s_n_d Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Throughout today, Ive been sulking at home; Listening to cheesy songs and thinking about him... A while ago I was listening to Baby your my destiny by Jim Brickman and for those two minutes, everything was like a flashback and slow motion dream. The lyrics just moved me. I feel especially weak today.. Ive been close to tears ALL DAY. When will this pain and torture end....
sumdude Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Throughout today, Ive been sulking at home; Listening to cheesy songs and thinking about him... A while ago I was listening to Baby your my destiny by Jim Brickman and for those two minutes, everything was like a flashback and slow motion dream. The lyrics just moved me. I feel especially weak today.. Ive been close to tears ALL DAY. When will this pain and torture end.... Not weak... just human. give yourself a break..
Confused9 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Hang in there snd. These days shall pass. Cry...it always makes me feel better. It also normally makes me feel better if I write. Write him a letter...just don't send it. Let the emotions out!
Author s_n_d Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 Hang in there snd. These days shall pass. Cry...it always makes me feel better. It also normally makes me feel better if I write. Write him a letter...just don't send it. Let the emotions out! All my emotions are out. EVERYONE knows how im feeling. Literally. My friends have been great and ofcourse everyone on LS. Im so grateful for you strangers out there who selflessly help out others when you are going through the same amount and maybe even more pain than Im going through. But yes Ill try writing a letter.
confuse80 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 i know how you feel, i felt that yesterday, i played all the love songs and it didnt help. my suggestion: leave all the love songs, romantic movies, romance book etc. anything related to the words 'love' because it will make you feel worst. stick with those 'get over you' songs and movies that doesnt have 'happily ever after' ending and read kids or thriller book. do this for a while. be strong, we all here and we all experience what you experience, so you not alone.
FooledOnce Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Personally, I don't trying to 'be strong' anymore. I think it's perfectly healthy to grieve over a loss; it's part of the recovery. When you get through it, you'll actually feel strong again without having to 'be strong'. To thine own self, be true.
Author s_n_d Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 Personally, I don't trying to 'be strong' anymore. I think it's perfectly healthy to grieve over a loss; it's part of the recovery. When you get through it, you'll actually feel strong again without having to 'be strong'. To thine own self, be true. Thank you. I did do that. And i did feel strong again even though I wasnt. But now im back to where i was in the very beginning.
PinkRibbon Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Go ahead and have a good cry. There is nothing wrong with feeling sad over a love that has left. It is good that you are capable of having these emotions and not afraid of them. Many of us have these days so you are not alone. {{Big hug}} to make you feel better because sometimes I feel like I just need a hug.
norajane Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 i know how you feel, i felt that yesterday, i played all the love songs and it didnt help. my suggestion: leave all the love songs, romantic movies, romance book etc. anything related to the words 'love' because it will make you feel worst. stick with those 'get over you' songs and movies that doesnt have 'happily ever after' ending and read kids or thriller book. do this for a while. be strong, we all here and we all experience what you experience, so you not alone. This is great advice. My former roommate used to work at Blockbuster, and he was always really good about not bringing home any romantic movies when I was in break-up mode! I would also recommend getting OUT of the house. Does three things - you actually get things done (errands and whatnot), occupies your mind with something other than you ex, plus you have a chance to meet someone else! And I'd recommend exercise. Those exercise endorphins really help elevate your mood, so you don't even WANT to wallow around thinking about the ex. Instead, you can focus on the cute new clothes you'll be able wear in the spring to show off your hot bod.
Author s_n_d Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 This is great advice. My former roommate used to work at Blockbuster, and he was always really good about not bringing home any romantic movies when I was in break-up mode! I would also recommend getting OUT of the house. Does three things - you actually get things done (errands and whatnot), occupies your mind with something other than you ex, plus you have a chance to meet someone else! And I'd recommend exercise. Those exercise endorphins really help elevate your mood, so you don't even WANT to wallow around thinking about the ex. Instead, you can focus on the cute new clothes you'll be able wear in the spring to show off your hot bod. Will do. =]] Thanks everyone for all the advice.
Author s_n_d Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 Its hard for me to get out EVERY night though. Where I live, Its basically farmland so Im in the middle of nowhere. Just to put it into perspective, My neighbour is about a mile away.
bustertypsy Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Throughout today, Ive been sulking at home; Listening to cheesy songs and thinking about him... A while ago I was listening to Baby your my destiny by Jim Brickman and for those two minutes, everything was like a flashback and slow motion dream. The lyrics just moved me. I feel especially weak today.. Ive been close to tears ALL DAY. When will this pain and torture end.... Hey S-n-d I feel exactly as you do/did today.It has been a tremendously difficult day.I thought y/day and New Years Eve were the ones to expect the heartache,but today has been far worse. I don't know the reasons for this,but possibly the fact I expected the last few days to be hard has just pushed put off the emotions,and now they are back,harder.I am in month 3 of NC,and I can say today has been the hardest day I've had to endure.I am so hopeful that this will be the worst day and the pain will ease substantially after tonight.I hope the same will happen to you too. Keep us posted on your progress,and remember you are not suffering alone.
Lizzie60 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Throughout today, Ive been sulking at home; Listening to cheesy songs and thinking about him... A while ago I was listening to Baby your my destiny by Jim Brickman and for those two minutes, everything was like a flashback and slow motion dream. The lyrics just moved me. I feel especially weak today.. Ive been close to tears ALL DAY. When will this pain and torture end.... Well.. it's simple... stop listening to music that reminds you of him... Go for a walk... or do some exercice... go out...
Author s_n_d Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 Hey S-n-d I feel exactly as you do/did today.It has been a tremendously difficult day.I thought y/day and New Years Eve were the ones to expect the heartache,but today has been far worse. I don't know the reasons for this,but possibly the fact I expected the last few days to be hard has just pushed put off the emotions,and now they are back,harder.I am in month 3 of NC,and I can say today has been the hardest day I've had to endure.I am so hopeful that this will be the worst day and the pain will ease substantially after tonight.I hope the same will happen to you too. Keep us posted on your progress,and remember you are not suffering alone. Thank youuuu.
your star Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 hi s_n_d, we are both on the nc journey. i felt a little stronger too, then I think the holidays put me back in a slump. but like some people said, just allow yourself to feel whatever it is you are feeling. we are only human and theres nothing wrong with that. ive found that taking long drives in the evening helps clear my head. i just blast my music and take a look at the scenery and try to be thankful for life in general. hang in there
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