Fandabby Posted December 31, 2007 Posted December 31, 2007 right im from england and its 7:58 am, and ive had NC with my ex for 2 months, im not missing her, im 100% fine, even the first day she split with me i was fine ( read my past posts to find out more) but heres my problem i cant sleep tonight lol, i just dont know why, i can not get to sleep, i feel like theres somthing bugging me and i dont have a clue what it is, im just rolling around in my bed with my eyes wide open, and somthing is bugging me at the back of my mind, like i said im 100% fine and over my ex, but i don't know why i cant sleep tonight, every other night ive slept absolutly fine, and im not sure if the thing buggin me is my ex, its really werid need some advice if anybodys been or is in this situation
Author Fandabby Posted December 31, 2007 Author Posted December 31, 2007 mmm, like since the split ive bottled everything up, like im over my ex, but i still feel hurt over what has happened cuz she left me for another guy,like hurt cause of the situation and how sombody did that to me, not hurt cause i miss her love her etc, if tha makes sense lol and like i havent cryed once since the split, mmm i just dno what it could be lol i cant stop laughing for some bludi reason lol im just smiling alot, ahhh im bludi going of me rocker lol
Geishawhelk Posted December 31, 2007 Posted December 31, 2007 Women are very often affected by the full or new moon phases...men by the intermediary phases....Right now, it's an absolute half moon, so it's possible that your night is being disrupted by this. I know, I know...it seems laughable...but actually the moon phases are documented as being both significant and important with regard to moods, sleep and so on. The only advice I can give, is to buy a calendar, keep tabs and if there's a pattern...then maybe I'm not as kooky as I sound....
Author Fandabby Posted December 31, 2007 Author Posted December 31, 2007 sweet, at least it aint my ex then lol, but on a truthful note, i just feel werid lol, (hope i dont turn into a werewolf lol) cheers for the advice though, id rather it be a moon then my ex
Author Fandabby Posted December 31, 2007 Author Posted December 31, 2007 i think it could be, cause last time me and my ex split, exactly after like 2 months NC she contacted me, plus she waited till all the special occasions went by just incase i contacted her on them days, like, easter, valentines day, her bday etc etc, and now on second split its exactly 2 months NC again this thursday,and the special occasions that have gone by are my bday, crimbo, and new years will be over soon ( then the 4th of jan which is are anniversary) so i think the thing thats buggin me is a werid feeling that she will contact me this weekend or weekend after ( she broke NC last time after a night out on a saturday at 3 in morning as she was drunk), so Geishawhelk even though you mentioned it could be the moons you did help me cause you mentioned patterns and phases and that sorta made a light ding in my head lol so cheers haha
Author Fandabby Posted December 31, 2007 Author Posted December 31, 2007 right now thats its sunk in whats bugging me im a little scared, and feel shakey, cause i havent even thought of her contactin me again, i just knew i would never contact her again, so what do i say if she contacts me? i dont wanna be caught off guard, like i dont even want her to contact me!, and im not a nasty guy, so dont want to be mean, but she doesnt deserve any kindness of me, ok need new advice, wtf do i do or say if she rings?, i dont wanna be to nasty just incase she texts me stuff about what shes been up 2, cuz that will pee me off, mmmm, i need some advice, i wanna see loads posts in this post soldiers! lol
Geishawhelk Posted December 31, 2007 Posted December 31, 2007 Well...it could still be the moon thing...Easter is calculated according to the Moon phases, you know. it's a moveable feast because of this. Never on a fixed day, like Christmas...But the winter solstice is always a few days away from Christmas day.... so specific days are geared to moon phases.... just my thoughts...
Lee725 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 right now thats its sunk in whats bugging me im a little scared, and feel shakey, cause i havent even thought of her contactin me again, i just knew i would never contact her again, so what do i say if she contacts me? If you were over her Honey you would not be even thinking about this. I dare say that little thing in the back of your mind that is keeping you awake is unresolved issues you have going on there. There is nothing wrong with thinking about it, you have done such a great job of building yourself up after the break up that there may have been a couple of things that you "missed". i think that it is great that you have been able to get over it the way you have, but the mind has a very sneaky way of catching up on us when we least expect it. What do you say if she contacts you again? nothing... let her do the talking, respond to what she says what ever way you see fit. She may try to talk you around, but you have to decide whether you want to listen to it or not. Dont wait for her call. Dont think about what you are going to say of she does call, Keep going, keep being happy, chew that bone if and when it happens. i dont wanna be caught off guard, like i dont even want her to contact me!, and im not a nasty guy, so dont want to be mean, but she doesnt deserve any kindness of me, ok need new advice, wtf do i do or say if she rings?, i dont wanna be to nasty just incase she texts me stuff about what shes been up 2, cuz that will pee me off, mmmm, i need some advice, i wanna see loads posts in this post soldiers! lol If she goes through the 2 month cycle thing & you are 100% certain that you do not want her back, ignore the txt's, ignore the calls. If you dont want her back then what is the point of talking to her?, if she does not deserve kindness then dont validate the way she has treated you by answering her when she rings. This does not make you nasty. You dont owe her anything and you now have a life without her. You have a right to look after yourself and look after your needs without being labelled "Nasty". Good luck soldier!
Lee725 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Well...it could still be the moon thing...Easter is calculated according to the Moon phases, you know. it's a moveable feast because of this. Never on a fixed day, like Christmas...But the winter solstice is always a few days away from Christmas day.... so specific days are geared to moon phases.... just my thoughts... Hi Geishawhelk, i am with you on the moon thing. I have a tendancy to get really cranky some times when it is a full moon. Police reports also state that crimes increase around the full moon, so you have some pretty solid backing there too.! If i grow hair and fangs i will be sure to let you know but in the mean time i have already learnt that if my partner is peeing me off i stay away from them the night before and the night of the full moon, otherwise you can count on Lee having an arguement.
D-Lish Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 I think it's possible the break up is sinking in. Girls deal with most emotional conflict right away- they hammer it out with their friends, they think about it, they cry and emote....until it's gone. Often, men bottle it up. It may just be that you have supressed some pain and it is only now surfacing. Do you ever dream about her? Often, the things we don't reconcile with consciously surface in our dreams. I only ask- because an ex texted me after deserting me...with a "I just woke up from a dream about you"... and he's been texting me the "I miss you's" since then. It just seemed so random...but I think he finally just dealt with some feelings.
jerbear Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Do you ever dream about her? Often, the things we don't reconcile with consciously surface in our dreams. I only ask- because an ex texted me after deserting me...with a "I just woke up from a dream about you"... and he's been texting me the "I miss you's" since then. It just seemed so random...but I think he finally just dealt with some feelings. This is so true, I had a few dreams about my ex a few times. Kept me up, woke me up, got me POed, etc... One was I knew I fell for her, another was I knew I made a mistake, and one was I lost her. Oh well.... Got me thinking and depressed!
D-Lish Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 This is so true, I had a few dreams about my ex a few times. Kept me up, woke me up, got me POed, etc... One was I knew I fell for her, another was I knew I made a mistake, and one was I lost her. Oh well.... Got me thinking and depressed! Dreams impact me too. I think my ex had tried to supress his feelings and they cam flooding out in a dream. Now he is wanting to start over. SO- do you dream about her? I'd be interested to know.
Author Fandabby Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 thanx for all your replys lee i think your right in what your saying, im over her, like i know 99% i would'nt get back with her, and i shouldnt be scared thinking if she calls, cause i could and probley will ignore them, but i think whats scareing me is the fact as if i found out who the guy she left me for was, and if shes dateing him, and finding out what shes been up 2, i think that will sorta pee me off, and it will probley reopen the wound, and your also right about the mind is sneaky, cause it has started to play tricks on me, and your also right in what you said about how i don't owe her anything, so i don't need to find a polite way of not answering her calls etc your reply has helped me alot thanx d-lish, what you said about girls dealing with there emotions first, and guys dealing with there emotions after , its true but with my ex its different, she doesnt think before she acts, cause the first break up, we stayed contact for the first month, but she was a arsehole to me,( plus she was saying its over for good, i hate you, don't love you, etc etc) and then i went NC for 2 months, so alltogether it was 3 months split, and then it was her contacting me wanting me back, so i think she dealt with it months after the split, also the patterns i seen from first split is not only how she split with me, but her last text to me was '' i hate you, its all your fault, cya around mate!'' now that gets me thinking if i kept contact with her, she would of been nasty like last time, also gets me thinking cause, i did nothing to make her hate me, and the whole ''cya around mate'' was somthing she said alot during first split, ( that sounds so like im looking to deep into a sentence, but i promise im not, let me explain) she doesnt even use the word mate, and doesnt even say cya around mate in a sentence, she only uses it with me during splits, its like a '' dig'' sorta thing and i guess what im trying to say in a confuseing way is lol i think if she really didnt love me anymore, really didnt want me, she would of just been truthful, like look we had a good time while it lasted, i dont hate you cause you did nothing wrong etc, but no,its 100% the same pattern as last time, and thats whats buggin me also about dreams, during first split, i dreamt about her everyday, during this split, i dreamt about her probley4 times, but nothing major, like didnt upset me in morning, was normal dreams really ( i think one of them got me a lil weirded out when i woke up one morning, but few hours later i was fine) but!!! its so strange that you asked that cause ive just woke up now, and i had a really weird dream lol, i had a dream i was in the medival times, and like in a posh suit etc, and going arounds these streets ( you no them werid dreams with no story or sense about them lol) but i had my phone with me lol and at one point in my dreamthe phone rang, and a guys voice said '' you was going out with [ my exs name], well shes with me now! hahaha and..''( it was like they was going to say more, but i put the phone down in my dream) and then my dream went on with more random stuff ( not about ex tho) , and it was only when i woke up it sorta werided me out lol anyway thanx for all your replys lol ill try add more after a nice cup of tea lol
Storyrider Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 ri cant sleep tonight lol, i just dont know why, i can not get to sleep, i feel like theres somthing bugging me and i dont have a clue what it is, im just rolling around in my bed with my eyes wide open, and somthing is bugging me at the back of my mind, like i said im 100% fine and over my ex, but i don't know why i cant sleep tonight, every other night ive slept absolutly fine, and im not sure if the thing buggin me is my ex, its really werid Try full stops. They keep you from rolling around.
Author Fandabby Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 no offence, but ive got better things to worry about then full stops, i asked for advice, not help on my grammer lol, don't bother replying if its gona be some useless '' omg grammer!!'' reply, cheers. <--- happy
Author Fandabby Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 im at 2 months 4 days NC, and im doing good still, she hasnt contacted yet, but cause i know what shes like i know she will contact soon and i really dont want her to, ill keep you all updated
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