Pyro Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 The GF and I were just having a debate about this: her Mom remarried a few years back and her new husbands son recently had a child. Would my GF's mom (the step mom to the son) be considered a Grandma to the child?
Trialbyfire Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 A complete guess on my part but how about a step-grandmother?
Author Pyro Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 A complete guess on my part but how about a step-grandmother? No thanks. I don't need one. She considers her mom to be a Grandma but since she is not the biological mother of his son, I think otherwise.
Author Pyro Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 Should be interesting to read what everyone's opinion is on this matter.
Nemo Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 I think YES. Wow, that's capitalised. Does that count for two votes?
amaysngrace Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Wow, that's capitalised. Does that count for two votes? No it just means it's the right answer.
Author Pyro Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 No it just means it's the right answer. :lmao:
Trialbyfire Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 No thanks. I don't need one. She considers her mom to be a Grandma but since she is not the biological mother of his son, I think otherwise. I agree with you. She's not a biological grandparent but I do think she can be termed as a step-grandparent. Realistically speaking, you can easily have a step-parent be more of a parent than a biological parent. How does her stepson view her?
underpants Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Definately, she could be a rewarding and important part of the child's life. It is all in how much she wants to invest...ie...babysit, spend time with, love the baby. Kids come up with all sorts of names and titles for those that are close to them. Her stepmom will be titled in time. Kids are awesome.
Author Pyro Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 I agree with you. She's not a biological grandparent but I do think she can be termed as a step-grandparent. Realistically speaking, you can easily have a step-parent be more of a parent than a biological parent. How does her stepson view her? I agree with that. He better view her as a Grandma. Him and his wife are so irresponsible with money that its not even funny. His Dad and my GF's mom are constantly bailing them out of debt. It makes me sick to see them do this.
amaysngrace Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 She considers her mom to be a Grandma but since she is not the biological mother of his son, I think otherwise. See but here's the thing. The family already broke tradition by divorcing so it's not improper for her to be a grandma. I think it's sweet that she loves her hubby enough to embrace his family as her own. And if it's not your life why challenge it? It's good stuff.
Author Pyro Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 Definately, she could be a rewarding and important part of the child's life. It is all in how much she wants to invest...ie...babysit, spend time with, love the baby. Kids come up with all sorts of names and titles for those that are close to them. Her stepmom will be titled in time. Kids are awesome. The kids live in Texas, so they don't see each other that often.
Author Pyro Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 See but here's the thing. The family already broke tradition by divorcing so it's not improper for her to be a grandma. I think it's sweet that she loves her hubby enough to embrace his family as her own. And if it's not your life why challenge it? It's good stuff. I'm not challenging it. Its just the way that I have always saw things, but after this thread is through, perhaps my mind will have opened up some.
amaysngrace Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 I'm not challenging it. Its just the way that I have always saw things, but after this thread is through, perhaps my mind will have opened up some. Well you're the one who said it was a debate. The way I figure it is the more love a child can get then all the better for the child. Regardless of where or who it comes from.
Author Pyro Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 Well you're the one who said it was a debate. The way I figure it is the more love a child can get then all the better for the child. Regardless of where or who it comes from. Its definitely better for the child, but I am just wondering what a step-parent would be considered to the child.
amaysngrace Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Its definitely better for the child, but I am just wondering what a step-parent would be considered to the child. It's not that confusing when it's just the way it is. Kids adapt easily. My kids have step grandparents. Their dad's parents are divorced and both remarried. They know that Grammy and Pop pop are daddy's parents but they also call their spouses Poppy and Mom-mom Brenda. I think it's a lot easier to do it from the start though. I have an aunt and an uncle who got remarried when I was older and I had a tough time calling their new spouses Aunt and Uncle. I think it comes a lot more naturally when it comes from the beginning.
Author Pyro Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 It's not that confusing when it's just the way it is. Kids adapt easily. My kids have step grandparents. Their dad's parents are divorced and both remarried. They know that Grammy and Pop pop are daddy's parents but they also call their spouses Poppy and Mom-mom Brenda. I think it's a lot easier to do it from the start though. I have an aunt and an uncle who got remarried when I was older and I had a tough time calling their new spouses Aunt and Uncle. I think it comes a lot more naturally when it comes from the beginning. I agree with all of that.
amaysngrace Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 I agree with all of that. I win. Now go tell GF she's right.
Storyrider Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 It all depends on what the son and the step-mom want the relationship to be. They can define it as they please.
Author Pyro Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 I win. Now go tell GF she's right. She is not right. I will figure out a way to win this.
Author Pyro Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 It all depends on what the son and the step-mom want the relationship to be. They can define it as they please. That is true, leave it up to the individual.
amaysngrace Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 It all depends on what the son and the step-mom want the relationship to be. They can define it as they please. Well out of respect the step son should ask the step mom what she'd like to be called. And honor her request. That is if she's taking an active interest in the baby.
Storyrider Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Well out of respect the step son should ask the step mom what she'd like to be called. And honor her request. That is if she's taking an active interest in the baby. Right, I agree. My husband has a step-mom, but he was over 40 when his father married her. So he never calls her that, he just calls her "my father's wife". My kids call her Nana. That is what her blood grandson calls her, so that is why we picked it. When we talk about my H's deceased mother, we refer to her as Grandma K.
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