brokenthinker Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 I thought my wife would feel pressure from her boyfriends family... last month when they found out she was married and that they are having an affair they wanted nothing to do with her they even barred her from their home, they are very devout Christians..... but I guess they got over it as she just spent Christmas with them.... So much for hoping that little pressure would break the relationship =( I guess adultery is acceptable to them now and it's water under the bridge.... This totally sucks. It'll never end.
Confused9 Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 (edited) I know how much you want this relationship to end and you want her to come crying back to you, but really think about that...will it make any of this easier or the pain go away, NO! Trust me...I wish for it to, but you need to think of the reality of that. Would you even be able to look her in the face? After everything she has done? It's time for Brokenthinker to start thinking of himself!! Again, as I always say to you...I know how hard it is to do so. I am writing this to you and won't even take my own advice but, I am going to try and work on you and me and having us each move on to our own bright new beginnings. Is it hard to think of them at Christmas hugging, kissing, joking, laughing, absofreakinglutely. But, you know what? We will be happy again one day too. What our WS's did to us in inexcusable and heartless and wrong but there is someone out there for both of us and one day we will be in love again and thanking them for what they did (I HOPE!!!) I thought about him all day too. Do these people even have a clue about what he did to me? Who knows, but if they do...they are not the kind of people I want to hang around with anyway. In both our cases, our WS's are gone and they are probably never coming back. Will they ever regret their decisions? I have no idea. I hope mine does and I hope yours does to. But, I also hope that at that point we are both strong enough to tell them to FECK OFF! They left us. They left and never looked back. Is that really the kind of person we want around us? Will they ever be able to make it up to us? NO! So...let's try and let go of what we had and move on. We can do it together!!! Baby steps! One foot in front of the other towards brighter and better things. OK? Edited December 27, 2007 by Confused9
Owl Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 What pressure is YOUR family putting on her? More importantly, what pressure is HER family putting on her? Friends? Who is aware of the affair, and made it clear to her that they're not going to condone it?
Author brokenthinker Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 What pressure is YOUR family putting on her? More importantly, what pressure is HER family putting on her? Friends? Who is aware of the affair, and made it clear to her that they're not going to condone it? All of HER family knows about the affair, and all of HER old friends know... But she has cut those people out of her life, just like she cut me out of her life. HER family still refuses to have anything to do with her... but HIS(OM) family gave up the not having anything to do with her... As far as all her new friends and OM's family... I don't know who all knows but I do know HIS family knows and at first was VERY VERY opposed.... but I guess they arent so much anymore as like I said she just spent X-Mas with them. Must be nice moving to a new state where almost no one knows what you did (thats another thing she said she wanted) and just start over fresh... It just sucks that now HIS family has done a 180 and accepts their relationship now. What is this f-ckin world coming to when Adultery is acceptable. =\
Confused9 Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Seriously Brokenthinker, I feel like she is the female version of my X. Won't talk to anyone from the 'past' ie our live together and moved far far away. Crazy!!!
Author brokenthinker Posted December 28, 2007 Author Posted December 28, 2007 Time to enlighten them!!! Well you see I really wanted to... but at the same time they are all young 18-21... and she has already become very close friends with them, and her boyfriend has known them all for years.... so ASSUMING they don't already know, I'm wondering if it would have any reaction at all... I mean in the end I don't think it would do anything other than make ME look even worse of a guy because I'm sure she can just spin spin spin the story... On top of that I don't even know what I would begin to say....
Chrome Barracuda Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 Hey look broken, the way i see it. Your better off. I'd just send out one mass email in case anyone have any questions and just erase her from your life. She's gonna reap what she sows. She's young so she thinks she's invincible because she's young and think she cant be touched. But you do get it when you toss it out there. Karma's a bitch. lol. The best revenge is letting both cheaters have each other and make both of their lives miserable. You dont have any kids with her, count your blessings. lol. Just let it go. let her go and dont answer her calls, emails, text messages. Refer everything to your lawyer of legal issues and whatnot. and go out there and date. Go and work out, move some where new after it's all said and done start fresh. You'll make it.
In Like Flynn Posted December 28, 2007 Posted December 28, 2007 I meant her parents. She probably spun a tale of how bad your are etc etc.
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