My Ex's Email

[RenaissanceMan]

Hi Everyone,

 

I'm new to LS, but not new to break ups. My ex fiance of 5 years and I broke up in mid October 07. She was my first love. I should have cut her off in August 06 when I caught her exchanging emails between her and a former ex boyfriend. I was an idiot and tried at it for another year. Throughout the course of that year I got her pregnant, but then she had a miscarriage in December 06. In July of 2007 she had met up with the same ex boyfriend I had caught her exchanging emails with. From that point on she promised not to talk to him. After that I caught her lying a few times. She claimed to be hanging with a friend one night, but I knew she wasn't . She wanted to stay at her moms house so she could have space. I told her that if we can't work things out under our roof like a married couple, then we shouldn't be together. I suggested to her that she should move out. When she came over to get a few things we ended up arguing, I called her a cheater, I told her I should of cut her off a long time ago.....she ended up crying. I didn't even end up helping her move her stuff out. She tried to ask for half a months rent. I told her I wasn't giving it to her since she didn't give me a 30 day notice. There was so much animosity. At the end of October I met someone and posted a pic of me and my new GF on MYspace. She saw the picture, called me up in tears and wanted to work things out only if Myself, her, and the new GF met up in a public place to talk things out. I didn't agree with it since it was pathetic. A few days later I called her up to see if we could work things out. I find out she had been on a date.....and I guess the guy had finally called her afterwards. She changed her number and didn't call me. Since the breakup, I have periodically checked her email, (I have access to it). I've minimized no contact since then except for a few emails i sent. I noticed when I check her email...she reads them and leaves them in her inbox, but deletes all of the other important email she receives. I feel that in a way she is holding on to me because she doesn't delete my emails. What do you guys think? Every now and then she would go through her whole inbox and delete emails...she never deletes the emails I send her. I know I am probably hurting myself more by checking her email etc... I have been on dates since my breakup, but haven't really gotten over her completely. I was able to get her new phone number, I ended up texting her a merry xmas on Christmas Eve. 2 days later she calls me asking me how I got her number. All I told her was.....I'm happy, your happy it's not important. It told her I was happy for her. She insisted on talking to me but I told her I didn't want to. She responded to me by saying "Is she there". She thought that maybe one of the new girls I'm talking to was there while we were talking. I thought I sensed some Jealousy....what do you guys think?

 

Overall, I have been taking care of myself....I have lost 20lbs since the breakup, bought new clothes, met new woman.....but guess the fact she is my 1st love it makes it a little harder.

[shaynej76]

Hey man, your story is so similar to mine! My ex fiance of 4 years and have a 7 month old baby. I was in school and working full time. Well I didnt have the time for her like I used to,for obvious reasons.There is a whole new ball game after a child comes into play. Well one of my employees and her started an affair. (I was head chef at golf club)she a waitress and he a cook. Well this been taking place for a month or so then I caught on.E-mails and my space. Well I told her to leave and she did. I was heartbroken and it took a mere 5 days for her to screw him!She says only once.yeah right. So now I have forgiven her since I do love her and people make mistakes. We have a baby to raise as well. Anyways we are in counseling and I want her back and now she isn't sure. Well enough about me. I suggest that if you do love her DONT let her go. Maybe you did because of pride or whatever if you truly love her .Get her back. That is if your thinking forever if not forever you have to just except the fact and move forward. Make a list of the pros and cons of the relationship and maybe that cn help you decide. Thats what I did. And the hardest thing to know is she was with another man,so now I have to suck up all my pride and make my family work.! It sucks and hurts. good luck man i hope the best for you!

[CaliGuy]

I think you reading her emails is a breach of privacy and you should be ashamed....

[kymberann]

She is holding on to you? That is a ludacris statement from someone who is reading her email! Just because she is exchanging emails does not mean she was chating at the time. What do you expect when you check on her and post new pics of a new girl friend? You both are sending mixed messages!