azguy86 Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 I have a bisexual best friend who I am going crazy for. I don't know how to approach him and tell him my feelings. How should I approach him and tell him how I feel without sounding too "gay" or desperate? Here's some history: We live together, spend lots of time together, and we both are straight acting. We joke around with the touching stuff, joke with our friends about us being a couple, but in private we just chill and are like every other best friend guys who live together. When I joke touch him he gets mad, but in public he loves it (but I try not to do it in public because I am a closet bisexual and my family wouldn't approve). He's confusing me, so how do I let it all out to where he knows how I feel in a way that won't send him running away?
spooty Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 since he likes it more in public maybe you could go to a bar together. you could start checking out people (of both sexes) to get the conversation in that direction, maybe things will be easier to talk about once you've both had a couple drinks. you could always just have a party at your place if you don't like going out. make sure you bring things up generally, instead of directed at him, that way it will be less likely to scare him off. you just want to let him know you're bi, not make him think that you're in love with him or that he's converted you!
blind_otter Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 It's always a bad idea to get involved with a roommate. I'm just saying. Maybe if you didn't live together this might be a possibility but you risk losing everything if you make a move on him!
AriaIncognito Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 While I agree that maybe you'll be more attractive to him if other people are checking you out at say a bar, I have to agree with b_o in the whole don't go after a roomie thing. If something were to transpire, and not work out, it would get terribly difficult at home. What do you really want to gain out of it, if you're unwilling to be openly bisexual, or openly gay, not sure if you're decided on this yet... Aside from thinking your parents won't approve, is there something else that has held you back from being more open about it? Do you consider yourself bisexual, or homosexual? Do you see yourself settling down with a man, or a woman?
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