Stubborn Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 I've been here before- you can read my previous posts to catch up to speed. What brings me here is that it's over. He called me when I was thousdands of miles away from my family, and ended our three year relationship over the phone- when he could have driven three hours south and done it to my face! We live together, but are on a school break now. I know I should be doing no-contact, but after the stressful year I've had (he cheated, my dad passed), it's really killing me. Even though I know it's all for the best. He answers my calls, or calls back.. but is usually short and sometimes mean. I just don't understand how he could go from "I love and miss you" one day to valuing his freedom to go to Hooters the next, and saying that he no longer cares. I think he's already pursuing other girls. And I know I shouldn't be doing this- but I checked his facebook profile, and he's adding all these stupid "perfect match" and "are you a sex machine?" applications. What is he doing? Does he really care if his friends thing he's a sex machine? Is he trying to look like a skank? Is he trying to upset me more? What is it?! "Festive" Mood? He's totally gotta be trying to get under my skin. It would just feel better to me if I felt like he was mourning like I have. I think most of my upset is due to his indifference to my feelings. We almost broke up for good this summer, and I was kind and patient with his relentless phone calls- why can't he do that for me? His behavior is driving me away more- not making me more jealous, and for that I'm thankful. I just wish I knew WTF this behavior is all about.
sedgwick Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 it really sounds like NC is your only option. it's hard but it does get easier. don't let yourself be belittled every time you talk to him. it sounds like being in contact is only hurting you. the facebook stuff sounds really immature. how old is this guy?
Author Stubborn Posted December 28, 2007 Author Posted December 28, 2007 (edited) it sounds like being in contact is only hurting you. the facebook stuff sounds really immature. how old is this guy? no-contact almost seems like a game to me, and I hate games... and yeah, it hurts, but afterwards, I'm usually left with "holy crap he's a self-absorbed ass" and not "I'm dying", which is how I feel before I call. I went more than 24 hours without calling, and every second was painful.. my chest was heavy, and I was totally pathetic. He's 21. And yeah, he's been acting super immature lately. Or always. When we met, he was great, charming, chivalrous, etc. Funny that over Thanksgiving, when we got back from his mom's house, I even told him that I prefered the guy his mom thought he was. Yet it doesn't make losing one's best friend any easier. I just crave the affection and closeness. Edited December 28, 2007 by Stubborn
Author Stubborn Posted December 29, 2007 Author Posted December 29, 2007 Update to our situation... I'm feeling better.. and we want to try friends. Tips for keeping things friends?
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