thekid55 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 (edited) Girlfriend and I broke up about two months ago after a year and a half relationship. Relationship was absolutely amazing. We had plans that she would come to my college, she wanted to stay with me for the rest of her life, I was her first true love, I taught her what love is, etc etc. It was a powerful relationship for teenagers. The list goes on....I went away to college and she is still in high school. She ended the relationship out of no where. Since then, she has had random hookups and even has a boyfriend that she has been seeing for a few weeks. He isn't traditionally someone I think she would go after. They have had sexual intercourse a few times. I found this out through a friend. I can stereo-type him as someone who is a loser and will be nothing in life. He can't provide to her what I provided. She is going to college in two years... The over-analyzing part: We haven't had a conversation in two weeks almost. This has been the longest we have ever gone without talking. I haven't initiated anything, but she did call me 4 times last Thursday night. I didn't respond to anything. Her myspace song is called: "There's gotta be More to life" by Stacy Orrico. It's about like chasing after new things, but always feeling like something is missing. It kinda reflects the struggle of a person who feels something missing in their life, but can't figure out what it is. So, they go in search of temporary things to fill that void while realizing that it's still not fulfilling them She has got more involved with new people and seems to be into the whole party scene. I'm really not. Of all the songs to have, she has this one. Her myspace is all about things saying "i LOVE my life" "I love **** <3", comments from a ton of different people, etc. All things that seem positive, with a sad song. Side notes: I deleted my myspace awhile ago. Her profile is public, so I am able to see it. Do you think that would have anything to do with me, like she may miss me? She did write a blog entry awhile ago saying like, she wishes our relationship would have went differently and things of that nature.... Or am I just over-analyzing? Maybe she is afraid to get involved again because she knows that I'm leaving to go back to school soon. I have her blocked on AIM for a few weeks and she hasn't texted or called me about it. We haven't spoke in awhile. Thoughts? Edited January 2, 2008 by thekid55
BlueEyedSarah Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 thekid55, Go out meet new people, forget this girl, she made her choice to find someone else. I know its difficult but you need to stop looking at her myspace, stop looking into the past and look into the future. Reject and calls or texts from her. Just move on.
sedgwick Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Wait...didn't you post the same thing with a different title just a few posts down? It gets confusing to read things more than once. At any rate, if she's going to college in two years, she's what, 16? Which means you started dating when she was 14? I know it sucks to hear this, but most people don't stay with the people they date in high school. It's just part of growing up, not meant to hurt you. I can't even fathom still being with my high school boyfriend.
Lee725 Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 Or am I just over-analyzing? Sorry to say it, but yes i think you are over-analyzing. Dont feel to bad about it tho, i do it all the time and i can tell you it is rarely to ones advantage to do it. it can be difficult with your first loves in life, and as Sedgwick said, i also can not fathom still being with my high school boyfriend. Most teenagers feel like there is something missing from their lives. I hate to sound clinical, but teenagers bodys and brains are under going MAJOR change - this of course does not and should not mean that the emotions that are being felt are not relevant, they are. They are very relevant for they often shape the type of person a teenager will be as an adult. As sad as you feel about what has happened, this is a time of your life to work out who you are and what you do and do not want not only from your life but in other people. To do this you must experience different people, different siutations and different emotions. I am sorry if this sounds harsh, i dont mean to say anything to upset you. I do remember those emotions, i remember splitting with my first boyfriend ever and thinking that i would never love again and i would never meet anyone else like him (in retrospect thank god i didnt)! She is looking for who she is, she may date people who dont seem "suitable", and perhaps you will too. You need to stop providing your mind with material that can be over analyzed such as looking at her myspace. (i know - easier said than done). Stay strong and keep rejecting her calls. At some point she will work out what she wants and who she is, as will you. If at that point it is each other than so be it. in the mean time work on you, go on dates, talk to people, try to have fun. The next love of your life (YES, there will be another), may be right around the corner and you may just stumble upon her when you least expect it.
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