Chrome Barracuda Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Yo ADR, it's your boy CB. Listen man, I feel where your coming from I would want revenge on the OM as well. As the lord sayeth: Vengence shall be mines! But your wrong to matter into your own hands. Let the lord deal with them. Listen you may have been betrayed and used and felt like your whole marriage was treated like a joke. I get that. I've been there too. But getting back by sleeping with his old girlfriend, just to toss it back in the dudes face? I dont know man, that seems like a low blow even for a guy like me and I am a mean mutha when crossed. lol. It may backfire on you in different ways. The girl may fall in love with you and you wont, You may get her pregnant if the condom pops, The OM may try to kill you for interefering with his son, granted he banged your ex and intereferred with your marraige but, that's his kid. I couldnt imagine his face when if he came to pick up his kid and you open the door saying surprise!!! GOD!!!!!!!!! That look must be captured on film!!!! Surprise rat bastard!!! LMAO! I'm just saying man , although revenge would be nice, you could do so much just by implying your sleeping with each other, you dont need to actually do it, you know. Good luck to you man, just date and sleep with other women.
underpants Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 I'm just saying man , although revenge would be nice, you could do so much just by implying your sleeping with each other, you dont need to actually do it, you know. Hellz yea. That is the approach I would take when you meet this ex for coffee. If she is on board and you two can handle watching the crazy go down then that is about as far as I would take it. You two come from a similiar place of hurt. While this is a shared similiar pain it is not a good relationship foundation. You would have to deal with these ex's forever then (yikes). Just be friends. Cheaters are paranoid by nature. Exploit it a little and get a laugh out of it. However, do move on and away from it. Ultimately you want a good and healthy relationship with a good and healthy partner that starts from a good and healthy place.
underpants Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 The best revenge is living well. This is true but sometimes you gotta raise a little Hell.
brothermartin Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 The best revenge is living well. No. The best revenge is watching them destroy themselves and being there at the end to say "I told you so."
Chrome Barracuda Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 No. The best revenge is watching them destroy themselves and being there at the end to say "I told you so." LOL. Or what I always say: That's what you left me for, That's what you wanted! That works too.
quankanne Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 oh, where oh where to start? About the link – I think you need to use the scowly faced photo for your avatar here, to reflect the mood of this post. It'd be quite effective, I'm thinking You're a real cutie in the other shots, and I'm glad to hear you've been able to reverse the weight-loss problem as a God-loving dude, seriously consider leaving it in His hands. I know she isn't going to be smote … smited … smacked down … whatever the proper tense of that word is! because He loves her sorry butt as much as he loves yours and mine, and really, He's the one who handles these kinds of things best. Besides, the best revenge you could ever get on your ex or the guy she dogged you for is to live well. that means moving past the pain she's inflicted and being happy with your life. Not an easy thing to do, but entirely possible if you keep your heart and mind open to it. Because the longer you hang on to your anger, the tighter the hold she keeps on your heart and your mind, and believe me, she's not worth all that energy it takes to hate her. Why give her that when you have the option to negate her emotionally? You certainly deserve better than to be chained by that hate … peace, quank AF pilot huh? Does Lackland AFB ring a bell?
Author ARDriver01 Posted December 29, 2007 Author Posted December 29, 2007 To Chrom and Underpants. Thanks for being somewhat on board. You guys are right. Maybe we'll just be friends. FRIENDS is even better because then niether of us are weak. And she'll probably be on board to be friends and not think I'm a psycho. Yes sometimes you gotta raise a little hell.
Author ARDriver01 Posted December 29, 2007 Author Posted December 29, 2007 I think you need to use the scowly faced photo for your avatar here, to reflect the mood of this post. It'd be quite effective, I'm thinking You're a real cutie in the other shots, peace, quank AF pilot huh? Does Lackland AFB ring a bell? Yeah, you may be right... Hey thank's:o Lackland?!?!? AAAAAhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!
Mr. Lucky Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 that means moving past the pain she's inflicted and being happy with your life. Not an easy thing to do, but entirely possible if you keep your heart and mind open to it. Because the longer you hang on to your anger, the tighter the hold she keeps on your heart and your mind, and believe me, she's not worth all that energy it takes to hate her. Why give her that when you have the option to negate her emotionally? You certainly deserve better than to be chained by that hate … Really well put . And all of this nonsense about hooking up with his Ex are just links in that chain. You should looking ahead, not back... Mr. Lucky
whichwayisup Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 Them knowing that you and his ex are friends will be revenge enough. You don't have to sleep with her, have a relationship with her to make them wonder WTF is going on between you two.
Author ARDriver01 Posted December 30, 2007 Author Posted December 30, 2007 Them knowing that you and his ex are friends will be revenge enough. You don't have to sleep with her, have a relationship with her to make them wonder WTF is going on between you two. Yeah, I don't know why I jumped right into the idea of being with her intimately... I guess I'm must lonely. But friends, yeah. That's what I'm going for now.
quankanne Posted December 30, 2007 Posted December 30, 2007 oh, just being friends with this person in reality will kick their imagination into overdrive because they're automatically going to assume that it's a revenge thing, that you're doing it to get back at them or to do it with her, and you'll get the last laugh. And all you have to do is just be friendly with the gal! Diabolical, but completely innocent!!! :laugh: Lackland?!?!? AAAAAhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!! a good kind of "AAAAHHHHHH!!!!" – or a bad kind? My friend's daughter did her basic training out there and she said that they never got to hang out in the city until after graduation, which I thought sucked because SA can be fun.
Woggle Posted January 1, 2008 Posted January 1, 2008 Just forget about her and let her dig her own hole. People like her usually do and when she does you can take some satisfaction in it but don't waste any energy on trying to get revenge or trying to get back at her or the OM. Just move on with your life and be happy.
JustBreathe Posted January 3, 2008 Posted January 3, 2008 ARDriver... This quote helped keep me in line back when I was reeling, filled with hate and thoughts of revenge. I don't know, maybe you will find it useful. I taped it onto my computer monitor and it was there for about 2 years before it fell off: "He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you." -- Friedrich Nietzsche
mental_traveller Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 So, I've been away from my sucubus wife for a month now. I'm putting on some weight and doing the whole online dating thing. I'm having good luck and meeting many interesting people. I can't seem to shake the fact that I've been so wronged though. I feel increasingly angry all day at these two idiots. The guy she's effing has no life, has never worked a day in his life, doesn't drive and lives in a sober living home. He laghed at me when I called him a month ago to hold him accountable for his bad behavior and hung up on me. My wife then called me to defend him and ask why I called him to which I replied with venomous scourning. She hasn't called me since. The fact is this: These two vampires act out in selfishness and hurt people. When they've done their damage, they try to forget about it and they continue being drains on society and ruining other peoples lives with their crys for attention(cutting, drug addiction, hospital overnighters and other BS). They resent those that hold them accountable and become angry without any real privilage to it. I've been through this before and this time I wont be swept under the carpet with the rest of their many skeletons. They taught me to hate, and now I'm going to teach them to fear. I'm going out for coffee with the Other Guys ex-. I found her URL. She's also his baby's momma. I want to test the waters and see if there is any kind of chemistry with her. She's cute and seems interesting. I would love to be the positive strong male figure to his daughter and do the things that he can't/won't do for her, ie.. Disneyland, shopping, parks and teaching. If his ex likes me, with the understanding of who I am, this could be a very profitable situation for both of us. We're meeting up this weekend. I hope things go smooth. I don't like being betrayed, lied to and manipulated. This has gone on too long with these F**ks. They think I'm gone, but storm is coming. Don't do anything you'd condemn if another person did it; don't do anything you'd be ashamed of later. It would kinda suck to play with this woman's emotions to get back at her ex and your wife. Now if you actually do get along and are interested in her for her own sake, fair enough. Otherwise, try to find a way to get revenge that does not hurt an innocent third party.
HokeyReligions Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 So your goal is to be just like your Ex-W and her BF? Deceptive, manipulative, devious, weak, vindictive and sneaky? And this is part of your recovery ? Your best "revenge" would be to live a happy, purpose-filled, meaningful life with your Ex clearly in your rear view mirror. Any time wasted thinking abour her and whatever she might be doing (and who she might be doing it with) costs only you. How much more are you willing to throw away? Mr. Lucky Ditto! Take ownership of your pain - you are hurting you now - they aren't.
Author ARDriver01 Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 : "He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you." -- Friedrich Nietzsche That's good.
Author ARDriver01 Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 Take ownership of your pain - you are hurting you now - they aren't. You see, that pisses me off. They aren't hurting. It's all off balance.
Kasan Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 You see, that pisses me off. They aren't hurting. It's all off balance. I have wondered how you were doing--how is your grandmother and school going?
Author ARDriver01 Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 I have wondered how you were doing--how is your grandmother and school going? My grandmothers condition is worsening. I had to drop my classes this semester because of the affair and all the irrefutable damage it did + divorce and asset splitting. Couldn't consentrate or make my classes with all the drama. I'm starting up again this spring though. I'm going to take it slow. One class at a time until things get smooth. Thanks for your concern.
Author ARDriver01 Posted January 30, 2008 Author Posted January 30, 2008 It's been a while since I started this post. Nothing has changed. I'm so angry I don't really know who I am at this point. I'm consumed by hate and it's getting unbearable. Yes I'm in IC. It helps for the evening that I go and then I'm back to square one. I guess I don't take rejection all that well. Especially from someone like her, after all the worthless effort I put in to make her happy. She treated me like I was worthless when it was her that is and will always be worthless. I still have an uncontrollable urge to get back in the cruelest fashion. The OGuys ex/baby'smomma) wrote me back yesterday, and I guess she's down for the Vengence as well. Something must have happened, and argument or something to inspire her to approve the friend request.
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 It's been a while since I started this post. Nothing has changed. I'm so angry I don't really know who I am at this point. I'm consumed by hate and it's getting unbearable. Yes I'm in IC. It helps for the evening that I go and then I'm back to square one. I guess I don't take rejection all that well. Especially from someone like her, after all the worthless effort I put in to make her happy. She treated me like I was worthless when it was her that is and will always be worthless. I still have an uncontrollable urge to get back in the cruelest fashion. The OGuys ex/baby'smomma) wrote me back yesterday, and I guess she's down for the Vengence as well. Something must have happened, and argument or something to inspire her to approve the friend request. Wow. listen man. You need to let go of the hate and rage and anger. It sucks I know but right now you know it isnt right. Remember what I said about the lord having vengence? Focus on rebuilding your life for the better. Be friends with his woman, your only gonna compound the situation by sleeping with her. I know something bad will happen. Trust me on that one. Let the anger go.
Author ARDriver01 Posted January 30, 2008 Author Posted January 30, 2008 Be friends with his woman, your only gonna compound the situation by sleeping with her. . Oh, I don't want to sleep with her, trust me on that one. It's about the thoughts and fears that will be obsesively spinning around the other two mongoloids heads while we just have coffee. That is of course if she's down for a little vengence also. I'm not going to lie and lead her on that I'm Mr. Right either.
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 30, 2008 Posted January 30, 2008 Oh, I don't want to sleep with her, trust me on that one. It's about the thoughts and fears that will be obsesively spinning around the other two mongoloids heads while we just have coffee. That is of course if she's down for a little vengence also. I'm not going to lie and lead her on that I'm Mr. Right either. Oh if that's the case by all means have boundries and stick to them.
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