stepheine Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Hey guys tonight I cannot sleep and I have aloud my thoughts to get the best of me. Instead of acting on my emotions I have decided to write her!! Some days I do better than other days. I only dated him for 5 months but this breakup has been more difficult for me than the men I dated for yrs. I think it is the way my ex boyfriend ended things. He blamed it on loosing his job said it had nothing to do with me but then he avoids my phone calls and gets angry if I try to contact him so I have backed off completely!!! His friend told me he has not went out with them either. I just don't know what to think. I thought he was a better man than this. I thought he at least cared about me enough to take my feelings into consideration. I just wonder if I will ever hear from him again and for some reason the thought of never seeing or hearing from him again really worries me. I am sure you guys are tired of listening to me but it is better than bothering him right. Do most of the time they try to contact you at some point? I just want to hear from him!!
amaysngrace Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Maybe when he snaps out of his depression he'll call you. And he'll reach out to his friends too. But for now he probably hates his life and himself too much to bother anyone. Try not to take it personally. It's all about him.
Author stepheine Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 amaysngrce you think so, that it is truly all about him. I hope I hear from him again!!
amaysngrace Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Yeah I definitely think it's all about him. He's not reaching out to his friends either. So he's withdrawling. It's nothing you did or his friends did. Losing his job probably triggered it and he needs to be alone right now. Depression can get nasty.
Author stepheine Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 amaysngrace it has been 4 weeks that he has been going through this. It has been a week since I spoke to him. He sent me a really mean email because I tried to reach out to him and he asked me not to. He just wants me to leave him alone. So now I am but it was and is so difficult to do!!! You think if it was me then he would tell me?? He was angry at me for reaching out to him. I just hope I hear from him again!!!
amaysngrace Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Hey don't sweat it. You can't change what he's feeling inside. It's NOT you. Trust me, it's not. It's him. He even said it. He wants to be left alone. So you need to respect that. Yeah hope he snaps out of it but in the meantime keep living your life. If the guy is genuinely depressed you don't really want him around anyway. It's probably better this way. Because all he'll do is bring you down with him. You could drop him a note or something, a card. Just saying hey you're on my mind and I hope you feel better soon or something. To show you care. But don't expect a reply. He'll come around in his own time. But in the meantime focus on your own happiness rather than his misery. Otherwise you're letting his misery rub off on you. Which is not a good thing when you let how other people feel affect how you're feeling. So take charge of your own feelings and don't allow that to happen.
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