What's the point of dating, am i being selfish?

[bserious2012]

I've gone out on two dates in as many nights with a guy that I met about a week and a half ago. The first date we went to a movie and then dave and busters. The second date he took me to play pool with his friends. On both of the dates random people that he knew walked up to me and told me "he's a great guy." The dates were fun and we even had short little make out sessions after each one. I'm not overly attracted to him but I do get a tingly sensation everytime we get hot and heavy. I think this is mostly from the kissing not him particularly. He works on a cruise ship and is going to be going back to work at the end of next week. I won't see him for at least five months, but we've discussed possibly talking through emails and phone calls. Chances are good that we'll go on another date next week before he leaves. I like spending time with this guy and having fun, you know, just doing all the dating stuff - but I know I'm not really attracted to him or interested in getting into anything serious. He hasn't ever been in a serious relationship and he told me he's tired of the traveling life because he's been doing it for three years and he's ready to come home. He's going to try and settle down and get into something serious, he's 25. Last night while we were kissing he was really getting into it, which is fine but he told me that he wants me so bad and although I'm sure a lot of it was sexual in nature I'm positive there was more to it. If he does ask me on another date I'm going to take it that he is interested in pursuing our relationship, the only problem is I don't know what kind of relationship it is. Should I tell him that I'm only interested in dating and let him decide what to do next? or should I just turn the date down? I'm enjoying myself, and I thought that was the whole point but I don't want to possibly have him waste his time when he could be spending it with someone who will eventually want to commit to him. Its quite possible that he's just as satisfied as I am when you consider his work situation and the fact that he hasn't dated in a long time. Would I ruin the situation by trying to have such a serious conversation so early?

[LovesDog]

don't stress on it. just go out and have fun. don't burst his bubble, he's leaving. and you are having a good time, so enjoy it! if things progress later, then decide how you feel.

[EYECANDY000]

I would just have fun with him and get to know him further. you guys can email / phone each other until his assignment is up. and once he returns see where the relationship goes. But it is entirely to early to wait for a relationship with someone who you barely know and know if your compatible with. You already said he isnt the sexiest man or something to that nature. What if you meet someone tomorrow and he is handsome, great personality, and you are compatible? Im sure you will forget all about Mr. Cruise Ship

[bserious2012]

That's funny, Mr. Cruise ship. I guess you guys are right, my mom said the same thing "just enjoy yourself" But she also thinks I should be careful because he works on a ship I guess it all makes sense but now he's talking about not even going back to the ship. Do you think its a test to see how I feel about him? He immediately asked me if I would come see him if he moved to this city like 15 minutes away. He also invited me out again and we talked on the phone for like an hour. And now all he wants to talk about is making love and he even got the balls to say we should just sleep in the same bed just to cuddle. Is it true that guys push the boundaries early just to see how far you'd let them go? lol, i think he feels like he has the upper hand since he is older than me but I feel pretty good about the situation. I guess that's because I know how I feel and I know I have no intention of ever sleeping with him for the purpose of cuddling or otherwise.