sumdude Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Was kind of a rough holiday I have to admit. Even though she's been gone since Jan. and we're officially divorced sionce Spet.. It took me by surprise how much I was affected during the holiday. I was with her the last 8 Christmases which is almost half my adult life so I guess it's not unexpected... stilll I was doing so well and it brought back so many emotions. Also last christmas was awful and where the **** really started hitting the fan. So all that came back to me. As much as I tried to put it out of my mind it was pretty powerful. So many reminders... Mind you I wasn't a mess or anything.. not much at least but there were some pretty rough moments and I'm a bit down today. I feel like I've been set back a couple of months.. Oh well,this too shall pass right? Well two more divorce first year milestones to go... New Year's (good riddance 2007!!!)... and the day she unexpectedly left me, 1/22 then it's all new....
frd150 Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Same here. Christmas set me back a bit. Im still feeling it. New years 1/29/07 the day she left without warning. I hope 2008 is better for both of us.
Author sumdude Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 (edited) Same here. Christmas set me back a bit. Im still feeling it. New years 1/29/07 the day she left without warning. I hope 2008 is better for both of us. No doubt it will be... at the risk of invoking the wrath of Murphy's Law... it couldn't be much worse than '07 or even '06 for that matter. Think I'm overdue for an upswing of that old pendulum... My Uncle on my mom's side passed away on Sunday.. We weren't close at all but still... two uncles and an aunt left us in the last 3 months. Been quite a ride. Lots of death and divorce this year... Well life's still good if I really look at it right. Edited December 27, 2007 by sumdude
Saxis Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 at the risk of invoking the wrath of Murphy's Law... You called? I have no choice in the matter; I am a Murphy. My family not really celebrating X-mas this year helped, I think. Being the only child in the family, we did some early gifts for my daughter, and will do more when she comes back this weekend. :bunny: It was all good with me. I'm not religious anymore despite my catholic family, and I dislike the holidays. I will celebrate for my daughter though. I won't take that away from her! As far as the X goes, she loves the holidays (mainly because her family overdoes it, mostly on her and she takes advantage of it). It was just nice not to have that kind of... person.... around. She tried to throw me a loop and make me feel guilty about HER decision to leave. Another ploy for money as she couldn't afford to leave and can't really afford to come back. Her main excuse for leaving was to make it on her own, and she won't learn if she's taking advantage of people. I don't wish ill upon her for it, but I refuse to help her. Maybe I'm heartless, maybe I'm still bitter. It didn't bother me one bit when she was bawling on the phone about how hard it is on her own. But, as Murphy's Law goes, I'm sure I haven't seen the end of it....
frd150 Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 No doubt it will be... at the risk of invoking the wrath of Murphy's Law... it couldn't be much worse than '07 or even '06 for that matter. Think I'm overdue for an upswing of that old pendulum... My Uncle on my mom's side passed away on Sunday.. We weren't close at all but still... two uncles and an aunt left us in the last 3 months. Been quite a ride. Lots of death and divorce this year... Well life's still good if I really look at it right. Awe man Im real sorry to hear that Ive had periods like that. We all get our dose and then it passes,the storm passes. I sometimes look at my situaon in comparison to others around me for perspective and let me tell you there are some around me dealing with much much worse. All we can control is ourselves and how we handle things that happen. Im getting better at it.
Art_Critic Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 (edited) Hey sumdude... The swing up is around the corner.... Same with you Fred... By the way.. it is the firsts of everything that pull you back.. nothing you can do to avoid it.. Edited December 27, 2007 by Art_Critic
bustertypsy Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Was kind of a rough holiday I have to admit. Even though she's been gone since Jan. and we're officially divorced sionce Spet.. It took me by surprise how much I was affected during the holiday. I was with her the last 8 Christmases which is almost half my adult life so I guess it's not unexpected... stilll I was doing so well and it brought back so many emotions. Also last christmas was awful and where the **** really started hitting the fan. So all that came back to me. As much as I tried to put it out of my mind it was pretty powerful. So many reminders... Mind you I wasn't a mess or anything.. not much at least but there were some pretty rough moments and I'm a bit down today. I feel like I've been set back a couple of months.. Oh well,this too shall pass right? Well two more divorce first year milestones to go... New Year's (good riddance 2007!!!)... and the day she unexpectedly left me, 1/22 then it's all new.... You're not alone in the way you feel.I also feel that I have been put back by about 2 months,and I am only 10 weeks apart from my ex. I experienced overwhelming hurt and deep despair that I was sure were things of the past. I am in no doubt that Xmas,being a time of caring and sharing simply magnifies our feeling tenfold and puts us in this doldrums. That is why many people dread Xmas.It's a great time when all is well,but it's the opposite when things are bad.I am sure when we get back to the routine ways of our lives in the New Year that we will get back to our old selves again.
Author sumdude Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 Hey sumdude... The swing up is around the corner.... Same with you Fred... By the way.. it is the firsts of everything that pull you back.. nothing you can do to avoid it.. tnx art... I've been warned by a few others as well that the firsts would get to me...just a couple more loops on the roller coaster to ride out. Hard not to get a bit impatient sometimes. I know that it'll all work out for me though. Hope you have a happy holiday and new year.
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