whichwayisup Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 When in a romantic relationship, I can't help but think that some part (no matter how small) of their every mood and reaction is somehow linked to their feelings for me. That's why I get hurt. That's why I am sensitive to their moods. And it works in the reverse too: If they're ridiculously happy for reasons that have nothing to do with me (they won the lottery, for example), somehow I talk myself into thinking their delirium is my doing. It's more than just being sensitive to their moods, it's kind of setting yourself up for pain. Not everything is about you. (I don't mean that the way it reads...)
Trialbyfire Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 One last thing SG. You know you're an LS Goddess. Live it, breath it, believe it.
oppath Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 One last thing SG. You know you're an LS Goddess. Live it, breath it, believe it. Are there any LS Gods? I've know I've sparked a few "god damn" its, Oppath, but I'm just curious. If you are a goddess, can you cast a little spell for me for this new year? I'll do a little booty dance as tribute! Seriously, though, you are a goddess. And you know...relationships can survive minor tiffs and disagreements. In fact, you can do lots of things wrong, but with the right person, if commitment is there, it will work out.
underpants Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 "LOOK, F*ck*er! I don't have a particular answer in mind, I'm just curious about timing so that I can figure out whether I have time to do other stuff while you're tied up. I know you don't want to be there, and I'm in no rush! Now untie your panties, and get here when you can!" Okay this made me laugh and it is my favorite response. I would only add something about hot sex at the end. Star, I do think you are oversensitive to his moods and that stems from alot of valid concerns. Yet, you do want to enjoy the time you do have with him. Come on. I know you can be a proper smart arse. I've seen it here. Lighten up a little and have fun. Maybe he will too. Tease him.
whichwayisup Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Yeah, tell him, "there's nothing like a good blowjob that will cure that mood of yours!"
Trialbyfire Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Are there any LS Gods? I've know I've sparked a few "god damn" its, Oppath, but I'm just curious. Y'all have to create your own male version of the Parthenon, tap the appropriate LS guys to step up and you've got your own little LS Gods' club. I'll let SG answer the booty dance question.
Art_Critic Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Yeah, tell him, "there's nothing like a good blowjob that will cure that mood of yours!" No.. Show him...
Author Star Gazer Posted December 29, 2007 Author Posted December 29, 2007 Oppath, if I could cast spells, do you think I'd be posting on LS asking for help with my b*tchy BF? But out of curiosity, what would my spell do?? BTW - if I drop my laptop in the tub, will I electrocute myself?
spookie Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 BTW - if I drop my laptop in the tub, will I electrocute myself? I hope you're not thinking of suicide. (kidding) I think it'd be a good idea for you to take a break from analyzing your BF on here anyway, so why don't you leave the laptop in your room and read something else in the tub?
oppath Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Oppath, if I could cast spells, do you think I'd be posting on LS asking for help with my b*tchy BF? But out of curiosity, what would my spell do?? BTW - if I drop my laptop in the tub, will I electrocute myself? You can't cast spells on your own boyfriends. Good witches can only use their powers for other people's awesome. If you want to be a bad witch...send me a PM But I imagine it would make Trialbyfire fall in love with me and have long conversations about the meaning of life, or if that's too much to ask, I'd like her lesser equivalent in Scarlett Johannson and long conversations about "do you like that?" I'm commencing the booty shaking upon submitting reply. You probably will not electrocute yourself but I wouldn't advise it.
norajane Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Okay this made me laugh and it is my favorite response. I would only add something about hot sex at the end. Star, I do think you are oversensitive to his moods and that stems from alot of valid concerns. Yet, you do want to enjoy the time you do have with him. Come on. I know you can be a proper smart arse. I've seen it here. Lighten up a little and have fun. Maybe he will too. Tease him. I love this advice, underpants. Use your sense of humor, Star, and a little naughty sexual innuendo. You'll both feel better, and it'll actually make things more open between you. He'll know you're disappointed because you'll both have to wait a little longer to tear each other's clothes off that night, and not because he's somehow letting you down.
oppath Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Y'all have to create your own male version of the Parthenon, tap the appropriate LS guys to step up and you've got your own little LS Gods' club. I'm not going to be tapping any LS guys, thank you very much. I'm monotheistic. The club I'm in only has one dude: me.
Trialbyfire Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 I'm not going to be tapping any LS guys, thank you very much. I'm monotheistic. The club I'm in only has one dude: me. What about "strength in numbers"?
oppath Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 What about "strength in numbers"? Numbers are complex, irrational, etc. My club has a MEMBER, I don't need any more.
Trialbyfire Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Numbers are complex, irrational, etc. My club has a MEMBER, I don't need any more. I see you have SUBSTANTIAL belief in your MEMBER. And with this, best to dine and dash. Sorry for the jack, SG.
oppath Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 I see you have SUBSTANTIAL belief in your MEMBER. And with this, best to dine and dash. Sorry for the jack, SG. Dine and dash? Oh no. This **** is a Sizzler buffet. Or on Valentine's day, Red Lobster Back on topic: SG, next time just say "Don't get pissy at me. I was looking forward to massaging every inch of your body. I guess now I'll have to jump you as soon as you walk in the door. You owe me."
Author Star Gazer Posted December 29, 2007 Author Posted December 29, 2007 (edited) Now I'm saying, "F*CKER!" So I went and got in the tub, surrounded my candles and aromatherapy bubble bath. About an hour or so ago, BF was initiating texts bitching about his work situation and something else. 30 minutes in to my bubble bath (an hour after his last text), I call him. This is 4 hours after we last discussed timing. I've been waiting all night for some ETA. He answers the phone with THE MOST annoyed-sounding, "HELLO?!" I'm pleasant, normal, letting things roll off my back. I'm making sexual innuendo, about how I'm all wet in the tub, waiting for him to come over...hint hint, wink wink. He basically ignores this because he's pissed. His friend picked up his skis for him while he was at work and he had just gotten home to learn they hadn't been waxed. So his friend ran out to get wax. We keep talking, and he basically tells me that he has too much stuff to do tonight before skiing tomorrow so he doesn't see how it's possible to see me. Says he feels like he's being pulled in 5 different directions. I tell him I don't want him to feel pressured to see me, that whatever he wants to do is okay with me. As these words are coming out of his mouth, he yells: "Ffffffffffuuuuuuucccccckkkkkkkk!!" and tells me that they mounted the wrong bindings on the wrong skis (they're brand new) and says in a snappy voice, "I'm gonna have to call you back" and virtually hangs up on me. And now I'm in tears. What a lovely way to start the weekend. I'm a little pissed too. I had a horrible week - worked through Christmas, mom canceled Christmas, boss told me he expects me to work this weekend and on NYE... I'm stressed too, ya know. Edited December 29, 2007 by Star Gazer
Author Star Gazer Posted December 29, 2007 Author Posted December 29, 2007 This isn't fair. I want to punch something.
johan Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 I'm pretty sure you still haven't found Mr. Right, Star. I'm sorry to say, but this guy isn't impressing me.
Trialbyfire Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 I can understand why this would be frustrating. While now is not the time, you can't keep this up. You're going to have to assert yourself so you don't end up becoming his proverbial punching bag. If he's cranky, he'll have to eat some of it too.
Citizen Erased Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Yeah I agree with Johan. Nothing you have said so far has suggested he treats you the way you should be treated. I hope I am wrong But he cannot keep taking all his **** out on you, it is not right hon.
Author Star Gazer Posted December 29, 2007 Author Posted December 29, 2007 (edited) I'm so sad. I'm alone and sad, again. I want to call him back and tell him off... but it's just the situation. Edited December 29, 2007 by Star Gazer
oppath Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Anything you say or do right now is going to be irrational. Actually, I take that back, it would be quite rational in my opinion because he is placing not just second to his career, which is justified, but more like 4th. I'm sorry SG. But please, wait a day to ream him out.
Trialbyfire Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Awww...sweetie. It's going to be okay. It will be. Don't call him tonight. Sleep on it so you're calm, thus thinking clearly. I would take him on tomorrow.
spookie Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 I'm so sad. I'm alone and sad, again. I want to call him back and tell him off... I'm impressed that you haven't yet. I agree that it isn't fair. You work too, your job is also stressful and if the way you were treated on Xmas is any indiciation, it also sucks. It's not fair that he gets to be the petulant bt!chy one all the time (and unsure of where he wants to take it when he moves on top) while you sit around waiting for him to inform you when he's coming over so you can rub his feet. Don't let him upset you like this Star. At this point, he hasn't done enough to deserve that kind of power over your emotions.
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