SYRACUSE03 Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 So its been 4 months since she left. Things got better, things went slow. Then in November, she decided not to speak to me at all. I never understood it because we were on very good terms even though we were not together. So from early November until Thanksgiving, I went no contact until I sent her an e-mail wishing her a Happy Thanksgiving. I also inquired about why she became so cold over those past few weeks. Then I got slammed on LS for asking her that question since readers told me that I was out of line saying that to her because we were not together. Anyway, after that, I did the NC thing. It sucked and still does but I didn't mope around. Fast forward 30 days later and I get a text message on Christmas wishing me a Merry Christmas. I replied the same back to her. Nothing more, nothing less. It felt good that she text'd me but I'm not sure why she did it. I'm tired of the stupid games, excuses, immature stuff. I cannot be bitter because it'll just destroy me. Anyway, I'm still eating right, working out, getting in shape, etc. At least I can do things to better myself. After venting, I do have a point or for that matter, a question. Do you guys think that she at least has me in the back of her mind? I would like to think so since she was all I thought about for months...even though it's gotten a heck of a lot better. Thanks for reading this. Happy Holidays!
Stubborn Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 My first reaction is: was it a text she sent to everyone on her list?
Trialbyfire Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 Hey Syracuse, she might be reciprocating your Thanksgiving text. Regardless, do you really want to do this to yourself? You have been doing very well, so keep on doing well. She knows where to find you, if she wants to reconnect. Hopefully by then, you would have moved on and found someone worthwhile. Even if you haven't, doesn't mean you want her back at that point in time.
Author SYRACUSE03 Posted December 30, 2007 Author Posted December 30, 2007 Thanks for the reply! She sent it to about 7 people...family members, me, and a mutual friend we have. I'm not looking deep into it. I was just curious on readers thoughts as to what she's thinking...even adding me to her text list. Time to make a New Years resolution and stop posting here so i give myself a chance to get over this and not look back.
Author SYRACUSE03 Posted December 30, 2007 Author Posted December 30, 2007 TBF...I have no idea why I do this to myself. I'm just tired of the setbacks. Somedays I do very well but then somedays it seems to collapse without warning. Things are average right now and I just want to get out of this funk and I really don't know how. Each day passes and time gets less and less. Hey, I should be thankful for what I have, not what I don't have. It's just hard to do even though it's the right thing to do.
Trialbyfire Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 Four months isn't that long, in that you should be completely moved on. You'll find yourself having set backs like this for awhile longer. It's normal. As long as you don't let it hold you back, each time you work through these issues, you're further along. You must admit that as time goes by, it gets better and easier.
Author SYRACUSE03 Posted December 30, 2007 Author Posted December 30, 2007 I don't want to misunderstand your post but are you saying that I should or should not have already moved on? Anyway, I'm trying. You are right, it does get easier but one of my biggest concerns is my future. I think I have a terrible habit of holding past failures against future relationships. I do not do it on purpose. It's just a defense mechanism which I wish I knew how to defeat. It's not fair to a significant other. If I were able to do that, I'm sure life and my relationships would be much easier. Thanks for the post.
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