MLR930 Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 This guy found me on a dating site and we clicked and met for coffee. We had a great time and we continued to flirt with each other and chatted just about every night but he just didn't have the time to meet with me again and when he was available I was always working. Then he suddenly disappeared into thin air and I figured he had moved on, I took him out of my cell phone, AIM and Myspace. Two weeks later he IMs me and apologizes for not being in touch with me and I had told him how I thought he was gone blah blah blah and he said he felt bad "considering how close we actually are" that statement shocked me I really didn't think he felt that way at all. One night I was out with some friends at a bar and I figured what the hey I'll see if he'll show up so I texted him asking him to meet up and he did and we had a great time and he walked me to the car with his arm around me and gave me the greatest kiss of my life. A couple weeks ago I did the same thing and he came out with me and it was just us we had a great time and he drove me home and we sat in the car for an hour together, kissing and cuddling and he said he didn't wanna go home (not in a I wanna go to bed with you way either) and we made plans to see each other Christmas day after I got out of work, but it never happened I called him and no answer and later that night he came online and apologized and said when his 8 year old daughter left he fell asleep. My whole problem is his work schedule, he is a manager of a restaurant and works 70+ a week and when he is free it's after midnight and we are both too tired. I can't complain because he has a daughter he has to make time for too. I just don't know what to do. I've always been told that if a guy really liked me he'd make time for me but what am I supposed to do when he's the boss and HAS to work these horrible hours?
Legend Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 Tough situation. Because if a guy really does like you, he will make time for you. But.... his daughter will definitely always be #1, and you... a close #2..
Javelin Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 Tough situation. Because if a guy really does like you, he will make time for you. But.... his daughter will definitely always be #1, and you... a close #2.. +1, and it looks like you're looking for that number 1 spot! With him, you aren't going to get it, sorry.. You can either accept the fact that you'll be #2 or befriend him and keep it as they say, platonic.
DutchGuy Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 Succesful men with a lot of spare time are scarce.
Jilly Bean Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 I think the point you're missing here, is that both times you texted him last minute to join you, he showed up. Which means he had no existing plans. Which also means he was not proactive in calling YOU in advance for a date. Which means you were an afterthought. Besides the fact that he's playing you, there is something about him that makes me think "married".
Author MLR930 Posted December 30, 2007 Author Posted December 30, 2007 I think the point you're missing here, is that both times you texted him last minute to join you, he showed up. Which means he had no existing plans. Which also means he was not proactive in calling YOU in advance for a date. Which means you were an afterthought. Besides the fact that he's playing you, there is something about him that makes me think "married". When I texted him he was on his way home from work when he got there he still had his suit on and as for being married we know the same people and I went to school with him and his ex (the mother of his child) he is not married.
EYECANDY000 Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 you either have to get use to it, or try to work around his scedule, as well as he working around yours. Meeting him at his job for a kiss, surprising his with romantic love notes on his car.. blah blah blah.. ok im getting to sentimental..
LovesDog Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 he digs you girl...if you are willing to be patient, sounds like he is yours. you just have to be willing to deal with his schedule and yours being so varied. i have a similar situation and it works though i only see him about once a week. if you will be happy with that, then enjoy! also, he sounds like he is guarded a bit and of course, the daughter will always be #1, but you could probably find a special place in his heart, too!
Author MLR930 Posted December 30, 2007 Author Posted December 30, 2007 I have no problem with his daughter being more important on his list than me, that's never been the issue just the job. He told me he has OCD when it comes to that place. I called him the other night to say hi and he told me he was trying to leave at 10:30 and he kept finding things to do. It was 12:50 am when I was talking to him and he was cleaning up but he was flirting with me about being "dirty" LOL I really wanted him to be at a new years eve party with me tomorrow night but as usual he's working and now I'm at the point where I don't even wanna go to the party at all. I'd be thrilled to see him once a week, we met in Oct and I've seen him a total of 3 times and we've never actually spent a whole day together it's always when he's getting out of work.
Jilly Bean Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 Ok, so maybe he's not married, but still. There is probably another woman that none of your common friends know about. And if not, the same premise still remains - you have seen each other three times in three months, and two of those times you had to initiate a last minute hookup. Is this really the kind of situation you want in your life? Actions speak louder than words, hon...
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