sedgwick Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Happy new year! I am so thrilled that the holidays are over. I made it all the way through without contacting him, or even unblocking him. Yay! I feel so much stronger today. I spent the evening with my best friend (who also happens to be my ex-husband!) and we went to the movies (No Country for Old Men -- it's GREAT, see it if you haven't!) and then came home and ordered a pizza and watched Times Square on TV (even though we could hear it outside.) At midnight we hugged each other and snuggled our cat (who is still "our" cat even though we've been split up for 7 years) and told each other how lucky we were to have each other. We met on NYE 1994, so it was great to spend it together. Note: there is NOTHING romantic going on between us, but we've known each other for 13 years, and been friends the whole time, which I think is an accomplishment. I also talked to my mom. I'm from the South and was raised strict Southern Baptist, which is sort of what "happened" to me to make me think I could never be "good enough." I am SO glad to live in NYC now and be the tattooed freak that I am! Anyway, I have a cousin who's 20 years old. When she finished high school, she got a series of jobs (waiting tables, working for her dad, etc) and lost them all. Yes, her dad had to fire her for not showing up, which should tell you a lot. At 18 she got pregnant, and married the guy, who was also 18 and had a major drinking problem. He ended up in jail for DUIs, but not before she got pregnant again. So at 20 years old, she has two kids, no job, and no partner to help her raise them. Her parents are paying for her apartment. So she started leaving her kids with a friend and going out a lot, mostly to this club that we all used to call "the cut-and-shoot bar" when we were kids. You know, the one on the edge of town that's falling apart, where you read regularly in the newspaper that someone got stabbed in a fight. She met a 50-year-old man there and, of course, got pregnant by him. He wanted nothing to do with her or the child, so now she's a single mom of three, with no education and no job skills. Which gives me perspective. Yeah, the love of my life decided he didn't want me, but at least I'm not single AND uneducated AND a mother of three. So now when things get bad, I can say to myself that someone I know has it worse. That's what I call perspective.
PinkRibbon Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Sounds like you had a nice New Years Eve. I am glad you enjoyed it and you have a different perspective on everything. Congrats and good luck in the New Year!
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