KATANYA Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 Happy New Year Everyone. I joined this site this past year and can honestly say the insight, advise and sometimes a$$kickings have all given me new perspective and greater strength to deal with some of the rollercoaster of emotions I've been through both during my A and since it ended. I cannot say I'm over MM because this Christmas has been hard....for both of us I think. We are supposed to meet tomorrow (his request) for a coffee and to 'toast' the new year as friends. Ironically, this got me to thinking 'what will I do different in 2008'. We have spent the last two New Year's Eve's together and, to see him tomorrow will pretty much be 'old times' and, as part of me feels, a huge step back after three months out of the A. I know he misses me and I know I miss him but I cannot say I want 2008 to be a repeat of 2007. I still miss our R and I don't know that 'just coffee' would really be 'just coffee' so I'm thinking it will be best to wish him 'Happy New Year' over the phone and spend tomorrow night at home, no doubt thinking and reminiscing but at least without regrets that we are starting all over again----not much for roller coasters anymore, getting too old I guess! So what about everyone else? What resolutions do you plan to make concerning your mm/mw? Will it be time for deadlines, ultimatums, closure....or will it be more of the same - waiting, hoping, accepting? Wish I could say I will be part of the first but I'm still in the 'day by day mode. Anyway, Happy New Years Everyone! Thanks for all the support and friendship....Hope 2008 finds everyone happier and wiser! For those also planning to be home tomorrow night, I'll be looking you up!! Will no doubt need a little pep talk!! CHEERS:)
OWoman Posted December 31, 2007 Posted December 31, 2007 What resolutions do you plan to make concerning your mm/mw? Will it be time for deadlines, ultimatums, closure....or will it be more of the same - waiting, hoping, accepting? For me - the ride is just beginning so I'm going to do my damndest to hang on until things settle!
frannie Posted December 31, 2007 Posted December 31, 2007 So what about everyone else? What resolutions do you plan to make concerning your mm/mw? Will it be time for deadlines, ultimatums, closure....or will it be more of the same - waiting, hoping, accepting? Wish I could say I will be part of the first but I'm still in the 'day by day mode. No deadlines or ultimatums. The situation is that I've told him I'm not going to be seeing him again unless things change. It's up to him what he does, but my mind is made up about that, and happy with the situation. Have a Happy and Peaceful New Year everyone.
Gwyneth Posted December 31, 2007 Posted December 31, 2007 It all depends on how he takes the recent email I sent to him (MM that is) which revealed that I do have feeling for him beyond sexual. Its' the last day of the year and today he should be reading the email--so I either start the year off on the right foot, or continue this affair until it has come to a full circle and I am back at square one--without him in my life. He is going away in a couple of weeks for about two weeks or so and I think this will be good for me. It's his choice to live an unhappy life, but my choice is to live a happy life. I wish everyone here a happy and healthy new year
imstunned Posted December 31, 2007 Posted December 31, 2007 Baby steps for me - I'm hoping to get through the night without giving into temptaion and texitng that jerk I was involved with and therefore ruining my night!! As for 2008 - well I'll just try and be more positive and see what happnes!! x
Meaplus3 Posted December 31, 2007 Posted December 31, 2007 Happy New Year Everyone. I joined this site this past year and can honestly say the insight, advise and sometimes a$$kickings have all given me new perspective and greater strength to deal with some of the rollercoaster of emotions I've been through both during my A and since it ended. I cannot say I'm over MM because this Christmas has been hard....for both of us I think. We are supposed to meet tomorrow (his request) for a coffee and to 'toast' the new year as friends. Ironically, this got me to thinking 'what will I do different in 2008'. We have spent the last two New Year's Eve's together and, to see him tomorrow will pretty much be 'old times' and, as part of me feels, a huge step back after three months out of the A. I know he misses me and I know I miss him but I cannot say I want 2008 to be a repeat of 2007. I still miss our R and I don't know that 'just coffee' would really be 'just coffee' so I'm thinking it will be best to wish him 'Happy New Year' over the phone and spend tomorrow night at home, no doubt thinking and reminiscing but at least without regrets that we are starting all over again----not much for roller coasters anymore, getting too old I guess! So what about everyone else? What resolutions do you plan to make concerning your mm/mw? Will it be time for deadlines, ultimatums, closure....or will it be more of the same - waiting, hoping, accepting? Wish I could say I will be part of the first but I'm still in the 'day by day mode. Anyway, Happy New Years Everyone! Thanks for all the support and friendship....Hope 2008 finds everyone happier and wiser! For those also planning to be home tomorrow night, I'll be looking you up!! Will no doubt need a little pep talk!! CHEERS:) Mine is to have more patience and to focus 100% of my energy on my family. Happy New Year to all!! AP:)
GirlZilla Posted December 31, 2007 Posted December 31, 2007 Well, I have to say this site has been an inspiration to me and without it ...I have no idea where I would be now with xMM. I have to say that my New Years Resolution is to maintain NC. I read a post somewhere yesterday that slapped me upside the head. "A dog returns to its vomit....I don't wanna be a dog". Crude but insiteful...lol! I may have to make that the new quote underneith my posts! Anyway, best wishes in the New Year! Thanks for all the support......GZ:cool:
OWoman Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Baby steps for me - I'm hoping to get through the night without giving into temptaion and texitng that jerk I was involved with and therefore ruining my night!! Stun - was trying to post "don't you dare!!!", but I seem to have crashed the server in the process... Happy New Year, all!! :bunny::bunny::bunny: :bunny::bunny::bunny: :bunny::bunny::bunny:
imstunned Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Well, the good news is that I got through the night without texting him, the bad news is that only because I was busy with my head in a bucket!!! Still, it kept me busy. How utterly STUPID to be dissapointed that he didnt text me. It just goes to show that really, I think he is going to get in touch! Gpt to wrap my head around that! Sorry to thread jack happy new year to all.
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 My resolution is to allow myself to let go of my ex. He dumped me two months ago and I was and still am clinging, and worse yet - he's encouraging it and letting me do it. It is making me live in a perpetual state of false hope and wishful thinking for a future that he does not want with me. It won't be easy, but at least I'm going to try.
Gwyneth Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Well, the good news is that I got through the night without texting him, the bad news is that only because I was busy with my head in a bucket!!! Still, it kept me busy. How utterly STUPID to be dissapointed that he didnt text me. It just goes to show that really, I think he is going to get in touch! Gpt to wrap my head around that! Sorry to thread jack happy new year to all. haha. Well that's great that you didn't text him, but not so great that you head was in a bag all night I made sure I didn't drink so that I didn't have to ride the porcelean bus all night. I would have much rather be in that state of mind than thinking about MM though...
Lyssa Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 No resolutions for me... Happy New Year and let's pray for a great year ahead for all of us!!
GreenEyedLady Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 No resolutions for me either... I had a wonderful NYE and I hope that everyone else did too... 2008 is a time of New Beginnings...It's up to you decide what that beginning is... GEL
PLAYBRAT Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Personally, I love resolutions. It's a time for a fresh start and new beginnings. Also, being goal oriented, I enjoy challenging myself. The key for me is keeping the goals relatively simple and realistic. For me this year I have career goals and personal: Career: To spend less time being an "employee"..and more time as a business owner. Personal: Not be so serious Exercise more...(of course) Get outside more..less time on the computer..LOL
Mino Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Happy New Years Everybody. I wrote mm an email on New Years, basically saying I cant and dont want to repeat these last three years. we are going on our 4 year, I have decide to leave for a month, get out of the country just to get myself away fro this situation. I want to be by myself. I have notice quite some chances in myself and my feelings over the last few months. Less pain, acceptance, less hope, and the feeling that I have to get out of this somehow. So everyone wish me luck, strenghth and courage:) And hopefully I will be able to put this mess behind me soon.
InvisibleGirl Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Not really a resolution but this was my first year of being the other woman. New Years was very diffucult. MM was spending the evening with the family and another couple having them over their house for the evening. Not only are MM and I in love but he is also my closest friend. Things like not being invited to parties he has or gatherings at his house are particulary difficult for me to get thorugh since I have a hard time dealing with the fact that out of all the people he knows he talks to me the most and keeps in touch with me the most and thinks about me most but yet everyone else he knows gets to share special times in his life and be around him during the holidays while I get to stay home alone and get upset. So this year if he doesnt man up and figure out where things are going with us he's going to have to give me some space to breath and a chance to live my life without him. He says he loves me but can do nothing for me but is constantly in touch and calls me babe and wants to see me just about every day of the week during lunch and will kiss me and hold my hand any chance he gets. When i cry and get emotional and tell him how hard and confusing it is on my end he tells me I must not realize how hard it is for him too how he has to walk a double line. When I ask him why he needs me since I'm so confused he says its because he enjoys my friendship. This has been a great year at times. When we are together I never feel as happy or as loved then he makes me feel but I guess thats what makes the times that we arent so much more difficult I'm just hoping next year has a lot more good times than bad times ahead for me...
CallMeCrazy Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 My resolution is to be patient, strong, and overall work on being a better person! My MM left his W last night, so I will have a year full of challenges. I'm anxiously looking forward to 2008 and all that comes along with it! I have a crazy ride ahead of me....
Gwyneth Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 My resolution is to be patient, strong, and overall work on being a better person! My MM left his W last night, so I will have a year full of challenges. I'm anxiously looking forward to 2008 and all that comes along with it! I have a crazy ride ahead of me.... He left his wife on NYE??? What a slime. I guess he really wanted to begin the new year off on the right foot.
underpants Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 I think I am respecting bish's stance more and more. My resolution is to no longer give cheaters or cheating partners the benefit of the doubt, in my real life. This is not a judgement to anyone, just a personal observation and decision. As I gain wisdom, I find that for the most part there may just be those that cheat/take part in it and those that don't. It is just safer and more probable to conclude that once a cheater or affair partner always capable of being one. I also resolve to research those I consider connecting with a little more closely. For myself as well as other's that I care about and to which I will offer. A background character check, if you will. Not that hard to do. More people do more research on a car they are interested in then into the character of someone they are interested in. IMHO. Happy and smarter 2008.
Lizzie60 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 I usually don't take resolutions... but this year I would like to change my MM (from work) for another one... I am getting tired of him.. but I still need him for a little while... I cancelled for tomorrow... I said I couldn't make it.. he wanted to spend the whole day with me... I just don't feel like seeing him... I just don't want him to flip out like he did last year... anyway... I'd like to change a few... but I want to keep a few (my favourites)... I need changes...
nextel Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 My new years resolution is to work harder, progress: also stick to the deadline I gave MM.
OpenBook Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 My New Year's Resolutions: As always, work on the Fruit of the Spirit - kindness, gentleness, patience, self-control,... I got a long way to go.:D:D Also, always try to keep an Attitude of Gratitude. And continue to resist that MM... I'm fighting it to the death!! I think if I continue to feed off my absolute horror of being controlled by a man, I'll be fine. Whatever it takes.
PoshPrincess Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Well, the good news is that I got through the night without texting him, the bad news is that only because I was busy with my head in a bucket!!! Still, it kept me busy. How utterly STUPID to be dissapointed that he didnt text me. It just goes to show that really, I think he is going to get in touch! Gpt to wrap my head around that! Sorry to thread jack happy new year to all. Well done, ImStunned, for not texting him, especially with a few drinks inside you. That is when I am at my most vulnerable and always give in to the temptation of contacting MM. I don't have a resolution as such but I have now come to the decision (after seeing exMM on New Year's Day) that no matter what his feelings for me he is NEVER going to leave and I have to live my life without him in it. Let's hope 2008 will be a better one for all of us!
PoshPrincess Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 He left his wife on NYE??? What a slime. I guess he really wanted to begin the new year off on the right foot. My Dad left my Mum on New Years Day (a few years ago). His timing, as always, was spot on (NOT). He spent years saying he couldn't leave because of this and that yet the first time he left was her birthday. Yes, she was blinded by love and took him back - never again though! I know there is never a right time to leave someone but there are plenty of wrong times!
Gwyneth Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Ha. My dad's second wife left him on what would have been his and my mom's wedding anniversary. Talk about ironic! No, there never is a good time to leave your spouse, unless it's truly meant to happen.
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