StateOfHope Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 I will start at the begining so you all can get a glimpse into my world and help me out. James and I met in November of 2006. We were on and off till jan.. of 2007. Thats when I moved in. When I moved in with him i just left a guy i was living with and it was rough. I still talked to my ex and said things I shouldn't have said to him. Thats when James started to message a girl he worked with. They talked about things they wanted to do to each other. I caught him and he said he wouldn't do it again. Well he did it again. So i started to talk to other guys. He went back online where we met and talked to other women so i did the same with guys. It was not good. We both love each other. i moved out in november and moved back to Iowa. I have been here since and got a great job at Harley Davidson and love it. James and I have been talking and sorting our problems and willing to put everything behind us because at the end of the day we still love each other. I am scared to leave my family and have them mad at me. I am supposed to leave in the morning at 8am to go back to oklahoma. James and i have been talking and he keeps saying there comes a point in everyones life that you need to chose the man you love because thats your family you want to start... Does that all make sence.. do you think I should go back... or stay.. why or why not?
lovesparis Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 i don't think that either of you are emotionally ready for an exclusive relationship. you moved in with him just after you moved out from another man. you need to take time for yourself. you need to heal. you need to find who you are, accept who you are (or change what you don't like), and love yourself before you can expect anyone else to love you. you both need to work on communication. relationships WILL fail without good communication skills, and from your post, it sounds like rather than talking things out with each other you both just reacted to spite the other person. once you figure yourself out, if you find yourself still thinking about james, then contact him. but not until you know and love yourself.
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