Has this ever happened to you?

[thekid55]

Long distance has caused a division in my relationship. Can you relate? I'm a freshman in college and my ex-girlfriend is a junior in high school. The school I go to is about 2 hours away from my home. I live there during the semesters. My ex and I had a great relationship for a year and a half. She, along with my friends and activities, made my junior/senior year of high school amazing. She was always there for me and willing to extend a helping hand to me along the way with college. She was determined to stand by me when I went to school. We were very loving, sexual, and always happy together. She had all the qualities I found desirable in a girl. She wrote in my yearbook that I had changed her for the better and she wanted to be forever mine. She planned on coming to a school near mine in 2 years.

 

She decided to end the relationship back in October when I came home for my old high school's homecoming. She said that she couldn't handle the distance and just wanted to be able to experience high school. Prior to that, I made a few trips home to see her and she visited me one weekend. I was crushed by the decision, but I was understanding to a degree. I think she has been influenced by her friends to a degree. She seems like she is all about partying and things of that nature now.

 

The first month after the breakup, I clinged onto her because I felt hurt and I was looking for answers. I really didn't get any from her. When I called her one night because I was upset by all of this, she told me to "get a hobby" because I was always so used to talking to her. Totally heartless. She has been messing around with a few different guys since the breakup. Probably just rebounds. During this month, she would tell me that her family was going to come visit me one weekend. Never happened. Told me that they were coming the next weekend. Didn't happen. A lot of lies and false promises. I'm afraid to give into her again.

 

We had plans to get together when I came home for Thanksgiving. But she broke them and gave me the excuse that "she wasn't ready to see me". She even went to the degree of saying "Don't talk to me ever again". So I went back to school. She called me at 12 AM on my birthday to say happy birthday. She also told me to expect something in the mail. I never got anything and when I asked her about it, she said that "You dont talk to me anymore"...She told me to never talk to her again, so I was just respecting her wishes?

 

At this point, I really stopped initiating contact with her. If she contacted me, I would keep it brief with her. She did ask me when I was coming home for winter break and I told her. I went to visit her at work the first day I got home and she was so excited to see me. We had plans for the following night, but she never called me.

 

So, I've been home for about 2 weeks. There is this guy that she works with, they seem to have a little fling going on. They are the same age. She has only known him for about a month. They really are polar opposites. He does drugs and I guess she wants someone wild. Personally, he is extremely ugly and has gross habits, so I don't understand her thinking there. They have pictures together on each of their myspaces and have their names with <3s next to them in their online profiles. Apparently they like each other, but they aren't boyfriend/girlfriend. Her best friend told me that they have had sex already. After I heard that, I blocked her online. My myspace has been deleted. I don't know how someone could have sex with another person for only knowing them for 2 weeks. What if he has some disease? He also told her that he was a virgin...probably BS.... His myspace is filled with comments from girls. I was only other person she had been with sexually.

 

So it's been about a week since I heard from her. She wrote this myspace blog and I was in it. She said that she "thinks she wasted a year and a half of high school with me". Pretty mind blowing. However, she did call me last night at 730. Then again at 930. Texted me saying "Hey" at 940. Then called me from two of her friend's phones around 10. No voicemails or anything. I didn't respond to anything. I'm so disgusted by her. If she would have let a voicemail or something, then I guess it would have been an important call. Maybe they were just toying with me, but she never done anything like that since the breakup..

 

My life since the breakup: I was initially really hurt for about a month. I have started to go to a lot of parties and dates and things of that nature. I'm really enjoying myself. I've been working a lot, but I do want her back. Well, not this her, the old her. But the one her may never come back again. I really don't want to get played again and I don't know if I can trust her....I have a lot of feelings for her so it's a really a battle between my heart and mind.

 

I have also noticed that she either texts me or calls me after she goes out with this new guy. She never mentions that she goes out with him, just small talk. I find out later that she previously went out with that day.

 

How do you intrepret her behavior? I really don't want to give her an inch of my attention though because I don't want to get burned again. What do you think I should do the next time she contacts me? What would you do if you were me? I have 3 weeks left before I go back to school. By not answering her calls, do you think I'm making her miss me?

[EYECANDY000]

This girl is playing games with your emotions only because she know that she can, and you would be right back in her face.. Do your self a favor and stop responding to her texts and calls.. seems like she sees you as a very gullible person with no back bone.. where as you are just trying to be the nice guy.. Leave her alone!!

[Saxis]

This girl is trash. Tell her not to contact you anymore and follow through. Block her on everything you can, don't take calls, delete messages/e-mails before reading them and don't look at her MySpace. Don't call her or write her or anything. Welcome to No Contact!

 

Go to college, concentrate on your studies, have fun, date other people and soon you will probably find someone much better than her!

[Walk]

She doesn't want you in her life. She's playing you. If you continue contact with her she's going to rip your heart out and dance on it with spiked heels.

 

Do yourself a favor and cut her out of your life for good.

 

There are a lot of wonderful, beautiful women out there who would give their left arm to be with someone like you. But you're hung up on some girl who couldn't give a shyt about you.

 

You need a ceremonal destruction of the relationship. Change your phone numbers, change your email, change your IM sn, change everything you have that she could contact you through. If you run into her on the street, don't talk to her. Be unavailable to the extreme. She is NOT what you need in you life. She's not helping you in anyway, she's causing you a lot of pain by playing with your emotions, she insults you behind your back one second then wants you to be nice to her when she calls, she's FCKING some other guy, and she's contacting you behind his back. She is NOT the person you used to love. Mourn the death of who she used to be, and then move on with your life.