ICS Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 Tommorrow is going to be the first time that I meet a girl from online in person. Needless to say, I am quite nervous about it at the moment. We have talked for about two months up until two weeks ago, when her computer broke down on her. A week after that happened, she assured me that she was not ignoring me and invited me to have coffee with her. I accepted her offer. Interestingly, neither of us know what the other looks like, but we have decided on a meeting place and several visual cues. For me, this could be the beginning of something great, seeing as I haven't been in a relationship or had any close friends after breaking up with my long time ex-girlfriend a year ago. It would be great if someone here could point me in the right direction about my big day tomorrow, I really hope that I don't blank out when I see her and have nothing interesting to say. We met on an online dating site but in actuality I would be very happy to make a new friend if this does not work out.
Phateless Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 Just relax and have fun. Go with no expectations. Coffee is a great starting point. Good luck! I hope she's cute.
Author ICS Posted December 27, 2007 Author Posted December 27, 2007 Just relax and have fun. Go with no expectations. Coffee is a great starting point. Good luck! I hope she's cute. Thanks for the encouragment! Well, I have finally met her, however, I am not sure what her impression of me was. From what I can tell, she was fairly quiet, but smiled and was enthusiastic from time to time. However, before we left, she treated me to a little food and shared her fries with me. I know I went in with no expectations, but the experience was my first and also a puzzling one at that. At the moment I try not to think too much, but I keep trying to figure out what she thought of me. When we left she shook my hand, smiled, and assured me that she would be available for chat tonight when I asked. Can anyone help me decipher what this means?
purplebubbles Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 It means that she likes you! Whether that be as a friend or something more, well only time will tell. But if she assured you that she would be available to chat that night and also shook your hand, shared her food, smiled at you.. those are good signs. She didn't think you were creepy, scary or someone that she had to make excuses to get out of your company. Let us know what happens?
spookie Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 Thanks for the encouragment! Well, I have finally met her, however, I am not sure what her impression of me was. From what I can tell, she was fairly quiet, but smiled and was enthusiastic from time to time. However, before we left, she treated me to a little food and shared her fries with me. I know I went in with no expectations, but the experience was my first and also a puzzling one at that. At the moment I try not to think too much, but I keep trying to figure out what she thought of me. When we left she shook my hand, smiled, and assured me that she would be available for chat tonight when I asked. Can anyone help me decipher what this means? Don't focus on what she thought! What did YOU think??
highsierra Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 shaking hands good bye sounds like "see ya friend"
EYECANDY000 Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Just be yourself and ask all the appropriate questions!!
Phateless Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Shaking hands instead of a hug is a bad sign.
spookie Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Shaking hands instead of a hug is a bad sign. Not necessarily. Some people aren't good with affection unless they're allowing themselves to feel things, which at this point it's too early for. I'd probably shake hands at the end of a first date tbh, even if I really wanted to keep seeing the guy.
Author ICS Posted December 29, 2007 Author Posted December 29, 2007 The thing is, she shook my hand when we first met and also right before we left (but with a smile). We never really said goodbye either. Everything that happened that day did not make it obvious how she felt... it seemed to me that she was the type of girl who was a little shy. However, right before the day ended, I felt that she began to open up and that we were having the first real conversation of the day- the kind of comfortable conversation that you would have with a good friend. I told her I'll talk to her online that night, but she didn't show up. On the other hand, based on my recollection of the day, friends have mostly told me that I have nothing to worry about, and that if she shared her fries with me and bought me a drink, then that is a good sign. They tell me that I am worrying too much over nothing and that I am over-thinking because she just might be busy at this time of the year. True perhaps, but I have not seen her online since wednesday. The pieces of this puzzle are not fitting together as easily as I thought they would..
spookie Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 The thing is, she shook my hand when we first met and also right before we left (but with a smile). We never really said goodbye either. Everything that happened that day did not make it obvious how she felt... it seemed to me that she was the type of girl who was a little shy. However, right before the day ended, I felt that she began to open up and that we were having the first real conversation of the day- the kind of comfortable conversation that you would have with a good friend. I told her I'll talk to her online that night, but she didn't show up. On the other hand, based on my recollection of the day, friends have mostly told me that I have nothing to worry about, and that if she shared her fries with me and bought me a drink, then that is a good sign. They tell me that I am worrying too much over nothing and that I am over-thinking because she just might be busy at this time of the year. True perhaps, but I have not seen her online since wednesday. The pieces of this puzzle are not fitting together as easily as I thought they would.. If I were you I'd be trying harder to get the relationship offline about now. You've already met so presumably you have her number. She's probably waiting for you to call. Are you socially retarded or something?
Author ICS Posted December 29, 2007 Author Posted December 29, 2007 Well..we haven't exchanged phone numbers yet. I know I should have asked for it before we parted, but I didn't want to rush anything, so I thought it wouldn't hurt to wait until later to ask.
compassion42 Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Unfortunately, I think the pieces of the puzzle aren't fitting together for a reason. I get the impression that there was only a casual/friendly connection made on your date. Her not being online when she said that night may be her way of saying that she may not be interested. If you liked her and enjoyed her company you should tell her! Maybe she thinks YOU'RE not interested? Drop her an IM if you're more comfortable with that and tell her how much you enjoyed meeting.
tanbark813 Posted December 29, 2007 Posted December 29, 2007 Maybe she thinks YOU'RE not interested? I thought this also. This may be the case since you didn't ask for her number and didn't try to kiss her. Ask her out for a second date and if she shoots you down then you'll have your answer.
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