randuff Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 She just sent me a Happy New Year text....... I am just sitting here staring at it.
BlueEyedSarah Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 She just sent me a Happy New Year text....... I am just sitting here staring at it. Delete delete delete, it never happened, it was all a dream.
s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 What did she say if you dont mind me asking. Just happy new year?
Author randuff Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 "Happy new year" That's it..... I was looking and found this http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t108902/ My original post almost exactly 1 year ago under an old name before I registered.....
s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Dont think twice about it then. However, I do think the thought was nice. Atleast she still cares enough.
Author randuff Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 Ok new text from her : "Someone fu@^#ng hit my car AGAIN last night, I'm never gonna get out of it."
BlueEyedSarah Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Dont think twice about it then. However, I do think the thought was nice. Atleast she still cares enough. How do you know its about careing? She could have sent the message to a whole bunch of people on her phone.
s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Very random text.... How long ago did you two breakup. Are you still "friends"?
s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 How do you know its about careing? She could have sent the message to a whole bunch of people on her phone. Thats true. She COULD have done that. But If she didnt want to wish him a happy new year, why was he on her list of friends who got this text message..
Author randuff Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 Yeah we are, though I shouldn't be. She is now in a relationship with the guy she cheated on me with..... And I still have feelings.
PinkRibbon Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 So sorry the text probably did more damage than good. Don't look at it anymore.
Ariadne Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 She just sent me a Happy New Year text....... I am just sitting here staring at it. Well, at least something. You are doing better than me.
s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 If she cheated on you, shes not worth the second thought. Delete that text message. I know its hard because you still love her. But do you really want to be second best with any woman you meet? You know the answer to that. And You have heard this before so i need not say anything else. Stay strong.
Tyra Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 If she cheated on you, you shouldn't want anything that is affiliated from her, you know? So erase it, alright.
AriaIncognito Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Randuff you know you need to delete it and continue with NC. I know you know it.
Author randuff Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 I didn't respond to either text... Not yet at least.... I am going to play video games and watch football with some from friends to kill the time.
AriaIncognito Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 I didn't respond to either text... Not yet at least.... I am going to play video games and watch football with some from friends to kill the time. Do yourself a favor. Don't even bring the phone in with you. Leave it home, or if you need to have it with you, leave it in the car or something. If you have it on you, you might be tempted to reply...
whichwayisup Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 "Happy new year" That's it..... I was looking and found this http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t108902/ My original post almost exactly 1 year ago under an old name before I registered..... Don't reply to that happy new year text. Delete it. Ok new text from her : "Someone fu@^#ng hit my car AGAIN last night, I'm never gonna get out of it." Ignore this text. She is looking for some sympathy and a reaction out of you. Best reaction? SILENCE............Shows her that you don't care (even if you do, don't ever let her know that) what happens in her life. I mean, there's no, how are you doing? I hope your new year starts off better than mine...And then she tells her situation, but no - She just made it all about her. Screw that. Delete, ignore, silence... Yeah we are, though I shouldn't be. She is now in a relationship with the guy she cheated on me with..... And I still have feelings. And she probably knows you have feelings for her still, which is why she once in a while will contact you. She doesn't care what effect that might have on you, I mean this woman broke your heart!! Why the F does she think you want to hear from her, let alone hear about her situation about her car. I didn't respond to either text... Not yet at least.... I am going to play video games and watch football with some from friends to kill the time. Good! Enjoy your football and video games with your friends. IF and when you get the urge to contact her, reply back, don't. Come and post here instead. WE all will talk you out of replying as NO GOOD can come of it. None.
Author randuff Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 Aaaaaaaand, I hit the reject button. I am proud of myself.
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Aaaaaaaand, I hit the reject button. I am proud of myself. You need to tell her to leave you the F alone. Forget all that kid stuff, man up and get some balls.
whichwayisup Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Aaaaaaaand, I hit the reject button. I am proud of myself. Good going!
CalamitousJane Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Ah, Randuff. That is so tough when the ex seems to desperately want contact in a random and confused way. Mine called early in the morning Saturday, left no message, then called a couple hours later saying very sadly and shakily that he was "just checking on me" and would call later. Then he pretty much disappeared off the face of the earth again, except for one somewhat aggressive email bringing up an old disagreement and signed "I wish you a happy new year". I can tell by an old shared email account that he has only been online once in three days, which is way out of character for him. I have a feeling he's distracting himself with a new romance. The more I wonder what's going on with him the more I feel myself being bogged down in his confusion. I thought LC would work, but right now I can tell it's not good for me. Time to go seriously NC again for awhile, until the wondering stops hurting so much. Probably the same is true for you too. Be strong Randuff - you sound like such a great guy. Hug your kid, get some fresh air, think about the awesome life you are going to build with the incredible woman you're going to find soon - the one who gives back every ounce of your love and devotion.
LakesideDream Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Why is everyone so durned sensitive? A "text" is the lowest possible form of communication. Takes almost no effort, it's not an email, or a greeting card, or gasp, a written letter. It's not even a telephone call. Why not just "butch up" a little and ignore the minimum efforts of your ex. There is always the chance it didn't mean anything... I said "happy new year" to a hndred people last night, some complete strangers. Had an ex been where I was I would have said "happy new year" whether I meant it or not.
Author randuff Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 Why is everyone so durned sensitive? A "text" is the lowest possible form of communication. Takes almost no effort, it's not an email, or a greeting card, or gasp, a written letter. It's not even a telephone call. Why not just "butch up" a little and ignore the minimum efforts of your ex. There is always the chance it didn't mean anything... I said "happy new year" to a hndred people last night, some complete strangers. Had an ex been where I was I would have said "happy new year" whether I meant it or not. My ex and I split in April, talked EVERY single day until the end of November when she "officially" got together with her new guy. I was trying to be a friend still but with having feelings for her it doesn't work. For the last month our communication has been limited once every 3-4 days maybe. She has told me on a number of occassions that I am the most special person in her life and she cares about me tremendously. Her parents and her don't get along so well so I was the one she always came to for support and advice even after the split. THIS is why it is not just merely a text to me. On Christmas she text me saying "Merry Christmas" to which I responded the same, then I get "I miss you so much... I love love love you." This is the reason it is a big deal to me to not be responding this time. I have been quite weak with NC thus far so I am trying to take baby steps. I know all the reasoning for it, have suggested it to others on this very forum, but taking my own advice has been difficult for me. I assume because I really just don't want to let go.
CalamitousJane Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 have been quite weak with NC thus far so I am trying to take baby steps. I know all the reasoning for it, have suggested it to others on this very forum, but taking my own advice has been difficult for me. I assume because I really just don't want to let go. Yeah, same here. I'm forcing myself to take my own advice. Sure is painful...
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