Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Since it's a New year, I have realized that I need to make some new friend's, but I am just not sure how to do this at 37 year's old with 3 children? I'm sort of shy when it comes' to getting to know the parent's of the kid's my Children play with, so that has not worked out to well. Any suggestion's are very much appreciated. Thank's. AP:)
marlena Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Well, I made a whole new batch of friends at 38 after my divorce. How? I started of with one and that snowballed into about twenty. Friends introduce other friends to eachother and before you know it , your circle of friends has grown tremendously. It's easy. Find one person you think you click with and see where it goes from there!
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 Well, I made a whole new batch of friends at 38 after my divorce. How? I started of with one and that snowballed into about twenty. Friends introduce other friends to eachother and before you know it , your circle of friends has grown tremendously. It's easy. Find one person you think you click with and see where it goes from there! Thank's Marlena! Now where did you meet these freind's if you don't mind me asking? That's the trouble I am having? AP:)
marlena Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Well, one I might at the school board offices. She was reading an announcement and she looked very puzzled and confused. I approached her and asked her if I could be of assistance. Then, I offered her a lift home. Through her I met new friends. The next one I met while on vacation through my daughter who was only eight. She met her first. Through her I met another eight at least. Then a third I indirectly met through my daughter as well. A school friend of hers was having a party and the mother invited me too. I met a woman there who is one of my best friends today. Then, these friends introduced me to their friends and I introduced them to mine and we became a huge, big circle of friends. Today, we number over twenty good friends and we are always doing things together. The start is the difficult part. Then, it works like a domino effect. You sound very nice. I am sure a lot of people would want to have you as a friend!
JamesM Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Just curious...what made you decide that you needed new friends? Is it simply a NY's resolution or is it due to loneliness?
Lizzie60 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Me too, like Jack, I'm curious... Why new friends? The ones you have aren't good enough?
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 Me too, like Jack, I'm curious... Why new friends? The ones you have aren't good enough? Well, I guess I am lonely! I don't have many IRL close friendship's like I used to when my first child was born. I had an awesome play group for year's when my first was a toddler, they were a great group of woman, however all but one moved away. The one that is still around was not my type at all, so there went that. When my 2nd child started pre-school I made another great friend, we really clicked! Her husband was a hockey player and was sent away to play for a team in England, so yet another friend gone! One of my closest's friend's I met in child-birth class, we were close for 7 year's until our Friendship ended. I found out her life was pretty much a lie and it really hurt me. She was also 10 year's younger than me, so we did not have alot in commom I guess! Sorry to ramble, just answering your question. AP:)
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 Well, one I might at the school board offices. She was reading an announcement and she looked very puzzled and confused. I approached her and asked her if I could be of assistance. Then, I offered her a lift home. Through her I met new friends. The next one I met while on vacation through my daughter who was only eight. She met her first. Through her I met another eight at least. Then a third I indirectly met through my daughter as well. A school friend of hers was having a party and the mother invited me too. I met a woman there who is one of my best friends today. Then, these friends introduced me to their friends and I introduced them to mine and we became a huge, big circle of friends. Today, we number over twenty good friends and we are always doing things together. The start is the difficult part. Then, it works like a domino effect. You sound very nice. I am sure a lot of people would want to have you as a friend! Marlena, Your lucky to have found your friend's! I guess back when my first was born I was more out going. My 2 year old just started pre-school this year and his birthday is coming up. I plan to invite the class to a little party for him. Perhap's I could meet som mom's that way?? I think I need to not be so shy! AP:)
Lizzie60 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Hum... how about taking a class (cooking, painting, etc.) then you'd meet new people. You didn't have friends before that? No childhood friends? you can hook up with ...
marlena Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 My 2 year old just started pre-school this year and his birthday is coming up. I plan to invite the class to a little party for him. Perhap's I could meet som mom's that way?? I think I need to not be so shy! Good start! Like I said, I met a lot of my friends through my then eight year old daughter. Plus, you have us!!!
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 Hum... how about taking a class (cooking, painting, etc.) then you'd meet new people. You didn't have friends before that? No childhood friends? you can hook up with ... Funny you mentioned cooking class, because I was going to sign up for one and then never did, that's a good idea Lizzie! I do lot's with Art as that's my specialty in life, Problem is it's hard to find friend's that really enjoy that. I do have one best freind, however lately she's been a big pain in the behind, She is a childhood friend. As far as other childhood friend's no, I moved away from my home town many year's ago when I was first Married, also H and I moved around alot before buying our home. AP:)
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 Yes, you have us! Ahhh that's sweet! :)I know I do and thank goodness for that!
Lizzie60 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 thanks.. If you want a friend that you have lots in common... then I say go to some classes (art, cooking, pole dancing... lol) and maybe some women are there for the same reason you are... Be confident...
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 thanks.. If you want a friend that you have lots in common... then I say go to some classes (art, cooking, pole dancing... lol) and maybe some women are there for the same reason you are... Be confident... YES! Confident is what I need! I used to be. I think a combo of thing's took that confidence away! I wasted 2 year's obsessing over a mm, have been though a most trying time in my marriage and to top it off I dread truning 40, becuase it's right there in front of me! So, in this New Year along with trying to be more patient and family oriented, I guess I should add to my list confidence! LOL! Pole Dancing!! AP:)
Kasan Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 LOL! Pole Dancing!! Don't laugh, it's not as easy as it looks. Great exercise!
JamesM Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 and to top it off I dread turning 40, because it's right there in front of me! Pole Dancing!! AP:) :laugh: Those of us who have recently passed 40 understand your consternation, But we also realize that looking back at 40...we wish we had the opportunity again. Enjoy your youth. IMO, it isn't 40 that is rough....it is 50! Ok, now the 50 yr olds can laugh. And thanks for the "pole dancing" image. For the rest of the day, I will see Jewel pole dancing at her fortieth birthday.
Lyssa Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Don't laugh, it's not as easy as it looks. Great exercise! It is! And I love it!
Lyssa Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 If in my late twenties, I find it quite hard to make friends (I'm shy in person) - it will only be harder later on, right? So this is a good thread, AP -- I'll be sure to look back on this thread to get some ideas on how to make new friends!
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 Don't laugh, it's not as easy as it looks. Great exercise! Ahhh heck! I'm willing to give it a try! Anyone plan to teach me?, lol! AP:)
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 :laugh: Those of us who have recently passed 40 understand your consternation, But we also realize that looking back at 40...we wish we had the opportunity again. Enjoy your youth. IMO, it isn't 40 that is rough....it is 50! Ok, now the 50 yr olds can laugh. And thanks for the "pole dancing" image. For the rest of the day, I will see Jewel pole dancing at her fortieth birthday. LOL :lmao: James!!! AP:)
Lizzie60 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 YES! Confident is what I need! I used to be. I think a combo of thing's took that confidence away! I wasted 2 year's obsessing over a mm, have been though a most trying time in my marriage and to top it off I dread truning 40, becuase it's right there in front of me! So, in this New Year along with trying to be more patient and family oriented, I guess I should add to my list confidence! LOL! Pole Dancing!! AP:) Dread to turn 40... come on... in these days and age... we can easily take 10 years off our actual age... (if you're healthy of course)... I started a new life at 45... I should say that's WHEN my life actually started... I loved myself... waayyyy more at 45 than I did when I was 25... I had a much nicer body... I was way more confident... men started to look at me... it was/is amazing.
Lizzie60 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Ahhh heck! I'm willing to give it a try! Anyone plan to teach me?, lol! AP:) I swear, this will give you the confidence you need...
Lizzie60 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Ahhh heck! I'm willing to give it a try! Anyone plan to teach me?, lol! AP:) If there are no classes where you are... buy a DVD... (teaching it)
Author Meaplus3 Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 Dread to turn 40... come on... in these days and age... we can easily take 10 years off our actual age... (if you're healthy of course)... I started a new life at 45... I should say that's WHEN my life actually started... I loved myself... waayyyy more at 45 than I did when I was 25... I had a much nicer body... I was way more confident... men started to look at me... it was/is amazing. Lizzie you are very right! :)I do love my figure now more than I did back in my 20's! I also am blessed to look 10 year's younger than I am, guess I need to remember that! AP:)
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