yes Posted June 10, 2003 Posted June 10, 2003 Quick question: a guy i've been friends with for a few years has taken me out recently on a weekend night. it wasn't quite a date, but we did spend a lot of time together. today, he came by where i work (about 5 mins from where he works) and asked if i want to join him for lunch. I said no, i want to work for a couple more hrs and leave early today, but why don't you get food and come back here to eat. He seemed a bit upset by my reply... so my question is - was i being un-nice? should i make a nice gesture to even it out? i guess i'll see if he comes back here to eat or not first, haha... i'm not head over heels as you can tell, but i'd go out with him again, and i definitely want to stay friends as he's an interesting person. this came out longer than 'quick' but anyway... comments & advice appreciated in advance =) thanks, yes
NEONINK Posted June 10, 2003 Posted June 10, 2003 I had something similar happen, and I got upset because they didn't offer an 'alternative'. You offered, bring your lunch back. That meant, I need to do my stuff, but I STILL WANT TO SPEND SOME TIME WITH YOU AS WELL. Granted, his preference was to wine and dine you maybe, and only you know what you motive was for declining, but you offered a compromise. It wasn't pre-arranged plans that you were canceling, it was impromptu plans.
Author yes Posted June 10, 2003 Author Posted June 10, 2003 it was silly of me to even post about it ... he was back w/ food within 5 mins. everything's cool. thanks for your reply! -yes
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