GuidanceDMS Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 Ok, I am going on a first date tonight with this wonderful woman. I am taking her out to dinner & I need advice so that I don't end up doing something terribly wrong! I know a lot of ladies on here will have some great advice for me. I haven't been on a date in a long time while I was focused on finishing college. I know I need to listen attentively to her and be a gentleman (this one is no problem), what else should I do to make this a perfect first date for me and her besides the basics like compliment her throughout the night but not over-do the complimenting? I thank you kindly if you respond with some advice.
Lizzie60 Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 I think you'll do just fine... You know exactly what to do... complimenting her but not overdoing it... it's all about knowing how to 'dose' everything... Good luck.. let us know how it went..
Jilly Bean Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 1 - Compliment her, without being overly obvious or cheesy about it. ie. when you first see her, tell her she looks beautiful, but don't keep gazing at her and repeating it through the night. 2 - Be interested AND interesting. Meaning, ask her questions, while also telling about yourself. 3 - Be yourself. 4 - Open the doors for her, pull out her chair, etc. All the chivalrous things. 5 - At the end of the date, tell her you had a great time (provided you did) and tell you you'd love to see her again. If she agrees, then send her a follow-up message THE NEXT DAY saying once again you had a great time. Then you can either set up date #2 then, or, wait a day to contact her again to do so. Have fun!
Author GuidanceDMS Posted December 28, 2007 Author Posted December 28, 2007 Thanks for the replies so far! I need to start thinking up some good questions now.
Star Gazer Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 1 - Compliment her, without being overly obvious or cheesy about it. ie. when you first see her, tell her she looks beautiful, but don't keep gazing at her and repeating it through the night. 2 - Be interested AND interesting. Meaning, ask her questions, while also telling about yourself. 3 - Be yourself. 4 - Open the doors for her, pull out her chair, etc. All the chivalrous things. 5 - At the end of the date, tell her you had a great time (provided you did) and tell you you'd love to see her again. If she agrees, then send her a follow-up message THE NEXT DAY saying once again you had a great time. Then you can either set up date #2 then, or, wait a day to contact her again to do so. Have fun! Agreed. Don't think up questions NOW - it will feel like an interrogation. Just let the conversation flow naturally. If you focus on making sure you both have a good time, and not just impressing her, you'll do just fine.
Krytie TV Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 1 - Compliment her, without being overly obvious or cheesy about it. ie. when you first see her, tell her she looks beautiful, but don't keep gazing at her and repeating it through the night. 2 - Be interested AND interesting. Meaning, ask her questions, while also telling about yourself. 3 - Be yourself. 4 - Open the doors for her, pull out her chair, etc. All the chivalrous things. 5 - At the end of the date, tell her you had a great time (provided you did) and tell you you'd love to see her again. If she agrees, then send her a follow-up message THE NEXT DAY saying once again you had a great time. Then you can either set up date #2 then, or, wait a day to contact her again to do so. Have fun! Ideally yes, this sounds like a wonderful plan, OP.
Author GuidanceDMS Posted December 28, 2007 Author Posted December 28, 2007 Agreed. Don't think up questions NOW - it will feel like an interrogation. Just let the conversation flow naturally. If you focus on making sure you both have a good time, and not just impressing her, you'll do just fine. I mean I want to think of a couple of really good questions to use when (if) things get quiet and neither of us is saying anything (to kill the awkward silence). Also, what topics should I avoid talking about or bringing up? I mean the less obvious ones besides ex-girlfriends and talking about some sort of science breakthrough.
Author GuidanceDMS Posted December 29, 2007 Author Posted December 29, 2007 Hey everyone who responded, thanks! The date went pretty good. Conversation started and flowed really nicely almost 100% of the time, the food was great, etc. Going to watch a movie on Sunday @ my house.
Saxis Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Hey everyone who responded, thanks! The date went pretty good. Conversation started and flowed really nicely almost 100% of the time, the food was great, etc. Going to watch a movie on Sunday @ my house. Excellent! You kids have fun!
Jilly Bean Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Yeah! Good for you, hon. Glad to hear it went well!
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