Saxis Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 My X and daughter are finally coming back from CA after leaving during the "cooling off" period when we filed for divorce. I've kept pretty minimal contact except to talk to my daughter. They are due back on the 30th. Last Thursday my X sent me an e-mail saying "We need to talk", and then goes on to explain that she found a job and an apartment, but that it needed repairs, wouldn't be ready until Feb. and that she would stay with some friends until she could move in. She asked if our daughter could stay with me during this time. She also got some furniture and things from her step-mom, who she was living with, and needed to have a hitch installed on her car so she could bring a U-haul trailer back. I'm thinking, "OK, that sucks, but what does this have to do with me?". She then goes on to ask if she could store her stuff in my house until she can move in. She's already renting a room from me with the rest of her crap in it, so next time I called, I told her that of course my daughter could stay with me any time, and there's still some space for more stuff. I answered all the questions she asked, and figured that was it. 2 days later, she sends me a bunch of nasty text messages in the middle of the night, accusing me of badmouthing her to her friends, if I was too busy with a new girlfriend to respond to her e-mail and that she was only coming back for our daughter and I. I didn't respond and turned off my phone so I could actually get some sleep. I got a voicemail the next day saying to call her right away, so I did. She starts in again with the accusing, and after some arguing, I got to the bottom of it. She told me that she was pissed because I didn't offer to help her with the expense of moving back here! Now, she MAY only be moving back here so I can be in our daughter's life, because I know how much she's always wanted to live in CA. The problem is, she left for herself, and herself alone. She broke down and started crying during the conversation. I didn't say anything... After everything cooled down, she started in with how much she wants us to be friends and work together on this, and even invited me there for X-mas, offering to pay half of an airline ticket and pick me up at the airport. I refused to help her when she left, and I refuse to help her now. I gave her advice on loading and traveling with the trailer, and she's asked me a few questions about it and that's all I have to offer. I would like to see her return safely with our daughter after all. We did end up having a pretty calm discussion about things also; Holiday plans and whatnot. I told her that I had just put a bunch of money into my car, which was my gift to myself this year (Which is true, since my family decided on no gifts this year.). I did leave out the fact that I paid off all of "our" debt and socked a bunch away into savings... What she doesn't know won't hurt her, and it's none of her business now anyway. I guess I'm not really looking for advice on the matter, but if you have something to offer, I'd gladly accept it. This is just sort of an update on the situation. I'm kinda nervous about her return and how things will progress from there, but we'll see. We had planned to finalize our divorce around Jan 8th, just in time for me to have a Happy Birthday! My apologies for the novel....
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