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I realize there are some people (I'd have thought predominantly men but maybe I'm wrong) have done this but I'm seeking some insight into what does this say about future relationships.

 

Say a woman decides it's time to have sex with a new bf for the first time and does the deed, everything apparently okay if not great I assume, but then on getting a call in the small hours from an ex kicks the new bf out of bed and then lets the ex (who lied, cheated and treated her horribly) into the appt. which then leads to sex with him, just a couple hours after the first.

 

What does this say of the woman?

I'm interested in hearing from the womans perspective that would justify this.

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I'd say it means she's still in love with the ex and hasn't figured out yet how to act so that people don't mistreat her.

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I'd say it means she's still in love with the ex and hasn't figured out yet how to act so that people don't mistreat her.

Spot on.

 

Before I read this, I was thinking that the ex must have a bigger penis.

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I'm interested in hearing from the womans perspective that would justify this.

Nothing could possibly justify this kind of behaviour. It sounds like she deserves her lying, cheating ex...

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Nothing could possibly justify this kind of behaviour. It sounds like she deserves her lying, cheating ex...

Let's examine this a bit further. She does something despicable, and her punishment is a bigger penis. Am I the only one disturbed by this logic?

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Let's examine this a bit further. She does something despicable, and her punishment is a bigger penis. Am I the only one disturbed by this logic?

All that glitters, is not penis...

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or maybe she doesn't give a **** about either of the guys, and just wanted sex? ... or maybe she was afraid of what she felt with the new guy, and therefor behaved in the subsequent way with the ex to protect herself from being hurt again... what i mean is, maybe she's in that "no man will ever mean nothing to me." stage.

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I realize there are some people (I'd have thought predominantly men but maybe I'm wrong) have done this but I'm seeking some insight into what does this say about future relationships.

 

Say a woman decides it's time to have sex with a new bf for the first time and does the deed, everything apparently okay if not great I assume, but then on getting a call in the small hours from an ex kicks the new bf out of bed and then lets the ex (who lied, cheated and treated her horribly) into the appt. which then leads to sex with him, just a couple hours after the first.

 

What does this say of the woman?

 

It says she is a tramp to which the bf doesn't need to give any more consideration.

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It says she is a tramp to which the bf doesn't need to give any more consideration.

Let's not get too judgemental. We're all human. Human's make mistakes - some of which are above our personal thresholds of tolerance. Having said that, Dr Phil would say that past behaviour is the best predictor of future behaviour.

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It says that the BF should kick her to the curb.

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It says that the BF should kick her to the curb.

I think he was the one who got kicked out of bed.

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I think he was the one who got kicked out of bed.

In this situation, two boots would make a right.

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In this situation, two boots would make a right.

How true. No wonder so many lust after you.

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It says that the new BF is a lousy ****, for one thing.

 

Beyond that, it also says she still has a lot of feelings for the ex, and perhaps wanted an excuse to get rid of the new BF.

 

Honestly, a guy can totally win me over if he is amazing in bed, even if I was (relatively) lukewarm about him before. Converse is true if he is crappy in bed.

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Does that give her the right to treat him as a sub-human being?

 

And, how do we know the girl doesn't suck in bed? why is it the guy?

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Because he said that everything was great with her, that's why.

 

I never made a comment on her behavior, he just asked for opinions on why a woman would do this.

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Well, not to split hairs or be a pain, but he said OK if not great- some indecision.

 

Also, he asked what does that say about this girl? and I would say she is a waste of time. Like TBF said, two boots would make a right here.

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Just to be clear I wasnt either of those two guys so I could only assume it was okay or something beter. But for what its worth she isnt that fantastic in bed herself - its okay and enjoyable but not all it could be.

Needless to say I didnt know of this past behavior till recently so I wonder if that affected our relationship and whether she'd done it more than that once.

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Even if her b/f sucked in bed, nothing justifies sloppy seconds. It's rude and disrespectful, in that I sincerely hope latex was used, in both beddings.

 

If someone is capable of doing something once, unless they're truly traumatized to change, they'll do it again.

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Oh, I getcha. You are saying this did this BEFORE she met you? Well, you have a very simple choice then. Either you allow it to stay in her past, or you continue to worry history will repeat itself. It depends on her take on it, really. If she has no remorse, then I'd walk (er, run - lol). If she is regretful, then take it as a mistake and one that she learned from.

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Let's not get too judgemental. We're all human. Human's make mistakes .

 

Uh...kicking a boyfriend out of the apartment so the X can come over and bang her is NOT a mistake. Its a deliberate and despicable act. No mistake about it.

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I think he was the one who got kicked out of bed.

 

I thought you implied that she made a mistake?

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Even if her b/f sucked in bed, nothing justifies sloppy seconds. It's rude and disrespectful, in that I sincerely hope latex was used, in both beddings. .

 

Yup..and if someone insinuates that he was bad in bed....then why not break up with the guy so she can spread her legs for whoever she wants?

 

I mean surely as a boyfriend, she had plenty of time to assertain whether he was good enough right?

 

And she doesn't have to be good....she just has to be there.

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Yup..and if someone insinuates that he was bad in bed....then why not break up with the guy so she can spread her legs for whoever she wants?

 

I mean surely as a boyfriend, she had plenty of time to assertain whether he was good enough right?

 

And she doesn't have to be good....she just has to be there.

I've always found it strange whenever anyone says someone is bad in bed. If you truly cared about someone, how bad could they possible be? If you're into it, the two of you are going to get some form of pleasure from it.

 

I guess it boils down to having sex with someone you don't care about v. making love to someone you do care about.

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I've always found it strange whenever anyone says someone is bad in bed. If you truly cared about someone, how bad could they possible be? If you're into it, the two of you are going to get some form of pleasure from it.

 

I guess it boils down to having sex with someone you don't care about v. making love to someone you do care about.

 

Also the funny thing about someone claiming someone else is bad in bed is about the ultimate form of narcissism. That person is assuming they are fantastic in bed.

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