phillip2 Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 ok so here it goes.. 3 days ago i met a lad over the net he seems nice and that, i asked him out coz he only lives 20 mins away and we were going to meet, i said ok come down one day,he said ill text or ring you tommorow, i said gr8, all day he never text,i rang him, and text but no reply til about 11 at night saying sos i neva text i was in hospital i slipped and cut me head, i wil defo ring tommorow.i said ok, tomorow came all day again no contact i rang him ,nothing till 11.45 at night saying he was in hospital again all day.he had appartnyl a fit the night before and they were keeping him in all night. today has come when he might ring but nothing yet hes text a lot saying about 2pm not long now till i come out.then at 4 not long now,then at 4.44 dont ring or text until i text u x with doctor. but its now 7 and nothing yet so i text and said listen if u dont ring or text soon ill av 2 av a think coz its taking to long i wana see u and be with you, tb or ring.what do we think ,am i being messed around. he is 18 and i might meet him this week,he can drive. ?
curiousnycgirl Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 You might be getting messed with, however if you choose to believe he has really been in the hospital, I'd say you are being a total jerk! Clearly he is dealing with a health issue and texting/ringing you would be very low on his list of priorities. Why can't you just leave him alone while he gets himself sorted out, and then if he gets in touch with you, then great, if not - then no harm no foul? I just cannot see how you can think meeting up with you would take priority over his dealing with his medical issues. He specifically asked you not to call or text as he was with the doctor, but you chose to do so anyway. I just cannot understand how you can possibly be so callous. I'm sorry if I am being too harsh - perhaps I've missed something else here - but from what I read, that's my take. Give the guy a chance to recover!!!!
Star Gazer Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 You really need to write out your post in proper English, not text-speak, so that we can understand what you're saying.
Author phillip2 Posted December 30, 2007 Author Posted December 30, 2007 well thats ur view but the way it sounds he clearly does not seem to be in hospital.the way he has been is wierd.curious ny girl you seem to bieleve him but then you say, if you bieleve him your being a total jerk.whos side you on?
curiousnycgirl Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 What I said was if you believe that he has been in the hospital, then I feel constantly calling and texting him to meet you is jerky behaviour. Pushing to meet up when someone is dealing with health issues, IMHO is showing a total lack of concern and poor prioritization. If you do not believe that he has been in the hospital, then I agree he is messing with you. I focussed on believing his was in the hospital, because if I read your post correctly (which was hard to do as it wasn't in plain english) you spent the majority of the post discussing that he was in the hospital. You didn't imply that you did not believe that to be true until your second to last sentence where you asked if you were being messed around. I didn't respond at all to your last comment that he can drive, as I don't even understand it's relevance. In either situation I believe the best course of action is to stop texting and calling and see what he does next and how long it takes him.
Author phillip2 Posted December 30, 2007 Author Posted December 30, 2007 well he text said he will be on his way out soon.
curiousnycgirl Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 That does not mean he will be up to meeting someone for the first time! Generally when people are released from the hospital they are on the way to recovery, but still quite sick. Stop calling and texting him, unless it is a brief text to say that you hope he is feeling better. Then STOP. If he calls when he is ready to meet up great, if not - then it wasn't meant to be.
Author phillip2 Posted December 30, 2007 Author Posted December 30, 2007 well he appears to be ok,numerous times he has said im ok,im not pestering him.
s_n_d Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 I think you need to get to know him first. You obviously havent known him long enough to understand what kind of a man he is. You dont want a man who gives you false hope when theres none.. You know? Thats what I think. So Id say Get to know him better and then take things from there.
Author phillip2 Posted December 31, 2007 Author Posted December 31, 2007 yes well if i meet him it wil just be to get to know each other, i know he has been on here today and he hasnt replyed to my text,or rang lyk he said.
Author phillip2 Posted December 31, 2007 Author Posted December 31, 2007 wel he has rang and seems a nice lad,he sounds dead posh lol as he is from basingstoke and im from liverpool kid lol. So i think he seems genuine really, im going to meet him one day i think.
sedgwick Posted December 31, 2007 Posted December 31, 2007 (edited) Please write in a language we can understand. This is not a text message! Why wouldn't you believe he was really in the hospital? You've only known him for three days! If I was in the hospital, texting someone I met three days ago over the internet would probably not even cross my mind. It doesn't mean there's no future for you, it means he's taking care of an illness! Give him a chance to make contact with you. Calling and texting every day, especially when he asks you not to, is a sure way to keep him from wanting to get involved with you. Edited December 31, 2007 by sedgwick
Author phillip2 Posted December 31, 2007 Author Posted December 31, 2007 Well he has rang and seems a nice lad,He sounds dead posh lol as he is from basingstoke and im from liverpool lol. So i think he seems genuine really, im going to meet him one day i think. Better?
Author phillip2 Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 Well he was meant to be coming today but as its new years day he said he has a hangover, and will come tommorow.however yesterday when i asked him he said he didnt drink.and also when he text me i text back and then his phone was off? :S
s_n_d Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 I dunno about this man. Hes seems kinda sketchy to me. You deserve someone who doesnt lie to you. And it seems to me that he is, by what you just said.
Author phillip2 Posted January 1, 2008 Author Posted January 1, 2008 yes i dono what to do.we shall see if he turns up tommorow.
Lee725 Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 Just a thought, if he has had a head injury & been in hospital, you have txt and rung him repeatedly even when he has asked to be left alone - yet you have never met him... maybe just maybe he is a bit freaked out? Talking to someone on the net, and actually meeting them is 2 different things. I did a internet / meet up thing and i can tell you it scared the life out of me, if he had done this to me before i met him, there is no way i would meet him, i would be scared that he is some kind of possesive freak. People can say all kinds of things when you dont have to look someone in the eye. So as intense as any internet chat you had with him might have been, i hate to say it but you may have scared him off. Leave him alone, dont txt him, dont call him, he is not your BF (yet), let him come to you if / when he decides to.
Jilly Bean Posted January 2, 2008 Posted January 2, 2008 In a language you will understand: Dude is FOS & Ahole 2. In a language for the rest of us - he was messing with you from the get-go, and I think the fact that you keep pursuing him (why do you do that?) means he's getting his jollies knowing you are chasing him. Abort mission, darlin'!
Author phillip2 Posted January 2, 2008 Author Posted January 2, 2008 well he is all after me now, but i dont realy like him anymore,iv seen a pic and he is so different,he is a nice person but i dont fancy him.
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