ryanan2 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Today I met my with an ex of mine. I hadn't seen her in three years, but we been in touch through emails for two months now. The sole reason that I got back in touch with her is for a second chance. When we dated I had some issues and I blew it, but for some reason I think she's the person for me. I got back in touch with her and I explained everything, told her how I feel ect. She said that she was very surprised by all this which made sense since I never really told her I felt. She said she of my new pic that she found me very acttractive and that she and I should meet up, but at the time she was seeing with two other guys, so just left it alone. A couple week later she wrote me saying that she's decided to be just be friends with ppl she was seeing. We started talking again and today we met up. It was pretty akward; we were both nervous. We talked for maybe an hour, and in that that time we we're talking our relationships since and at the time I asked her about her and I getting back together she was really surprised and just said that she didn't know. I guess I didn't expect she would give a definite answer but I thought she would say more than that. What does an answer like that mean in this situation? Any advice? Thanks Ryan
s_n_d Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Did she breakup with you or did you break up with her?
oppath Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 What does an answer like that mean in this situation? Any advice? Thanks Ryan It means that while she found you attractive and was curious, she didn't meet you expecting to discuss getting back together, and she probably hasn't been pining away for you hoping you'd come back, so now she has to consider "what went wrong before? Am I different? Is he different? What do I want? Is he worth any risk?"
Author ryanan2 Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 She broke up with me, but like I said before when we dated I had some issues, so was I never really invovled in the relationship. I already told her that before we met, so she knew why I doing all this. I wasn't sure if I'd ever see her again let alone maybe a second chance. She replyed back thanking me for seeing her, saying how it was great to see me again and that we have to get together again. Does it seem like she's at least open to the idea of talking about a second chance? Any thoughts?
jerbear Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 My thoughts, friendly response and can go either way. More like friendzone, that is if you can handle being friends.
Jordane Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 I think you have a chance but you need to hang out a few times without talking about getting back together. She needs to see for herself if you have actually changed or if the same issues from the past are still there. So hang out with her some more and wait a few more dates before you broach the subject again.
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