jt1981 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Here's the deal. I was in a really bad situation where my ex left me after dating for almost exactly 1 year. She went back to her ex-boyfriend of 3 years. We spent time together when things weren't going well for her and the current boyfriend. We built a friendship and one night ended sleeping together. The situation gets unclear from this point--I don't know if she broke up with him or vice versa. Either way, he asked for her back 3 weeks into our relationship and she refused him. It seems we were together to long to be a rebound? Any thoughts on being a rebound? When I asked her during the break-up she denied me being a rebound saying, "I gave you a year of my life." Anyways, she still has pictures posted of her and I on her Facebook. They are images for her photography business. However, isn't that still a bit weird. Does this mean anything? She wanted to be friends forever, but I couldn't keep it together after the break-up and lost myself for awhile. It has now been 8 months and she no longer shows interest in talking with me. What do I do? We have a mutual friend who still talks with both of us.
Lee725 Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 It has now been 8 months and she no longer shows interest in talking with me. What do I do? We have a mutual friend who still talks with both of us. It is difficult to say of you were a rebound, 12 months is a long time for a rebound relationship, but i am sure that it has happened. If it has been 8 months since all this happened, it would be best to just leave it and "move on". It is a long time to linger on a relationship, especially if she has little interest in speaking with you. Realistically, lets say she did call you and want to get back together, lets have a look at these questions: how much could you really trust her? when would be the next time she will leave you to go back to him again? if she did come back to you again after 8 months would that make you a rebound again? Get out there try to meet new people and leave her behind. You deserve better and you deserve a committed loving person who wants to be with you, not divided between you and her EX. You can certainly stay friends with the mutual friend, but refrain from asking questions about her (i know.... HARD), and if the mutual friend brings her up just say "I need to move on from this and the less i hear about her the more it will help me move on", a real friend would understand this and not be offended by this statement. You never know what the future will hold, but it is time to see what other wonderful people this world has to offer you. Good luck Hon, keep us posted.
Lee725 Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 I just wanted to add, that the pictures on her page, may not mean to much, especially if they are for her business. I know that you may think that she is keeping them there because of her fondness for you, and this may in fact be the case, but dont put to much thought into it. Thinking about it will only raise more questions in your mind and at this point it really is probably better if those questions are left alone.
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