CL737 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Hi all, Just trying to get it out of my head. A couple of months ago my ex decided she was done with our relationship. I've posted the details before, so I won't get into it again. Since then, we had talked almost everyday for the most part, almost always turning into some type of BS (her initials ironically)argument. I stopped talking to her because of this and the extremely hurtful things she would say about me and our four year relationship. She would say things like our relationship was never good, we never had anything together, and now she is happier with a new guy after two months than she ever was with me in four years. Right before Christmas we had a conversation where she said she still has feelings for me, but then the next day denied ever having said that. She went on that she doesn't have time in her life to work on anything. Again, at this point I decided not to have anything to do with her except for our responsibilities to our child. At this point a part of me unfortunately still wants her, but I don't want to want her anymore. I want the feelings to go away and am trying to put thoughts of her out of my head, but as everyone here knows, that's easier said than done. Today she posted a bulletin on the web about new pics from New Years and of our son. Basically I wanted to see the pictures from Christmas of our son and got a bunch of pictures of her with her new guy on New Years. I was doing well until I saw these pictures. I was not expecting this as she told me she was staying home with our son for New Years, but instead went out partying. It was just an on-rush of emotions I wasn't expecting to have. The thing is she looks extremely beautiful in the pictures, and, not to be shallow, but it was an immediate reaction of "what the hell is a girl like that doing with a guy like that?" Like I said, I was not expecting to see this or to have the emotional reaction I had. Now I want her to be happy, and really don't want to get back with her, but I don't understand how she can be with this guy. I've seen posts he's written referring to her as "his bitch". This is not the type of person I expected her to be with, he is the complete opposite of what she has wanted for four years. I guess I really don't want my son growing up around this type of person and being influenced by him and possibly mimicing this behavior.
s_n_d Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 I think most of us on LS would hate to see pictures of our exs with another woman/man. Its hard for sure. But in the end we have to understand that its THEIR decision to be with someone else and you cant change it as much as youd love to.
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