Author nextel Posted January 3, 2008 Author Posted January 3, 2008 So MM is no longer staying with his W? Are they separated? Sorry I asked, I have been away - a lot of catching up to do! Welcome back. From some of the responses, you are not a newbie, so welcome back. If you would like a recap of story, you can read the post called Insight and you will get an idea of whats been happening in my life. No, MM is still living at home, but has been spending a lot of time at my house. He has been having dinner with me every month, missed thanksgiving, his wedding anniversary, xmas and new years eve/day by spending the night at my house. He went back a few days ago and today he informed me that he will be spending the night on thursday, till monday. I said ok. He told me that W birthday is sunday. He also told me that he had a discussion with W and told her again that they needed to go their separate ways. He said that the frustration is starting to show in her, especially with the fact that he has not slept with her in almost 11 months. W knows that he is seeing someone else. MM asked me to give him until the end of January to sort things out in his house. Thats the recap.
Author nextel Posted January 3, 2008 Author Posted January 3, 2008 Ahh, I won't be waiting to see...I already know... I sure wish some of that wisdom can rub off on me!
OWoman Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 Is it that we (women in our late 30s/early 40s) feel we've wasted so much time on the wrong person and when someone "perfect" comes along we snag him up before we have a chance to realize that if we waited after D we could find another Mr Wonderful? Is it that we're so hurt-lonely-desperate that we think we won't find another like MM? Sorry to get slightly off track. You reckon we're midlifing, WF? Perhaps more people file for a D after the New Year as a resolution to better their lives. Turning over a new tree, yes maybe! Something else I've been considering is that this time of year involves a lot of partying, and a lot of drinking. Alcohol lowers inhibitions, and often people do and say things that they might normally inhibit themselves from doing and saying. And their SO takes a look and goes - do I really want to be with that? And, of course, there's all the commercialisation around christmas. It brings out the worst in people! Some W really get off on shopping (in case their Hs were wondering where their missing sex drives went... ) and the subsequent dive into debt freaks out financially prudent Hs. Kids who get the "gimme gimme" syndrome provoke disharmony in the homes as one parent wants to indulge and another wants to set boundaries. And of course, the disappointment with presents given by SOs that just reveal how badly they know or understand their loved one... It's a pretty rough time of year!
frannie Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 ... Something else I've been considering is that this time of year involves a lot of partying, and a lot of drinking. Alcohol lowers inhibitions, and often people do and say things that they might normally inhibit themselves from doing and saying. And their SO takes a look and goes - do I really want to be with that? And, of course, there's all the commercialisation around christmas. It brings out the worst in people! Some W really get off on shopping (in case their Hs were wondering where their missing sex drives went... ) and the subsequent dive into debt freaks out financially prudent Hs. Kids who get the "gimme gimme" syndrome provoke disharmony in the homes as one parent wants to indulge and another wants to set boundaries. And of course, the disappointment with presents given by SOs that just reveal how badly they know or understand their loved one... It's a pretty rough time of year! And spending a week or two holed up with people you would rather not be with and manage to avoid for most of the year by working and getting out of the house. All that "family time" really makes you want to make a break for freedom
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