greyline Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 My ex gf and I broke up over 2 years ago. During that time each of us dated other people, yet we remained somewhat close, at least friendly. The problem for me is I recently developed strong feelings for her again. Personally, I think we are great for one another, but that's another story. She invited me to spend some time this Christmas with her at a rather large family gathering. On the way over I casually ask what she's been up to and learn that she met a guy recently, but isn't sure how that will work out (apparently he is cheap...very cheap. Made her pay for her own meal at a fast food type restaurant). Anyway to get to the point, I know that I have feelings for her, but I don't know how mutual they are from her point of view. I'd really like to try again as we've both grown emotionally and such from a couple of years ago. Should I be blunt and just say that I'd like to get back together? Or maybe a little more subtlety is required? I thought about saying "well if that doesn't work out, I might happen to be available" to her. Any other thoughts or suggestions?
s_n_d Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 I think you should approach this situation subtlely. No woman..ok.. MOST women dont like it when men "pounce"(for lack of a better word) on them. So take it slow. But Definitely let her know how you feel for her before things get serious with this other guy shes met. Let me know how it goes..
flosslight Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 I'm the opposite. I think it is better to be direct. Maybe give her a sense that something is up by asking her to meet to talk about something serious. Then just tell her that you want to take her out on a date and start over. Then ask her how she feels about it. There are problems. The possibility for rejection is huge and also it might take you back to the way you felt when you two first broke up. Would you still be friends if she had no interest in you? It is also great that you two have grown, but have you two grown in a way that resolves the problems that you had when you broke up? Good luck!
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