Lucky555 Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 When i see him on the night of new years and he pursues me (like always) is it alright to ask him what he wants from me? I don't want to ruin NEW YEARS either. I am in a pickle What do i do about hanging out with a guy who has feelings for me and i do for him but he does not want a relationship? I know that he will want to kiss me on new years....i also would want to kiss him but in the back of my mind he doesn't want a relationship and i don't want to be hurt. HISTORY. We have history he basically was dating me for 2 months and when i asked him what he wanted, he didn't want a relationship. So i waited till the end of third month and found out he was talking to ex regularly. so there goes his emotions to her. he and i Never slept together. I tried to talk to him and stayed away from him but he basically stopped talking to me. Ok i thought he had issues and left him alone for 5 months no contact. then he returned into my life and i believe in second chances so here i am. However, this started in october and now its almost 2008. We are not dating. So this is why i don't think i should kiss him ect. we kissed about a month ago and even after that he still didn't request dates and didnt mention anything, he continued acting casual. I know i said i would dump him awhile ago but due to being in a circle of friends i have to see him and hes been nice to me. The above questions i do need answers or guidelines on how to approach this like i said don't want to ruin new years but i do want to have some dignity for myself as in not being used.
Racquel Colette Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 Don't sleep with him. Kissing someone is not really using them. I don't understand your question, if you don't want to see him (as he clearly is not that into you because he doesn't even want to date you), then just don't kiss him. Don't be so sure he'll even try, maybe he'll bring a date or pursue some other woman so you'll be off the hook. if he hasn't been asking you out on dates, he isn't into you so you really don't have anything to worry your little head about.
Author Lucky555 Posted December 26, 2007 Author Posted December 26, 2007 well he told my brother that he does like me, but he won't bring a date i know this for sure since hes mostly going with my brother and i. I also know he will pursue me or at least try....I know i can stay away from him or i can ask him if he tries?
Jilly Bean Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 Hon, I'm a little confused here, or maybe I am not understanding your full history. You said you dated a while ago, and he said he didn't want a relationship, and then he took up with his ex. Then you didn't talk for 5 months, then started talking again 3 months ago, and he has yet to ask you out on a date, and responds casually around you. Correct? I guess then your question is what to do if he tries to kiss you on NYE? And you would be tempted because you do like him, right? I get the feeling he likes you just fine as a friend, but nothing more than that, and that you still have stronger feelings for him. In which case, I strongly advise you to be FAR away from him at midnight. Find another cutie pie at the party to kiss!
Author Lucky555 Posted December 26, 2007 Author Posted December 26, 2007 we have been going out and dancing every two weeks in a social setting and he is clearly interested in me but not asking for anything more than this. Maybe he likes hanging out with me but doesn't see anything with me? Maybe i do like him more than he likes me i don't know. he gets jealous of other guys..he also pursues me while we are out. But as u mention hes not dating me and there is no attachment there. Yeah good idea to find someone else. I can have a good time with someone else instead. I can casually hang out with him and friends. Thanks for the help everyone! Feelings get in the way of my thinking. I will also erase all contact from him such as my aim so he cannot contact me. Either he can email or call me if he choses to do so which i doubt it. This way i don't talk to him and he can't know what i am doing. He knows i am always online and such just because of friends ect. He knows that when he never sees me on i am avoiding him. With this notion i hope he gets that and leaves me alone since he can't not meet the par. FWB is not my cup of tea.
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