s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Hey everyone, I dont believe in the whole NC thing.. Its been two months since my ex and I broke up. Heres the story, if you dont already know: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t139739/ Should i send him an email or call him to TRY to reconcile things? If you think I should, what should i say.. If you think otherwise, why not. Help.. Someone..anyone..
norajane Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 If one of the reasons he broke up with you was that you were clingy - as you said in your first post in your other thread - then I think you calling or texting him is only proving his point. And you said that after you called him at Christmas, you texted back and forth arguing about the break-up...and another reason he broke up with you was the series of arguments you'd had with him. You also said he doesn't believe in second chances. Add those up and I don't believe you contacting him AGAIN isn't really going to help you two reconcile. You don't believe in NC, but how is he going to miss you if you're always around? He hasn't had any sense that he's LOST anything by breaking up with you...you're still there and he knows it.
Freddy Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Norajane is right, don't do it. If you do it I my might break myself. I know it's hard, keep the faith. Has he tried to contact you?
Author s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 Add those up and I don't believe you contacting him AGAIN isn't really going to help you two reconcile. You don't believe in NC, but how is he going to miss you if you're always around? He hasn't had any sense that he's LOST anything by breaking up with you...you're still there and he knows it. Thanks. I needed to hear that.. Even though it was hard. But at the same time, I cant just give up on him. Its just how i am. When i want something ill do whatever it takes to get what i want. I guess its a bad thing sometimes. OK... Ill TRY the NC thing. although its a concept i do not like. How long though. How do you know when to start talking/making contact again..
Author s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 Norajane is right, don't do it.If you do it I my might break myself. I know it's hard, keep the faith. Has he tried to contact you? Okkkkkk. This is just for you, Freddy. Ill hold back on making contact with him. && Ive realized that ever since the breakup, Im become closer to God. I find myself praying everytime I feel fragile or miss him and even when theres no reason to be praying, I pray.. In a way Im glad my ex and i broke up because I now have the Lord in my life.. Well.. I had him before.. But not to this extent. He talks to me SOMETIMES. Whenever we do talk though, Its small talk basically. And short abrupt answers.. Yes, No, that sucks, thats good etc etc.. We never talk about anything meaningful anymore.
Freddy Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 If he ask you out on a date then I would break the NC. The only way I'm going to break it is if she shows up at my place.
Author s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 Well what if he tries messaging me on msn or texting me or calling..
Freddy Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Ok she just looked at my myspace page. Couple minutes later she called and I didn't know she called and left a voicemail. I listened to it and this is what she said. I wish you had the guts to tell me yourself that your not talking to me anymore. I know you screening your calls and I wish you would call me so I can bring you your **** and it will be over. Crap what do I do, she going crazy?
Author s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 Yeah i think she IS. Good job. Apparently NC worked for you then. She has some of your stuff still? Or is this like gifts and such you gave her..
Author s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 Dont reply. Youve been doing the NC thing with her right? You dont need to break it
Freddy Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Oops I posted this on yours instead of mine. I still have a lot of stuff over there, clothes cooking stuff. I know she going to show up and my truck isn't here so she going to think I'm gone.
Author s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 Wow random. Weird that she would freak out over you not picking up your phone.
Freddy Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 I don't get it, if she's happy without me then why the mix signals. I know she still loves me. I hope your OK my is NC is about to break.
Author s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 Yeah. Love makes you do crazy things. Unfortunately.
Author s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 Lucky you. I wish i didnt have to do the NC thing. But its the only option I have left.
sedgwick Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 If he broke up with you because he felt you were clinging to him, clinging to him more won't bring him back. It really sucks that this is the case, but it is. You must let him go, and you must accept that he's told you unequivocally that it's over. I'm sorry you're going through this, but stay strong and don't contact him. It's been said here many times, but you MUST give him a chance to miss you!
CalamitousJane Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 I wish i didnt have to do the NC thing. But its the only option I have left. If you've already told him how you feel and what you want (one time, in very clear language) then yes, it is.
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