waste your points! But is facebook the kind of website where you can only add your friends by first and last name? if thats the case then why would she be weirded out ? I know on some websites you have options how you add your friends.. But if facebook only allows you to add your friends by knowing first and last name.. school and graduation year then he wont lose cool points by asking
Virgo1982 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 But is facebook the kind of website where you can only add your friends by first and last name? if thats the case then why would she be weirded out ? I know on some websites you have options how you add your friends.. But if facebook only allows you to add your friends by knowing first and last name.. school and graduation year then he wont lose cool points by asking You can search someone by first and last name on myspace. Most of those sites are like that. She may want to get to know him better-which is her perogative. I'm just thinking that it would be better if he mentions it first. She may not care, but what's the harm in asking. He also needs to practice having patience.
Author jumping-jacks Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 I'll just slip it into conversation.
Kamille Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Here's a radical idea... since you got her number, why not call and ask her out on a date instead? That way you'll be able to ask her her last name in person, get to remember what she looks like and get to know her.... Oh, and after, once you two are into each other, then you can add her to your facebook.
shadowplay Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Yeah, I would be a bit creeped out as the girl in this situation. Better to just ask her out as Kamille suggested.
Author jumping-jacks Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 Here's a radical idea... since you got her number, why not call and ask her out on a date instead? That way you'll be able to ask her her last name in person, get to remember what she looks like and get to know her.... Oh, and after, once you two are into each other, then you can add her to your facebook. I'm going to ask her out. I just want to see what she looks like before I do. It won't change anything in my mind. Oh well, I will probably just wait until a few dates go by.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Wait, I must have misread the post and skipped over that part.. you guys have never seen each other before?
shadowplay Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Wait, I must have misread the post and skipped over that part.. you guys have never seen each other before? I think he's worried about the "beer goggles" effect.
Author jumping-jacks Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 I think he's worried about the "beer goggles" effect. Kind of, not in the traditional sense of "she must be worse looking." Just it feels intellectually dishonest to not know exactly who I am talking to. I know shes cute even if I did have beer goggles!
Leahh Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 I've added people in this way before, and been added like this before. I don't think it's weird at all, it's becoming a lot more of the 'norm.' Plus everyone facebook stalks, you may as well add her. Especially if you have friends in common, you could just have easily had seen if she wrote on someone elses wall and added her that way. She doesn't have to know the manner in HOW you found her, just that you did. I think it's flattering...
ShoeGirl Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 If some guy I met while I was out added me on facebook or myspace I would be a little creeped out. If I were you I would talk to her more and get to know her better before you add her, make some comment about facebook and see what her reaction is, if she says oh yeah I am on there then go add her, if she doesn't wait a while. If you are just wanting to see a picture you should be able to see one just by searching for her and she won't know it. Or go on myspace and see if she has a profile on there that isn't private.
Author jumping-jacks Posted January 3, 2008 Author Posted January 3, 2008 I saw a thumbnail of her, good enough for now! Probably safer to just ask. Won't hurt.
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