PinkRibbon Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Happy New Year everyone! I am just curious and I am sure I read it somewhere but what is the longest time of No Contact everyone has gone through? And does it work? And if you go into No Contact are you giving up any hope that there will be a reconcilliation? I am of the mentality: out of sight out of mind and I don't want him to forget me. Thanks!
Tyra Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Trust me, if the two of you have been dating for quite a while, he didn't forget about you. But the longest time I went without contact was a week.
Ariadne Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Well, I have been NC with Denver guy for almost two years (because of him). I still think about him every day, I still go to his page every day, I still read his posts in the forums where he used to post (there's 1,000s), and I still think we are meant for each other. I've gone out with other people and I couldn't care less for them. So no, it doesn't work.
Confused9 Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 3 months since we were romantic 2 months since I've seen him 1 month since we've spoken. He did text message me a few weeks ago, but I never responded. We are done though as he has someone else and she is preggo so a reconciliation is out of the question for us. HE still tortures me everyday with his myspace page...but...that's my fault for looking. I guess you need to stick to the old saying, what's meant to be will always find a way.
Confused9 Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 NC bites. Cheaters bite. Relationships bite. My X bites big time!
alyyyhsa Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 NC is killing me! are there any success stories of people going a period of months without speaking and then either you or the other contacting out of the blue, only to get back together?
redblack66 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 NC is killing me! are there any success stories of people going a period of months without speaking and then either you or the other contacting out of the blue, only to get back together? My first wife wanted back together after nearly a year of no contact. By NC I mean putting a call display on my home phone and not picking up the phone if she called. She rarely called. We were both furious towards each other at the time of separation. I think she realized life was not as good as she expected, and she had it pretty good with me.
LostHusband Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 I dated a girl off and on for about 2 years, she was always the one who would break off the relationship while I went on loving her. Then we lost touch with each other and I didn't see her or talk to her or think about her for almost eight years and suddenly she calls me up out of the blue and wants to hang out. I was newly single (this was before I met my wife) and we started hanging out - and fooling around etc. She told me she loved me and never found anyone else she loved as much as me. She started talking about "If we ever get married" that sort of thing, but I had absolutely no interest/love for her. She was just someone who I had fun with at the time, but I never had any intention of getting back together with her. She was heartbroken and started sending me mean and nasty emails. Then she realized it wasn't my fault that I didn't feel the same way anymore, and she was the one who threw everything away each time years ago. I found out later she joined a convent...true story. Karma....
Mz. Pixie Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 No contact is forever IMO, that's the reason for it.
LostHusband Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 I think NC is fine until you are completely over someone, then its ok to be casual friends with them - or just be able to say "hi" if you pass them by, no reason to act like you never knew the person. Also - its impossible to have NC forever when you share kids together.
guessjeans Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 I have NC with my ex husband since he started a relationship with this new woman. I end up getting hurt everytime I am around him. I am trying to get use to the idea that the man i met when I was 16 yrs old (now 47), were living together up to the last 4 yrs, but remained really good friends for the past 4 yrs, is now sleeping with another woman, telling her about our past, visiting with my ex in laws that I was close to...etc. Once I stop feeling this way, then I believe I can go back to being friends with him..perhaps. But for now, I am i guess you call it "lucky"..our son is 20 yrs old..so he has direct contact with his father. I dont answer the phone when he calls once every 7 days or so, I dont invite him over anymore to spend time with our son like I use to. Its normal to want to talk about the happenings in your life..its your life now. But for now, until I get use to all this, and maybe it will take me finding someone to finally get over my feelings for this man, but for now, NC is the only way to go. I find that in the past, when I did see him, it set me back a few days of feeling "bummed out". guessjeans
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