this sucks.

[elyse]

four years ago, i met a wonderful boy (who is mostly gay) and him and i became the best of friends. like sister/brother. we have a very Will & Grace friendship. it's always me and him.

 

anyways, he had another best friend (another girl) who lived in europe for the exact four years we became close...and now she's moved back. it's been a month.

 

we'll call her jane. she is nice and she likes me, but she told me that she was insanely jealous of me.

 

but now, when he talks, it's like "jane this and jane that and jane is so sweet!"

 

ugh. barf.

 

i'm so sick of hearing about her. i think she thinks that when she went away, he replaced her with me and now that she's back, she wants to gain her status as his best friend again.

 

it sucks. i hate feeling second best. i know i sound needy...but this sucks! i'm so sick of hearing about her! she can do no wrong! at all!

 

 

i feel like stepping back and backing away. she keeps reminding me that her and him are best friends...

[elyse]

thanks guys!!!

[Geishawhelk]

Maybe the reason people haven't replied is because they (or at least, I for one) can see that the problem lies mainly with you.

jealousy, resentment, envy, anger, posessiveness...

 

All issues it looks as if you need to deal with.

Plus trying to be mature about the fact that the only person you can have control over, is you.

No wonder they say that the Best - and hardest - form of Control, is Self-Control (for 'Control' also read 'Mastery'.....)

 

Good luck.

[Always Wrong]

Ask him this,"When you're with Jane, do you only talk about me?" Then state,"Because when you're with me, it seems that you only want to talk about her!" It could be that he is getting a little full of himself, now having two of you. Is he trying to play you against one another, or is he just so self absorbed he doesn't even get it that he's hurting your feelings? I'm not so sure it's all your problem.

[elyse]

thank you always wrong ...you're so right.