One GIANT Decrecendo of a year.

[In_thespurofthe_mome]

Good evening everyone I'm back-- again.

I'll tell you right now, I'm inexperienced and I don't know any better.

 

Here's my situation:

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 8 months (Long distance [1hr], although his family owns another home about [30min] from me). We went through the honeymoon phase quite wonderfully, BUT around September of this year, when school started up again, our communication was a constant 'Play-pause-play-pause' situation. Sometimes we'd go for days, even up to a week without talking, but every time we resumed, we would happily click back together.

 

Then...around Thanksgiving time, I wanted to spice up the relationship a little. You know, light the spark again. So I wrote a letter, I suppose it could be a love letter. It was harmless, loving, and 110% genuine. I sent it, with high hopes.

I called him a few days after, and he told me that his parents got to it first. His mother is similar to the one in that movie Monster-in-Law (the one with J-Lo and the angry mother in law) His mother, I believe, is the kind that hates any woman who plans to 'replace' her. So, his parents didn't want him talking to me.

Although, he did say that he loved the letter and that it was nice.

 

I haven't spoke to him on the phone since. It's been around a month now, maybe more.

I am suspended in a state of nothingness at the moment. I feel so powerless, and I don't know what to do. I've been hopeful and very patient, but something tells me I should just let go.

 

I was thinking of sending an email because of the fact he won't pick up his phone, but how should I start..or what should I mention?

 

How would you start a letter to somebody you really, really liked to tell them that you're hurt and you want to talk or break things?

 

Any help or advice or insight will greatly be appreciated. Thank you so much.

- Claire Anne

[spookie]

Sorry this is happening to you, the demise of any relationship can be heartbreaking, and it's worse if you're young/inexperienced IMO.

 

How old are you?

 

Here's my $.02:

 

If he allows his parents to control him like that, NO relationship he gets into has any kind of chance. So, it wasn't your fault, and you'd do best moving on and finding someone with the ability to think for himself.

 

Since he isn't picking up his phone when you call, I think the relationship is already over, but sometimes it CAN give you closure to write a letter. A lot of people will disagree with me, but I've written my ex several of them knowing full-well that he probably wouldn't respond, and collectively I feel they brought me to this point, where I don't blame myself anymore nor think "what if" cause I've said everything I wanted to.

 

Write a geniune letter spelling exactly what you think, how you felt about him and the relationship and how you feel now, your disappointment, your acceptance that it's. And send it, if you feel it will help you; but don't expect a response.

[In_thespurofthe_mome]

Thanks for the reply

We're third-years at school.

 

I think I will send an e-mail.

Although, should I send it before the year ends or after?

Sigh... I might send it tomorrow actually. I want to get it out of my system for the new year.